I can't stand to see your face anymore???

LegacyUser

My gf said this to me last night. I was fairly shell shocked, i thought she was just in a bad mood but she slept in the spare room and hasn't spoken to me at all today. For the record we've been together 6 yrs and have a 2 yr old. We're both working although she earns a bit less than me now.

She gets a bit moany about things and has a bit of a temperment, we have a fairly passionate relationship but i thought everything was fine. Stuff like this has happened before but not as bad, she's always gotten over it and life cntinued as normal. But i really don't know how to take this

slowmoe

Tbh op, i think all the times your gf was 'moaning' at you, were actually genuine attempts to tell you that she's not feeling happy. Given that you described it as moaning i doubt you listened to her and now its probably at the stage where she's given up. I think you've confused passion and temperment for frustration. Thats how it sounds to me.

If you do love her (you haven't said how you feel towards her) i suggest you sit her down and ask her to talk about what she's going through, LISTEN and see if you both can work around it. Whatever you tell her you will do, keep to it.

It sounds like she's definitely considering walking so be honest with her about what you are thinking and what you're willing to put into the relationship, this may be your last chance

mood

OP I don't understand why you included that she earns less than you now! Is money an issue?

I agree with the above poster.

greenprincess

Ya that was one of the things I noticed from your post, are you annoyed or concerned that she earns a little less then you?
Are things 'grand' because your needs are being meet, but do you do anything for her?

smileyscientist

Hi OP, agree with all teh above posters... This has been brewing for a while -hence her moaning- and her frustatrions I would reckon were not met and it blew its top last nite..

What you need to do now if you are to have any chance at salvaging a 6 year relationship is to be the bigger person, sit her down and get to the bottom of what seems to be a very serious issue between the two of ye, calmy and maturely. Hopefully when ye talk it out and make a conscious effort to change what ever is at the root of all this, ye bot will be even stronger in the aftermath.

Best of luck OP:)

ElleEm

I think saying something like that comes from an angry place. Had you been arguing before this? It is unlikely it came from nowhere. It is pretty harsh and I can see why you were shocked, but as other posters said, if she "moans" there is obviously something in the relationship she is not happy with.

Also, the piece you wrote about her earning less money than you seemed really out of place and irrelevant to your post. Does it bother you? Why did you feel the need to mention it?

Distorted

trouble in paradise wrote: »

We're both working although she earns a bit less than me now.

Unusual thing to say. Why mention this specifically?

bridal

I wonder if she is serious, has she ever indicated that she has intentions of leaving you. it is a fairly harsh statement to make , the fact that she slept in the spare room does not worry me as we all do that when we are mad. Sit her down and find out where you stand for yours and your childs sake

slowmoe

greenprincess wrote: »

Ya that was one of the things I noticed from your post, are you annoyed or concerned that she earns a little less then you?
Are things 'grand' because your needs are being meet, but do you do anything for her?

I would guess that the op mentioned the difference in wages because he feels he is providing for his gf by bringing more euros into the home than she. If i'm right on this (i might not be!) I imagine the op has a far more traditional view of a relationship than his gf. He probably feels he's passed some sort of finish line by moving her in and having a baby and therefore neglected her feelings and emotional needs