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Hurt

  • 06-04-2011 9:52am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    my boyfriend split up with me saying he needed space to see how he really felt about me..he text me a couple of days later to say thankyou for something Id done,i replied with a 'no problem', we didnt have contact for a few days but due to business had to be - i kept it polite and professional - he turned it into a conversation about how I am, how work is etc etc etc. We were at an event a few days later and he couldnt speak to me quick enough, I was friendly but cool, two drinks later and we're in bed..no contact for a few days and then I txt him..conversation was started up all over again..all just chit chat really..how am I how was my wkend etc etc. So I decided this was all too conufsing and it was really hurting me..I arranged to meet him for a coffee and a chat to which he replied he thought we were still close and mature enough to discuss it and that he hoped we were good and he'd be happy to meet..we met, I told him right now we couldnt be friends it was too soon I needed time and No Contact. He was unbelieveably cold, said it was me contacting him and he still has time for me thats why he was asking about me, he said if I needed to hate him that was fine and that he wont contact me..he said he'd like to be friends..he wasnt over me etc but that he didnt have anything to say to me at the moment because he didnt know how he felt. I asked him to not contact me and said goodbye. Im hurt,confused and heartbroken but have deleted every number,email ,facebook etc etc

    I just dont know whats next for me...i just feel empty


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  • #2
    I am a friend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭I am a friend


    Annoymous.. wrote: »
    I was friendly but cool, two drinks later and we're in bed..

    How was this acting cool?

    OP, I firmly believe that if someone is adamant enough at any given time to dump you then you should take it on the chin and move on… Sleeping with him will not get him back obviously and if he really wanted to be with you hon he would not be dumping you and then using you for sex.

    Let him off, move on, write it down to experience and know that there are many men out there who can make you happy… Good luck


  • #3
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    I don't think sleeping him with two drinks was "playing it cool" at all either in fairness.

    He has been truthful and while it hurts you, he's said it like it is and has told you it's over. You have then been the one contacting him and then making yourself available to him for sex. I hate to say it but what you're going through now is semi self-inflicted. If you want to heal you need to stick to your no contact rule and take it from there.


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