Weird situation with girl

LegacyUser

Ok so I know this is incredibly weird. Please don't judge me for anything here as I feel pathetic as it is as of now :L

I'm not too great with girls as it is, but recently I made an account on a online dating service thingy. It'll remain nameless for now. I'm 19 but I was searching profiles I seen some girl had posted her MSN address. So I added her to my MSN (no contact on dating site so technically was like an anonymous add). I was appearing offline and seen she had accepted, so in fear she would search my e-mail and find my account (I dunno why this would be bad though :S), I frantically switched over to another MSN I had made but never used. I changed my display name and just thought I could play it off. I have no idea why I did this but it seemed like a good move at the time because I was totally scared and just too shy to

Anyway, I said I just found her addy randomly and needed more contacts. We talked for about 6 hours straight, and it was a really fun conversation. All the time I felt like a bit of a lunatic using a different name, and giving a really different back story. The only ting that was the same were my pictures and personality. I'm usually not big into the whole online thing but I really enjoyed myself. Was great fun. I lost all sense of time. We were flirting loads too and I know it means nothing since it's just MSN -_-. But she seemed really comfortable. Even after some snooping of my own I found her blog in which she had made a passage about me in, just about an hour after adding me. So I thought I was well in at that stage, she's totally oblivious to the fact I seen it!



I don't know if she will be totally creeped out by the fact I used a fake name diff account to add her, or what. Should I just come clean and tell her I was scared or just leave it? I feel like I could kick it off with her since we seemed to enjoy ourselves. I'm really worried

lynsalot

Tell her! Or otherwise you'll be banished to using MSN forever. Tell her now before you're in too deep.

No shame in internet dating mate! Absolutely none and sure she was there too met my ex husband on a dating website, got separated (Not the sites fault) and met my current bf online too. Told current bf up straight that i was separating at the time before we even met.

Be completely upfront or you'll never give yourself a proper chance with this girl.
Best of Luck (Exciting stuff)

cantdecide

I'm not sure I follow what you're saying entirely. Are you saying you added her on one MSN but spoke to her using another? Does she not know where you got her MSN?

Don't come up with any plaisible lies. Just tell her the next time you speak that you are a shy person and got a bit freaked over privacy etc. and you're new to dating sites and bashful over using them. Let her know it was a silly knee-jerk reaction that you've been kicking yourself over since.

I don't see what else you can do. If she freaks out, I don't think there's too much you can do about it at this stage.

Genghiz Cohen

Its perfectly reasonable to use a fake name on the internet.
Just tell her you were afraid of handing out your real name to anyone that asked or something.

dearg lady

shoshosho wrote: »

All the time I felt like a bit of a lunatic using a different name, and giving a really different back story.

Do you mean you made up a story about yourself? That part could be an isssue. Using a fake name is no biggie, but if you told her lies about yourself and your life, that would likely be offputting.

All you can do now, is come clean and hope for the best, the sooner the better, she may be understanding that you were nervous. If you leave it, and continue with the lies, when she does eventually find out, she won't be happy at all.

HugoDrax

Tell the girl the truth and there shouldn't be a problem.
But if things go badly you should try chatting up women in the real world away from your computer screen - next time you are out in town shopping and you see a nice looking girl just go over and talk to her.
Nothing wrong with internet dating but in a real interaction you can cut out a lot of the hassle.
They didn't have computers a thousand years ago but girls and guys still got together. Maybe you could try to overcome you shyness by blowing it apart pushing the envelope and meeting women without using the internet? Think about it at least.
You wouldn't feel the need to hide behind a fake identity and risk ruining things with a genuine love interest.