Dont really get along with my family

LegacyUser

i am generally a very shy and reserved person, i have a couple of close friends that i talk to a good bit and when im with them im good crac to hang out wit, but since i moved to college, started making new friends and moving out a bit from my old self, i really began to notice how little i have in conmen with all my family.

normally i would have never have notice this until i started bring people around to my house who always seem to comment on how quiet i go when in the company of my parents or how sometimes my siblings can come across as a bit weird acting, then on the other hand i go to their houses and i see how they all react with each other very differently

but over the past few months they all just seem to be getting on my nerves. im the oldest person in the house at 19 and my brothers and sisters are 18, 17 and 13
often times i just think that if i wasnt directly related to them id think of them as sorta weird people that id never really get along with

its not that i dont get along with them or fight with them its just i dont talk or interact with them

- i never really tell any of them whats going on in my life. e.g. story's that happened during my college week, who my friends are, what im thinking, where im going, what i do in college, my brother asked me last week "what are you actually doing in college" (as in what course) im not intrested in what their doing either so i dont bother asking. i just fing it awkward if i start saying anything more that a few words to any of them

- i dont get on with any of my siblings friends, i know them to say well to and chat for a minute, but thats just about it

- they just seem to irk me all the time. they do annoying things that all me or my group of friends would look at and think "whats he at!" that sort of expression my mam is like a headless chicken going around, she cant really control anything. she come up with great (crazy) schemes to fix household chores eg one random day she will decide to paint a door or move a cabinet or something totally unnecessary and end up leaving a half done job

i hate coming home from college at the weekend.. my house is always a mess, its half built so there's furniture makeshift all over the place, dusty, its like a dump of old bits of wire, broken greenhouses, old stone pillers, broken roof tiles, huge field of weeds etc (and has been for years). i live out the country when every other friend i know lives in town.
i like the freedom in college where i can sleep whenever i want, eat whatever whenever i like. do whatever i want really

but since i dont really interact with the family, i just go along with what my parents tell me to do, eat what they cook, agree with their decisions, and wait it out until i get the chance to do something more interesting like go back to college

anynne ever been in this sort of position before?

it really feels like ive two personalities

Frowzy

I think you will find that most people will have gone through something like this at your age. You're only 19, you're still developing who you are as a person, and of course your younger siblings are too.

Instead of focusing on the negatives think of the positives, you're in full time education, so obviously being supported by your family who cook and clean for you and welcome you into their home every weekend!

This is probably where the saying "bloods thicker than water" comes from! They may be you're family (in the bad "I'm embarrassed of them" sense) but Hey! They're your family! (in the good, no matter what you do during the week they've the door open to you on a Friday evening sort of way).

Chill, and enjoy that college is giving you the chance to taste two lives at once.

W Michel

i suggest you should think positive...
enjoy the life...

Milky Moo

As I get older I find I have less and less in common with my parents and sister.

Some of the things they talk about and like seem utterly ridiculous and small town orientated to me!

When I went to college first I would lord my uni opinions over them, now 5 years later I am embarrassed by that.

My Parents are wonderful and my sister is the sweetest soul I know. I will still never read the star of laugh at The Mammy on a saturday night. But they are my family so I just keep my mouth shut on these things, they enjoy them what right do I have to belittle them! I just try and focus on other things that we do have in common. You can be completely different to your family but they are still your family, just try and enjoy the things you can together.