Faking It

LegacyUser

I've an awkward question - would a guy ever fake an orgasm? And if so why?
Im inexperienced and really worried that this may have happened.
He lasted ages and could he have got bored??

HugoDrax

Hi OP, every time a guy has an orgasm, semen shoots out of the tip of his erect penis. There's no way he can fake that.

CDfm

Sex is not just about hurrying to an orgasm and OP if he lasted ages maybe he liked what was happening.

Some guys can control it at almost there and go all over again.

LegacyUser

I know what should happen, sort of! I just didn't see that. He just stopped and withdrew and then after said he had finished. I didn'ts ee wet patch, we're not great for communication even though we've been together a few months and it was the first time we were intimate. I'm worried I wasn't attractive or experienced enough, he's older and very experienced.

Faith

It's possible if they're wearing a condom. They just dispose of it without you catching a glimpse, so you should never know.

Like CDfm says though, maybe he was having a great time. Many guys think that women want nothing more than a guy pounding away for 45 minutes. You should talk to him if you're really concerned, but I'd say you're probably just being paranoid.

CDfm

OP - age may not equate to experience and it takes a while to get into it with a partner.

The discovering what you like and what he likes is part of the fun.

Count Duckula

I'm a guy and I've faked an orgasm, so it's possible. When I lost my virginity things didn't really go as planned, everything kind of ended up hurting me because of various things (that are better now!) and after going at it for a little while I pretended I'd "finished". My girlfriend at the time completely bought it, and I've done it a few times since (though not with my current girlfriend; I've never needed to with her).

It's quite possible. Do you have much experience with guys who you know haven't faked? I think in my case I got away with it because the girl I was with was - like me - a virgin, so she had nothing really to compare me to and realise that I was faking it.

greengiant09

i've done it before. sometimes, i find it nearly impossible to cum when i'm drunk. i can be going at it for ages and i know that it's not going to happen. so to keep the girl happy, i would pretend i came.

it has nothing really to do with the girl in question. every guy wants to cum....but sometimes you just can't get yourself over the edge. i wouldn't worry about it.

krd

AnonymousGirl11111 wrote: »

I've an awkward question - would a guy ever fake an orgasm?

Happens all the time.

And if so why?

So he doesn't have to a discussion with his partner why he didn't.

Im inexperienced and really worried that this may have happened.
He lasted ages and could he have got bored??

Yes....He might have got bored.

Don't worry about it. You're inexperienced, so you're probably not that good at it. You'll get better with practice.

krd

Count Duckula wrote: »

I'm a guy and I've faked an orgasm, so it's possible. When I lost my virginity things didn't really go as planned, everything kind of ended up hurting me because of various things (that are better now!) and after going at it for a little while I pretended I'd "finished".

My girlfriend at the time completely bought it, and I've done it a few times since (though not with my current girlfriend; I've never needed to with her).

It's hard to come with practice girls. Look what can happen: Brian McFadden and Kerry Katona

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did you know Brian was a virgin before Kerry - she picked him up on a tour they were on together.

It's quite possible. Do you have much experience with guys who you know haven't faked? I think in my case I got away with it because the girl I was with was - like me - a virgin, so she had nothing really to compare me to and realise that I was faking it.

I don't think girls really pay that much attention.

Ickle Magoo

krd, enough of the insulting assumptions about the OP and off-topic meanderings about z-listers.

Please keep replies on topic and helpful to the OP and be aware that off-topic and unhelpful posting can earn you a ban from this forum.

If you haven’t already, take the time to read the forum rules in the charter and abide by them.

Many thanks.

Wompa1

I actually have a few times...but I think I'm a special case. I'm not sure why but when I was younger when having sex I rarely was able to orgasm. It led to having sex for hours with girlfriends and eventually them getting very self concious that it was due to them not being attractive enough. So I started to fake it, Just put my hand blocking the condom when I pulled it out....It was just easier than having them hating themselves

krd

AnonymousGirl11111 , you're worried about nothing. Men get tired and don't orgasm - everyone is different and the differences are mostly normal.

Nothing to do with your "skills" or attractiveness.

It's not an Olympic event or competition where you have to put in a performance - or worry did you get a bronze, silver or gold. It doesn't necessarily work like clock work either.

If you worry too much about these things you will have a problem.

Wompa1

krd wrote: »

It's not an Olympic event or competition where you have to put in a performance - or worry did you get a bronze, silver or gold. It doesn't necessarily work like clock work either.

That's a good point actually. If I think about from the women I've had sex with..performance wise only one actually bothered to even try and perform! (I'm sure in their heads they were). Funny enough that one was when I was a good bit younger and even though she was good looking she had a hang up about her looks. So maybe the addage of girls who think they are ugly being better in bed is true. They try harder to please the guy.

The other ones I was with left all the work up to me and it didn't bother me that much. I don't think it bothers most guys...I think most women are pretty lazy when it comes to sex. Generalization alert! But, women think making an effort is wearing lingerie..it's nice but making more of an effort in the act itself is better!

analbeads

Wompa1 wrote: »

That's a good point actually. If I think about from the women I've had sex with..performance wise only one actually bothered to even try and perform!

The other ones I was with left all the work up to me and it didn't bother me that much. I don't think it bothers most guys...I think most women are pretty lazy when it comes to sex. Generalization alert! But, women think making an effort is wearing lingerie..it's nice but making more of an effort in the act itself is better!

what do you actually mean by making an effort??

Silverfish

Can we keep this thread on-topic and helpful to the OP.

Crass generalisations are not helpful.

Thanks,

S