Knocked back by a guy :(

wealthyman

Oh this is not easy but I met a guy on an online dating site and we exchanged several pictures. At first he kept refering to be as 'nice looking' but he went quiet all of a sudden. So I demanded the truth and he told me I wasn't ugly but I wasn't his type.

Now I have always considered myself a handsome guy with a good figure (although that was not in question) and I get alot of guys chasing me and it's a rare occasion that I am rejected, but now after it happening it really isin't nice. I feel ugly actually and my confidence has being rocked by it. I am usually someone who prides myself of my looks but now have taken a big kick. I just don't want to face anyone now How can I try and regain my confidence?

Solair

I wouldn't take it too personally. Sometimes, you are just not someone's type. Attraction is a very subjective thing. One person's type is not necessarily someone else's. It's nothing to do with how you look in general.

BuffyBot

Pride comes before a fall, it's often said.

The world is full of people. People vary. People are random. People are peculiar. Not everyone will like each other. You just keep moving.

Adrianno28

hey dude ... thtas the way life is! Im no Mona liza and my 2 (iv only had 2!) boyfriends are way hotter than me! So im someones type! Youll be find ... some guy will love u and ull feel ok again!:cool:

Munkay

Your letting one person's opinion who you met online affect you this much? Seriously? Who cares about what one person thinks. Your obviously attractive (and even if you weren't, who cares) if you have have been chased before. Get over it?

baby and crumble

Everyone's different. I bet thee's celebs you find gorgeous that other people are a bit "eh?" about, and likewise, the ones that people go on about all the time might do nothing for you.

I for example have no idea why Scarlett Johanson is so revered. She's good looking, yeah, but I'd honestly pass her by on the street without a second glance.

really, don't let it bother you. if you're not his type, you're just not his type.

Doop

Know how you feel op!
Had arranged a date with a guy last weekend... he cancelled with what appered a valid reason... then blanked me after that... like seriously wtf? he had seen pleanty of pics of me (FB) before we arranged to meet up, and literally exchanged over 100 texts.

I dont get it some people are wierd... but I have to say I was kinda gutted! Duno if meeting people online makes some people think you dont have to treat them with the same respect you'd treat everyone else. Or maybe some people are just di*kheads!

Shouldnt of let myself build up hopes in the first place. Anyway onwards and upwards.... i guess.

AndrewJD

I think with electronic communication, it's easy to get swept up with a person. Turning up for a date requires a much higher level of courage than semi-anonymous communication. All I mean is I wouldn't say it's a reflection on you that someone you only talked to online bailed out on you

bitter_lemon

i think the whole thing is ridiculous!
get over it. if that is all you have to worry about :rolleyes:
i don't entertain people on the internet constantly with mails or pics. if you want to meet meet - whats with the build up? i have no time for this.

DubArk

wealthyman wrote: »

So I demanded the truth and he told me I wasn't ugly but I wasn't his type..................

................ How can I try and regain my confidence?

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…..”
Your lesson should be, why would ever care about what some ones opinion about you is, when you have never even met them?!
Build a bridge…….

azezil

DubArk wrote: »

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…..”
Your lesson should be, why would ever care about what some ones opinion about you is, when you have never even met them?!
Build a bridge…….

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye - Miss Piggy hehe.

cafecolour

Most people have a 'type'. It doesn't mean you are unattractive, just that they have different tastes.

For instance, if a guy only likes Asian guys, and you're white, you might be attractive, but not his 'type'.

I like to be the 'bigger' one when I'm dating a guy, so I like a guy that is shorter and/or thinner/less muscular than me. So plenty of guys that are really good-looking, have built muscles and a six-pack, aren't normally going to turn me on - because their frames are bigger than me with all the muscles.

At the same time, an average, dorky looking guy in poor shape with a bit of a belly could totally do it for me, since his frame is smaller than mine (and obviously if I'm attracted to other factors).

So you can't take type personally. Fundamentally, it's like a hot girl getting annoyed that you won't sleep with her, because your type is 'guys'

PARARORY

This might come across harsh but come on - Get over it.

You sound like someone who is used to getting what they want , as you said guys do chase you , and its rare that you get rejected so when someone doesn't want you you get upset?

t's a rare occasion that I am rejected, but now after it happening it really isin't nice.

Welcome to the real world

Also , its not all based on looks for lots of people , Maybe it was more your personality that wasn't his type?

Im also pretty sure that you have rejected people in the past. . . It happened one time and its like the end of the world to you..

Chin up and move on

LegacyUser

And try pick up a guy there, then you'll know its at least partly physical (unless you like to really show off your supposed wealth ) Even if your not his type, then you get a confidence-boosting one night stand but it could always mean you can get off the dating sites too! Its basically win-win unless you are one of those people who see a night wasted if they don't get at minimum the shift! Even then you can still drown your sorrows I guess...

Go have some fun and I'm sure you are a big ride anyways, that lad was obviously straight :P

Aard

To answer your only question, OP:

How to regain your confidence? Stop putting stock in how you look, but in how you act. You sound vain tbh, and like somebody already said, "Pride before a fall." For most people, personality is more important than looks anyway.