Casual Sex/No-Strings hook ups

TrustedApple

So heres a big Q for the C and H forum

So guys what do you think of people going of with random people on nights out and have you done it before ?

Jamie Starr

Is "rando" some slang variation I haven't heard before used to describe these activities?

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

I shift loadsa random women coz Im a right fella.

jumpguy

evry nite boi i do it lyk bt u hv 2 b careful cuz itz ez 2 mess it up lyk yano?

But seriously, no I don't, but I have girlfriend too soooo... I don't see anything that wrong with it either tbh, as long as it's consensual and both people are old enough to make their own choices then so be it.

Insect Overlord

The original sex discussion thread was way cooler.

Davidius

I'd be wary of casual sex because of them STDs, yep. I wouldn't tend toward that kind of activity though that's not to say I would refuse it in all cases. She'd have to be exceptionally hot though.

What other people do with themselves is their own business and I don't have much of a reason to care.

KnifeWRENCH

Meh. Each to their own. So long as you use have sex safely and you're not cheating while in a serious relationship, you can screw whoever you want tbh.

Have never done it (got off with a random person, I mean); probably would have when I was younger if the opportunity came up but nowadays the whole "one night stand" thing doesn't really appeal to me.

Insect Overlord

Serious answer:

Three long-term relationships (and one short one that ended amicably) over the last 5 years. Never had the inclination to look for anything casual, to be honest!

Grindylow

Should say SHIFTING RANDOMERS FOR THE BANTZ.


Plz change title..

PS Clean Teens forever

Slow Show

Can't beat a bita shiftin' and driftin' tbh.

Pigwidgeon

Mod Note:

I'm going to be keeping a very close eye on this thread. As long as the responses are mature then it'll stay open, but if it becomes trollish and inappropriate, infractions will be issued and the thread locked.

flyswatter

Ah yeah, I've noticed so many college women (and men) are single for a reason, it's a big world out there and they want to enjoy themselves while they can.

I actually don't know a whole lot who are in relationships.

A friend of mine had a girlfriend and was pissed off when she decided to move to the same college as him. He's single at the moment.

To be honest, I'm pretty pissed off with myself now cos I told a girl how I feel about her and she has a boyfriend. I made it clear that I didn't want to piss him off and that we can still be friends. I've been working very hard at college recently and partying a bit. Mind has been racing with plans and ideas about music and stuff now that I'm off the meds. Haven't been getting enough sleep for a few weeks. I just crashed with the lack of sleep so it's affected me.

She just wants to be my friend and since when I said that she ignored me when I phoned her asking her to go to the pub with friends.

There are certain girls who you don't mess around with, the loyal ones.

Feck, pretty awkward situation.

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

Is it just me and my circle of friends or does anyone else find that the prevalence of casual sex in college is completely exaggerated?

flyswatter

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

Is it just me and my circle of friends or does anyone else find that the prevalence of casual sex in college is completely exaggerated?

No, definitely not. But the best place to do that sort of thing is in a nightclub.

bmarley

Respect yourself cos always beware of those that are just using you.

amacachi

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

Is it just me and my circle of friends or does anyone else find that the prevalence of casual sex in college is completely exaggerated?

I don't think the amount of it is exaggerated but the numbers involved most likely is.

Ginja Ninja

MOD NOTE:I like the idea of addressing this issue,but keep it clean folks.Title changed

I was out last night and my girlfriend stayed at home,she has an exam at 10am today.Myself and two other guys were the only ones in a serious relationship and we all joked about how we somewhat missed being single,the opportunities last night were crazy.
Now don't get me wrong,I'm crazy about my GF and am a relationship kind of guy.I'd never go out with the sole intention of getting lucky but if someone approached me it wouldn't be an auto no.
TBH,it's all a bit of fun and to steal a tag line-"No matter who you like,love safe sex" as long as it's fun and safe then off with them.
Not to make anyone feel bad but it's just scratching an itch,doesn't compare to a happy,serious relationship IMO

Seren_

I think it's grand. Once you're sensible and use protection of course. Why should people care what consenting adults get up to? On the other hand, me and my friends had a discussion about this a little while ago and they generally were of the opinion that having casual sex means you're a slut and will never find a man.

Pygmalion

samapple789 wrote: »

So guys what do you think of people going of with random people on nights out and have you done it before ?

PM sent

Aisling(",)

In theory I don't see any issue with it.It's just physical and a natural thing etc.

but I know I wouldn't like it really but I've a long term boyfriend so its not an issue for me.
Saying that I do have some friends who seem to be constantly doing different guys.

Namlub

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

Is it just me and my circle of friends or does anyone else find that the prevalence of casual sex in college is completely exaggerated?

You mean it's not going to be a giant sex party?!


Anyway, stable relationships are for horses, brap brap...

flyswatter

Namlub wrote: »

You mean it's not going to be a giant sex party?!


Anyway, stable relationships are for horses, brap brap...

Look at Maynooth and the Dublin nightclubs.

They have themed nights with something like "Want the ride tonight? Come to this nightclub then"!

Screaminmidget

Copperfacedjacks ftw......

illiop

To be blatantly honest I've never had non-casual sex (the longest I've been with the same person is 4 weeks). But my honest opinion: I'm honestly not sure.

If I could choose between casual sex and meaningful sex I would pick meaningful any day but I despise this high-and-mighty-"why would you have casual sex when you could be in a loving relationship?" attitude that so many people take.
I've always wanted a relationship but life doesn't always give you the things you want so I'll take casual sex over no sex.

Although, if I'm totally honest I don't believe in proper "no strings attached" sex. Even if you never see them again it still does something to you, affects you, changes you (imho).
But if both are happy and safe then it's their life and nobody has the right to judge (well, actually they kinda do but they don't have the right to be cúnts about it).

Seren_

flyswatter wrote: »

Look at Maynooth and the Dublin nightclubs.

They have themed nights with something like "Want the ride tonight? Come to this nightclub then"!

Haha yep Maynooth's had loads of them recently "Come to The Roost for the Ride" and so on :pac:

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

Your Text Here wrote: »

Haha yep Maynooth's had loads of them recently "Come to The Roost for the Ride" and so on :pac:

I hate those silly names for particular nights in clubs. Like 'Messy Mondays' and stuff like that. I doubt the organisers of 'Messy Mondays' would let me start fights and get sick on the dancefloor. In fact I doubt they like any of the behaviour I would regard as 'messy'.

Screaminmidget

Can't believe no one has mentioned the no sex before marriage thing..

jefreywithonef

Screaminmidget wrote: »

Can't believe no one has mentioned the no sex before marriage thing..

Yeah the forum's large bible bashing element have been abnormally quiet...

Lawliet

Screaminmidget wrote: »

Can't believe no one has mentioned the no sex before marriage thing..

jefreywithonef wrote: »

Yeah the forum's large bible bashing element have been abnormally quiet...

I didn't think that was too popular in Ireland, more of an American thing?

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

My proudest moment of trolling was finding this page.... http://www.facebook.com/pages/Saving-Your-First-Kiss-for-Marriage/116566781709167

Screaminmidget

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

My proudest moment of trolling was finding this page.... http://www.facebook.com/pages/Saving-Your-First-Kiss-for-Marriage/116566781709167

I raise you:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/No-sex-before-marriage-Do-YOU-buy-a-car-without-a-test-drive-/124126120947630

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

But the one I found is serious... And I destroyed it for about 3 weeks by unleashing a wave of Irish trolls :P

johnn

<Snip>

Namlub

Screaminmidget wrote: »

I raise you:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/No-sex-before-marriage-Do-YOU-buy-a-car-without-a-test-drive-/124126120947630

The winky face makes everything unfunny

And about the sex before marriage thing, I didn't think people really did that either but a girl in my year has turned into a massive Jesus person and she and her boyfriend (who she met at mass) now have promise rings. Like the Jonas brothers...

KnifeWRENCH

Screaminmidget wrote: »

I raise you:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/No-sex-before-marriage-Do-YOU-buy-a-car-without-a-test-drive-/124126120947630

*likes*

johnn wrote: »

<Snip>

:eek: Surely not. A classy gent like yourself would never go for a lady of ill repute...

Grindylow

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

My proudest moment of trolling was finding this page.... http://www.facebook.com/pages/Saving-Your-First-Kiss-for-Marriage/116566781709167

DUFFFFFFFY!

You stole credit for my page >_>

I found that one, tut! Remember cos me you and Deise were discussing it (I think..) and then we wrote on it bahaaaaa (I think?)

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

Noel2k9 wrote: »

DUFFFFFFFY!

You stole credit for my page >_>

I found that one, tut! Remember cos me you and Deise were discussing it (I think..) and then we wrote on it bahaaaaa (I think?)

No you found the other one that wasn't as cool

Grindylow

Duffy the Vampire Slayer wrote: »

No you found the other one that wasn't as cool

really? There's another? :pac:

jefreywithonef

Lawliet wrote: »

I didn't think that was too popular in Ireland, more of an American thing?

I wasn't being particularly serious with my reply to be honest.

yer man!

Is it more common for people who have never been in a serious relationship to randomly hook up with someone? kinda getting the vibe that once someone has had meaningful sex then they completely go off the idea of a one night stand.... Just wondering....

degausserxo

Once you're not being a dzope about it and are safe, and nobody's getting hurt because of it, go for it. Not that big a deal tbh.

flyswatter

Screaminmidget wrote: »

I raise you:
http://www.facebook.com/pages/No-sex-before-marriage-Do-YOU-buy-a-car-without-a-test-drive-/124126120947630

My first Facebook troll.

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Saving-Your-First-Kiss-for-Marriage/116566781709167

Duffy the Vampire Slayer

What did you say? I think they've deleted it.

Grindylow

You make me feel like I'm losing my virginity
The first time, every time when you're touching me
I make you bloom like a flower that you never seen
Under the sun we are one buzzing energy

Let's pollinate to create a family tree
This evolution with you comes naturally
Some call it science, we call it chemistry
This is the story of the birds and the bees

Ra ra ra KATY PERRY ra ra ra ra

QueenOfLeon

The comments on that "saving your first kiss" facebook page are just too funny. And irritating. I'd probably die from frustration if I got into a conversation there.

Jackobyte

QueenOfLeon wrote: »

The comments on that "saving your first kiss" facebook page are just too funny. And irritating. I'd probably die from frustration if I got into a conversation there.

I'm young (only 14) but I've decided to save my whole self (kisses included) until I'm married. Everyone at school says I'm too young to make a life changing decision like that, but I'm going to stand firm in what I believe in, and that's saving my whole self. I know it will be a challenge, especially in this world of temptations, so I ask that you please pray for me and for the Lord to give me strength!

Lolwut?

randylonghorn

Your Text Here wrote: »

Haha yep Maynooth's had loads of them recently "Come to The Roost for the Ride" and so on :pac:

It's pub / club's idea of good advertising ... especially the Roost / Mantrap as far as Maynooth goes.

Mind you, take a gang of lads who haven't (as Ginja put it ) scratched their itch in a while, put a couple of pints in them, and the advertising is probably fairly spot on target! >_>

Probably the girls too for that matter, but I wouldn't presume to speak for them! :pac:

yer man! wrote: »

Is it more common for people who have never been in a serious relationship to randomly hook up with someone? kinda getting the vibe that once someone has had meaningful sex then they completely go off the idea of a one night stand.... Just wondering....

I don't think "completely" is accurate at all, for most people anyway, but there is an element of once you've tasted real coffee, instant never seems as satisfying ... it might do the job when you need a fix, but you know it could be a lot better.