One for the boys??

LegacyUser

Im married 3 years now and my husband seems totally disinterested in sex for over the past year - the last time we had fun in the bedroom was 6 months ago and that was after about a 6 month drought....I cant seem to talk to him about it and am sorry to say that I'm now too embarrassed to bring the topic up. (which makes me worried as I shouldn't feel this way about talking to my hubbie)
Before we were married we had no problems in the bedroom department.......am beginning to regret the whole marriage thing........

IrishEyes19

starsinthesky wrote: »

Im married 3 years now and my husband seems totally disinterested in sex for over the past year - the last time we had fun in the bedroom was 6 months ago and that was after about a 6 month drought....I cant seem to talk to him about it and am sorry to say that I'm now too embarrassed to bring the topic up. (which makes me worried as I shouldn't feel this way about talking to my hubbie)
Before we were married we had no problems in the bedroom department.......am beginning to regret the whole marriage thing........

I can see your fustration and the awkwardness you feel to bring it up,OP, but you know deep down its the only way. I think for your piece of mind and happiness, just ask him.

Fentdog84

starsinthesky wrote: »

Im married 3 years now and my husband seems totally disinterested in sex for over the past year - the last time we had fun in the bedroom was 6 months ago and that was after about a 6 month drought....I cant seem to talk to him about it and am sorry to say that I'm now too embarrassed to bring the topic up. (which makes me worried as I shouldn't feel this way about talking to my hubbie)
Before we were married we had no problems in the bedroom department.......am beginning to regret the whole marriage thing........

Maybe he is depressed/about something. Could he be having an affair? Sexuality? Its not normal for young guys to go off sex like that he must be relieving his urges someway, porn perhaps? You need to find out, no point tip toing around it.

Zen65

starsinthesky wrote: »

Im married 3 years now and my husband seems totally disinterested in sex for over the past year - the last time we had fun in the bedroom was 6 months ago and that was after about a 6 month drought....I cant seem to talk to him about it and am sorry to say that I'm now too embarrassed to bring the topic up.

Have you tried initiating sex, or do you wait for him to make a move?

He may have issues at work which are affecting his libido, or he may have developed the idea that you are happy without sex and so be unwilling to initiate.

As others have said..... this would all be easier to deal with if you could talk to him about it.

Be at peace,

Z

peekyboo

Fentdog84 wrote: »

Maybe he is depressed/about something. Could he be having an affair? Sexuality? Its not normal for young guys to go off sex like that he must be relieving his urges someway, porn perhaps? You need to find out, no point tip toing around it.

Actually, men going off sex or having low libidos is waaaay more common than you'd think and not necessarily because of having an affair or anything sinister. It's a common misconception...usually portrayed through the media...that all men have high sex drives and are horny devils. However, if this behaviour is out of sync with how he usually is then definitely talk to him OP. If these things are not nipped in the bud as soon as they start happening then they will snowball and become a much bigger problem.

Good luck

HugoDrax

You tell him that he either cops himself on or you are walking.

Mallei

You have a right to a satisfying sex life. Talk to him. If, after you've expressed your concerns, he still does nothing to resolve the issue then leave. God knows he would if the situation was reversed.