looking for a long term boyfriend-where do i find this in ireland?

letsallgotothe

I guess i kinda made a ton of mistakes. I should have slept around more when i was in a certain group. I should have made more of a effort to get to know the bitchy types in college society. I should have given gaydar a real 'chance'. And dont get me started on the scene.

Is there anyway to meet a guy circa 20-25 for a actual decent relationship( something proper and long term) and not like the flingy nature that goes on lot?

meh at this stage of the game any suggestion will be taken up:pac:

castrolracing

I dont hold out too much hope, Im looking for the same as you, its not easy...

prickleberry

letsallgotothe wrote: »

I guess i kinda made a ton of mistakes. I should have slept around more when i was in a certain group. I should have made more of a effort to get to know the bitchy types in college society. I should have given gaydar a real 'chance'. And dont get me started on the scene.

So are you saying you should have been more of a whore.....or....? and why would you want to get to know the bitchy types? I can't really say how to get a boyfriend but I can tell you that by being a whore or going after the wrong type (unless you like the bitchy thing that is) is not a fantastic way to get a long term loving relationship.

Most of the people on gaydar are in you're age range so why not give that a go? I know it can be a little tiring sifting through all the ppl who only seem to want sex but it's worth a shot.

Try going to a gay bar once in a while with some friends, maybe go without the intention of meeting anyone and maybe it will happen. Nothing worse than desperation (well there is, but ya know):p

It will happen eventually, I know it's very disheartening, sure i'm younger than you but in the same situation more or less. You'd be very surprised how much attn you do get when you stop looking for it.

Barna77

letsallgotothe wrote: »

I should have given gaydar a real 'chance'

Fail.

:pac:

azezil

It's very much a case of you get back what you put out there. If you come across slutty or sometimes even flirty / sugestive you're only going to meet people who want sex.

Find something you enjoy doing, a hobby or past time then look for a gay group who do that, find someone with a similar interest... other than sex ;P and you'll be happily shacked up in no time at all ^_^

anotherlostie

And if you come across as unfriendly, arrogant even, then you are going to attract even less of them (although it does turn on the odd one).

Conor30

In my experience, it's hard to find any Irish guy who is looking for a relationship.

AndrewJD

I'd point out that the Irish are not alone in this problem. Unless you live in a big gay friendly city (think SF or Brighton) in most countries you'll have similar problems locating men looking for long term relationships. It's not that they're not out there in large numbers, it's just quite difficult to find gay guys/gals who aren't in the club looking for a one night stand.