i don't like people

whiteonion

I don't like anyone, I just like to be by myself. I only go out to nightclubs to find cheap girls to sleep with.

Is this normal?

Fentdog84

I'm not really a people orientated person either. Maybe thats why I'm always on here! Not everyone is the same, not everyone is the happy clappy team player life & soul type. You just play the cards you are given. But at the end of the day you wont get far in life if you dont know how to deal with people, so its a skill you need to learn if you dont got it naturally. Ask yourself why you feel this way, bad experiences, miserable/unloving childhood perhaps? As for the cheap women, well they are not going to make you happy long term are they. You dont know what you could catch somenight of one of them, or they might just be out to rob your DVD player etc. Not trying to be funny.

holystungun9

It's perfectly fine if you don't interact much, some people do get it twisted and think that it makes you a flawed human being or there is a problem but that's crap really. I get on with people and am friendly etc but tbh I'm not interested in going through the motions of just talking crap as my life slides away. I have sht that I want to get on with. Sorry if so many people can't stand on their own two feet and pursue their interests. They just want to prop each other up with stupid talk as their life slips by. Go to the pub and talk crap, go on facebook and talk crap, all those things. Listen, once you're happy with your life and whatever level of human interaction you have, well, everybody else can do it their own way. For clarity, when I say don't worry about interaction too much, there are some guidelines of course. Don't be rude or disrespectful to people or step on anybody. You are not better than anybody else, but you don't have to entertain all the hot air that fills the world at every given moment. Also, I have to say that using the term 'cheap girls' is really shtty, not nice at all.

Witchie

Is that you Mo? We talked bout this. You dont have to be a people person to get on with people. I listened to you for last few hours with pleasure coz your my mate. x

cafecolour

Honestly, I feel if you really didn't want any social interaction/didn't want to waste your time 'chatting' with people, well, then you wouldn't be on boards. This is certainly social interaction, just through a different medium.

That doesn't mean you would enjoy everyone, but there might be some people you would enjoy interacting with.

However, the advantage of something like boards is you only have to deal with it when you want to. Here, you can react when you are engaged/interested, and then go to something else that interests you. With people, obviously, if the conversation stops interesting you, you can't just suddenly walk away or say 'stop talking, new subject.' So perhaps you have a short attention span, and when your attention wanes, you are just irritated that you are stuck with people who are wasting your time.

I don't like people either. It's not that uncommon. With the age we're living in, everyone has a least a small sense of misanthropy. Some people have a strong sense of it. No matter what circle of friends you're with, there's bound to be at least one Facebook dependent "let's spend our night out taking pics of each other pretending to have a crazy time", there's assholes who waffle on about stuff they've no idea about because they read some hoky pop science book or read a newspaper, trying to make people feel small, there's over excitable people who just have to scream about every single little thing that happens to them. There's a thousand different characters you can come across in this world and 80% of them annoy the hell out of me. The other 20% aren't perfect either, but you can look past the things that annoy you about them because they make up for it in other ways.

BUT, you've got to try to maintain at least one group of friends. Not necessarily because you like them, but because you need them. People are good for your health, mentally but also to a small extent physiologically. And one day you might really regret not having anyone around. It's better to put the effort into keeping a bunch of friends that you don't like at the moment, than risk ending up wanting friends and not being able to get any.

And lastly, like I said it's not uncommon to hate people, and it's ok that you don't like anyone. That said, going to nightclubs and picking up "cheap girls" isn't a very clever thing to do. While it probably isn't very good for your emotional health, or theirs, you'll probably end up either getting an STD or a baby out of it. If you can't manage to like people what on earth are you going to do with a kid? I know it sounds like it's not gonna happen but it does. Also stop calling girls cheap.

whiteonion

Most girls I pick up in nightclubs never even get to know my name... If they still sleep with me after that fact they should be considered cheap no?

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whiteonion wrote: »

Most girls I pick up in nightclubs never even get to know my name... If they still sleep with me after that fact they should be considered cheap no?

Op i'm afraid i don't have much sympathy for you.
Yes it's normal to prefer your own company, I certainly do most of the time.

But i think it depends on your reasons for "not liking people", the fact you call these women cheap is a bit worrying tbh.

I'm slightly confused as to if it's that you don't like people or you don't like women?

If you "don't like people" that's fine, a lot of people don't. But if you don't like them because you view them with contempt and somehow feel superior to them, then you have problems.

These women aren't cheap. So what, they have the odd ONS. You however actively go looking for multiple ONS's on a regular basis, so OP if you consider them cheap then what does that make you?

Don't for one second think you are any better than these women when you are doing the exact same thing they are.

Ickle Magoo

whiteonion wrote: »

Most girls I pick up in nightclubs never even get to know my name... If they still sleep with me after that fact they should be considered cheap no?

This is not a personal issue, in fact it's closer to trolling than requesting advice.

This is your one and only warning whiteonion. Read the forum rules - specifically the bit about zero tolerance for muppetry and abide by them or you risk getting banned from this forum.