Meeting 'the one', someone... anyone!

LegacyUser

I'm going unreg for this because I'm pretty sure my ex is on here somewhere.

I was going out with a girl from college about 2 years back and we had a bit of a thing going for a while. She ended things for a particular reason that shall remain unsaid as it would be a give away if she happened to read this. Anyway, since then we've hooked up on a few occasions when we were out with mutual friends etc and every time it happens she wants to get back together. I've moved on and she knew when we hooked up that I wasn't interested in getting back together.

The thing is I have been single since we broke up and long to be in a relationship again. Through our mutual friends myself and the ex always end up camping together at music festivals. We have always been on good terms but I have no desire to get back into a relationship with her. However, I know that if I'm still single when we camp together again this year I will be tempted to go back to her because I'm struggling to meet new girls.

I am an athletic and good looking guy, if I may say so myself, but struggle to meet any girls that interest me. I rarely meet anyone of interest on nights out and when I do things never seem to really happen for me. I've been trying new things recently, took some night classes etc, but nobody of interest there either. I even joined a dating site recently and also struggle to find anyone there. The few I have found never get back to me but I understand that women tend to get bombarded with messages on these sites. I've been in two relationships of any real significance, both of which were girls I met while in college. I traveled recently and had no problems meeting women on my travels as well but have had little luck since coming home.

I guess I'm looking for some general advice and suggestions for where or how I can meet someone new. Frankly I'm out of ideas.

solerina

Firstly stop hooking up with this other girl. 1 its not fair to her as she obviously has feelings for you and is hoping ye will get back together, this is probably stopping her moving on 2. Its making it look to everyone else as if you are with her. Now maybe people who know ye are aware that ye are not together but to new people it wont look this way and if they ask they will be told that ye keep hooking up and this will keep them away. It very much depends on what age you are with regard to meeting new people but I will give you the standard reply, Join a new club or take up a new hobby...something that gives you time to chat to and get to know new people.

Vicxas

Mate dont do it out of desperation, thats just wrong.

Misty Chaos

Don't rush and don't get desperate, these things can take time... sometimes a VERY long time to happen but eventually, things will fall into place.

That being said, its not going to land in your lap either, you need to take the initative and make the most of what you've got. Don't join anything expecting a magic bullet, thats not how life works but still join for fun and expand your network, thats how these things happen.

Also, forget about hooking with someone on a night out, it just doesn't work usually.

borabora

You go to festivals, they are a great way to meet like-minded people of the opposite sex. We're coming into the summer when there are loads on. Go to as many as you can focus on meeting new people- boys and girls. Expand your social circle as much as you can and you'll meet someone eventually. I know Electric Picnic has a speed dating event also!