Relationship problems and Facebook

ray ray :)

Ok so I started going out with my boyfriend just a few weeks ago, which means that I don't know him very well. I'd been seeing him for two months before this, so I really only know him a short while.

I've noticed on facebook that he's been adding loads of random girls that he wouldn't know from before. I didn't really read into this too much until yesterday, when a girl who he became friends with commented on his page saying, 'do i know you you keep poking me.'

He told me he cheated in previous relationships, but that he's learned his lesson but now I'm beginning to wonder! Our contact started through him mailing me on Facebook so I'm beginning to get suspicious! I really don't want to confront him about it incase I sound like a freak.

Opinions much appreciated

Mighty_Mouse

read your post again, whats the logical conclusion?

I am a friend

This is his modus operandi .... Looks like he is keeping his options open so tread carefully op and don't get too emotionally involved. Just treat him as a bit of fun...

DOBBER112

ray ray wrote: »

Ok so I started going out with my boyfriend just a few weeks ago, which means that I don't know him very well. I'd been seeing him for two months before this, so I really only know him a short while.

I've noticed on facebook that he's been adding loads of random girls that he wouldn't know from before. I didn't really read into this too much until yesterday, when a girl who he became friends with commented on his page saying, 'do i know you you keep poking me.'

He told me he cheated in previous relationships, but that he's learned his lesson but now I'm beginning to wonder! Our contact started through him mailing me on Facebook so I'm beginning to get suspicious! I really don't want to confront him about it incase I sound like a freak.

Opinions much appreciated

Easily spelled out really... P L A Y E R

STIG83

Get out of there OP.

I agree with the other posters, I'd run for the hills if I were you.

fghijkl

He told me he cheated in previous relationships

If you'd said relationship singular then maybe just maybe i'd give him the benefit of the doubt but relationships plural? AND he's doing all this adding randomers and poking them right in front of your face with no attempt at hiding it!

Sorry Op, but it really sounds like he's just keeping his options open to see if someone better takes the bait, he was probably doing the same thing when he met you tbh, it almost sounds like you replaced someone else and now he's looking for someone better to place you...

Dump him, At best he's being seriously disrespectful, you deserve better OP.

Azureus

RUN

gypsy_rose

OP, seriously, just walk away and get out of this before you get hurt, there's nothing worse than falling love with an ar**hole who doesn't respect you

Fluorescence

If you asked him outright, and he denied anything was going on, would you believe him? Bearing in mind everything you mentioned in your OP?

Sephiroth_dude

Confront him and ask what the hell is going on.

LegacyUser

ray ray wrote: »

Ok so I started going out with my boyfriend just a few weeks ago, which means that I don't know him very well. I'd been seeing him for two months before this, so I really only know him a short while.

I've noticed on facebook that he's been adding loads of random girls that he wouldn't know from before. I didn't really read into this too much until yesterday, when a girl who he became friends with commented on his page saying, 'do i know you you keep poking me.'

He told me he cheated in previous relationships, but that he's learned his lesson but now I'm beginning to wonder! Our contact started through him mailing me on Facebook so I'm beginning to get suspicious! I really don't want to confront him about it incase I sound like a freak.

Opinions much appreciated

So you met him on facebook (he messaged you) and you think it is strange that he is messaging other girls on facebook now?

You are "beginning to get suspicious"?

Wake up!

Whats surprising is that you are not sure of what he is doing. Of course he is sending messages and chatting up other girls on facebook. He will continue to do this. You need to decide if you can tolerate that. If you can't, LEAVE.

R0C

You need to drop him and start working on gaining a higher opinion of yourself!

Anyone who allows themselves to be put in this position needs more help than the player boyfriend does!

Don't you believe you are worth more than being with a guy who is adding/chatting with random girls/potential hook-ups on Facebook??

Forget relationships for a while.
Learn to love yourself.

thecookingapple

regardless of whether he is chasing other girls on fb or anywhere else, look at the facts: he is making you doubt, worry, jealous and this early into your relationship? this should be the time when you cant wait to learn new things about each other and the time when you are so nervous that you wouldnt sneeze in case it offended the other person, never mind add available girls, your one quote about your ''bf'' sums him up a girl asked did she know him as he keeps poking her, in other words your creepy, leave me alone.

you know the answer, you just dont want to believe it.

you are better than this, you just haventh realised it yet.

Good luck.

LC2010HIS

Hah is that my ex boyfriend?

Was in the exact situation you are. I only reached the 1-2 month mark cause i couldnt take this carry on :P

Trouble with a capital T!

Your wasting your time with this guy.
Hes spreading his pokes and options. Dump him and dont settle.
Take it from someone who experienced this recently. I am now much happier!