Interest from work colleague

Red Flyer

Looking for a bit of advice on whether to pursue a relationship with another woman.

Current relationship with partner is hanging on by a thread, we are like passing ships, have different interests, ideas about our future and life in general, shes even suggesting us splitting.

We've been together 10 years had 2 beautiful children together, however things have gone a bit numb in the last few years.

Earlier this week I get told that a work colleague likes me etc and seeing as things right now aren't great for me relationship wise part of me is saying go after her, the other part is saying no it'll all end in tears and she'll probably go off you as you already have committments -children.

Its difficult because I really want a bit of happiness in my life right now and maybe she could give it to me.

I've spoken to this colleague on strictly work related issues only up until now, she seems like a nice woman both physically & intellectually.

Should I go out of my way to meet with her informally for something not too heavy like lunch in work? Will this give off the wrong signals to her when I don't want to dip my feet in too far just yet?

I want to get an idea of the kind of person she is before I make any moves too.

Suggestions?

kevin99

NO!

You are in a relationship and have children. Sort out your relationship first.
You didn't notice this work colleague in a romantic way before being told by a work colleague.
You want a bit of happiness and you think this office colleague could give it to you.
What about your parnter's happiness and that of your children?

Methinks the adage:'any port in a storm', or 'rebound'.

I hate to be all doom and gloom, but you've got to end your current relationship. You've already said it's not working. Also, until you've split from your current partner, you wont know if you actually like this woman, or if you're just lining someone up because you think your partner is going to leave you. It could be the opposite way around even, that maybe you're interest in this new woman is what's making your current relationship suffer. And there's your current partner's feelings to consider aswell. Definitely sort out your current relationship before you think about pursuing something else. If it happens that your current relationship ends, then maybe start thinking about pursuing your work colleague. At that stage you might want to post again, as that will be a whole other can of worms!

Juicyfruit

The grass isn't always greener OP.

I think you need to try and resolve the issues in your relationship before even dreaming of starting something with someone else.

Have you and your partner tried to work things out at all?

If you want to see someone else then do the right thing and leave, there are kids involved in this and the worst thing you could do is cheat on your current partner, regardless of how bad things are. If you are caugth, which you more than likely will be, there will be serious consequences. Think of how this will affect them for a second!

Just because your partner has suggested splitting up doesn't mean it's ok for you to go off with somone else.

Do something to fix your current situation or leave and take time out for yourself.

Cheating won't make you happier and is going to resolve nothing.

Smashhits

Hi OP. I'd agree with all the above, coming from your partners side of the equation. My ex started up with someone else before dealing with our relationship. I had no clue that he felt our relationship was over until I found out about the other woman.

If you feel your relatioship is over with your partner, leave. Don't get involved with this woman as previous poster said you didn't notice this woman until it was pointed out to you.
Take some time to yourself, get your head straight.