Being civil with an ex

LegacyUser

Here's the story. I had a pretty nasty break-up with my ex about 5-6 months ago. Don't want to go into details but she did something I was really angry about at the time and even though I was willing to forgive her she still called it off the next day. Obviously that made me feel even worse and I made sure she knew that I wasn't interested in talking to her again after what she did.

Fast forward to the present and about 99% of that anger has come and gone. I've met somebody else and though so I'm still a bit bitter about how it ended for the most part I've moved on. In the meantime though we haven't spoken a single word to each other, even though we still see each other a fair bit (maybe once every day or two). We have loads of mutual friends as well and it's definitely made some moments very awkward, so I'm beginning to think is it worth asking her if we can try and talk again from time to time.

I know many people say it's never worth being friends with ex's because of old feelings and stuff, but I'm absolutely positive that because of my new gf and because of the way it ended, I have zero interest in ever starting it up again. We got on very well as friends before we started going out so it would be nice to return to that stage if possible.

What I'm worried about though is giving her the satisfaction of telling me to **** off if she doesn't want the same. I know she thinks I over-reacted with the whole not talking to each other thing, but even though I don't feel that anger anymore I still have no regrets about how I handled it at the time. I'm not gonna lose much sleep if I just let this go on, but it's frustrating more than anything having this kind of awkwardness hanging over me and our friends all the time. That's why I want to build a bridge over the whole thing, it's just hard to do when you don't know if she wants to do the same.

Thoughts?

I am a friend

No need for a big chat about it just let it happen organically. Given you meet every couple of days it should be easy. Say hello the next time, progress it over time up to small chat etc and see how it goes

Neyite

Start by being civil if you meet her out, and as I am a Friend says, gradually build it up to a short chat/convo.

If she does question you all you have to say is that you have both moved on and its not fair to mutual friends to have this 'not-speaking' thing in their company. If she tells you to F-off then thats her loss.

missgroovy21

she made her bed she can lie in it!!!

think about your new gf how would that make her feel??? she may start thinking u want the ex back no matter how much you tell her otherwise....

if u happen to see the ex say hello how are you but leave it at that...to persue her friendly chats may have you single in no time....