me and my bestfriend

LegacyUser

So, I'm in first year of college, BUT, dropped out not long ago. I'm a lad, and probably my best friend that I have met since I started is a girl that lives nearby in the same block of appartments.

I'v always kind of liked her but latley the feeling has gotten a lot stronger, and apparently she feels the same. EVERYONE, says were ment to be together, and those who don't know that were not are surprised when they find out that we are not.

So last week when we were all out I was very drunk, and tried to kiss her, but she backed away, which I was upset by, I ended up leaving the nightclub and going home.

Afterwords everyone came back to ours and the craic was ninety. Except between us two. We barely spoke. One person in our group of friends told me that she told her that she really likes me, but is afraid of it ruining our relationship, and she is too afraid to try anything. Later on, I was lying in bed asleep, she came in and said she was locked out of her own house (which I later found out she wasn't), and hopped into bed beside me. We chatted for a while as if anything ever happened..

Then, I asked her; 'have you spoke to naoimh?' (the one that told me how this one feels about me, and told her how I feel (on that night)), and she said yes, with a smile on her face. At this stage, I tried to kiss her, but she stopped me and said something about us being too close as friends and the distance between us.

Her phone is broke, so I can't text her, I'm thinking about sending her a mail on facebook, telling her how I feel for myself. I really want to take the chance and maby something will happen, but I'm terrafied that it could end us as friends, if i havent already done that.

Fentdog84

I dont know if theres much more you can do. Well she knows how you feel so the ball is in her court. Ask her to go to the cinema or a walk with you but dont force the issue, just play it cool. She might just be nervous. If it dosent happen soon you need to move on pretty quickly otherwise you will only get bogged down by waiting for her.

LegacyUser

Forgot to mention, if it makes much of a difference, but when she came into my bed, she was there to make a move and tell me how she felt, but chickend out.

HugoDrax

She's wrecking your head so if she only wants to be friends and you want a relationship then tell her you have enough friends, sorry sweetheart, and just hang her out to dry. Deliberately avoid her and ignore her for a while and when she starts missing you she'll see how silly she's been and come crawling back begging you to be with her. If she doesn't come chasing you then forget about her and find another girl.
You know what you want and she doesn't know what she is passing up so let her know what she is missing by making her miss you. If she doesn't miss you then good luck, adios, no regrets.

Count Duckula

Is she messing with his head? Sounds to me like she just wants to stay friends with him. Nothing cruel about that - she's been very honest to the OP, and he just needs to decide whether he can remain friends with a girl he obviously likes a lot.

This woman has never said to him that she likes him in that way, and hearing it through second or third sources does not make her a tease or a head-wrecker.

LegacyUser

Her phone is broken? Have you seen that with your own eyes op? Because to me it sounds like she is leading you on OP. I say that as a much older woman. She knows how you feel but despite plenty of perfect opportunities hasn't bothered to kiss you. IF she really fancied you she would kiss you. Sorry but 'not wanting to ruin a friendship' wouldn't stand in the way. I really feel she is teasing you. As for 'everyone' thinking you should be together, I wouldn't put any faith in that. You've told the girl how you feel. She's knocked you back with a rubbish excuse. Don't let her string you along any further. I'm sorry. Sounds painful.

steddyeddy

Count Duckula wrote: »

Is she messing with his head? Sounds to me like she just wants to stay friends with him. Nothing cruel about that - she's been very honest to the OP, and he just needs to decide whether he can remain friends with a girl he obviously likes a lot.

This woman has never said to him that she likes him in that way, and hearing it through second or third sources does not make her a tease or a head-wrecker.

How is a woman who tells her friends that she likes a guy, tell the guy she doesnt like him and then climb in to bed with him no a headwrecker?

steddyeddy

yeh right wrote: »

Her phone is broken? Have you seen that with your own eyes op? Because to me it sounds like she is leading you on OP. I say that as a much older woman. She knows how you feel but despite plenty of perfect opportunities hasn't bothered to kiss you. IF she really fancied you she would kiss you. Sorry but 'not wanting to ruin a friendship' wouldn't stand in the way. I really feel she is teasing you. As for 'everyone' thinking you should be together, I wouldn't put any faith in that. You've told the girl how you feel. She's knocked you back with a rubbish excuse. Don't let her string you along any further. I'm sorry. Sounds painful.

I agree with this person op I could have wrote your post when I was younger. Shes not a stupid person but she sounds like she loves the attention. she says she chickened out out of making a move but wasnt to shy to get into bed with you. Op years ago I fell in love with a friend who knew I liked her yet didnt feel the same. This didnt stop her teasing me and giving me false hope. Some people girls and women just get a thrill out of people fancying them and fewer still are selfish and immature enough to play on this. Move on op you can do so much better than this girl. Mutual attraction isnt as complicated as this.

LegacyUser

yeh right wrote: »

Her phone is broken? Have you seen that with your own eyes op? Because to me it sounds like she is leading you on OP. I say that as a much older woman. She knows how you feel but despite plenty of perfect opportunities hasn't bothered to kiss you. IF she really fancied you she would kiss you. Sorry but 'not wanting to ruin a friendship' wouldn't stand in the way. I really feel she is teasing you. As for 'everyone' thinking you should be together, I wouldn't put any faith in that. You've told the girl how you feel. She's knocked you back with a rubbish excuse. Don't let her string you along any further. I'm sorry. Sounds painful.

yeah right? it is broken, i know for a fact, and HAVE seen it

starry_bright

I think that the girl is just a bit scared to be honest (I have been like this in a certain situation), because the two of you were such good friends to begin with but I do think she likes you. I dont think she is teasing you or leading you on. Just see how it goes, dont pressure her too much because this is probably a huge deal for her too (as it is obviously for you aswell). Hope it works out for you