Do you hold a grudge?

Seloth

So people of AH...Do you hold grudges?

Be it from Hating the English to Tim,the arse who took your last can of coke from the fridge etc.

I myself cant hold onto one at all!The longest I've been pissed off at someone was just over a few days but most often if I do I forget about it after 5mins.

...Yet I know some who have held them for years,And I dont mean woman I mean fellas too.Honestly I don't see the point.One of my friends out right refuses to talk to another over somthing that happened two years ago,and in my own case,one person refuses to achknowlege my existence over something that he wont explain to anyone why :pac:

I don't know,Maybe its because I'm an easy going person the the whole idea of even holding such anguish baffles me.I'm only in my first year of college now so when your a bit younger in secondary things are a bit different I guess(Im going to slightly contradict myself now),I can recall disliking one guy quite a bit but in the last two years when ever I've seen him out he's...well a legend and we get on fine.I know I'm still an immature cnut at 19 but at least I've matured too an extent where I'm trying to get on with everyone.

So as I said AHers...Do ye hold grudges?Or are you like myself and find the whole thing quite pointless and baffling.

FatherLen

no man its water under the bridge i forgive you.

pragmatic1

Yeah cant help it. Nothing is forgotten.

TeddyTedson

Don't hold grudges myself, I'm a dickhead to everyone equally

ChunkyLover_53

Tons of 'em.

PS Thanks for the Coke.

-Tim.

OutlawPete

Start all the new threads you like, but I for one will NEVER forget nor forgive you for starting this thread!

arybvtcw0eolkf

Yes I do hold grudges.

Kimono-Girl

no i do not hold grudges i don't see the point of wasting my time and energy on someone. I have better things to be doing such as boardsing!

Wolfe Tone

Yeah I hold grudges, stops the same person fcuking you over again and again.

CD.

i can't really hold onto grudges.

if it's something small and inconsequential i'll usually forget about it after a few hours/the next day.

it depends really. mostly if someone is really awful as a person, i might be angry for a day or two, then i just feel bad for them.

even when people do something monumentally bad, i wouldn't just blank them. i wouldn't go out of my way to meet up with them/be friends/be particularly nice, but if i saw them in the street/met them accidently, i would be polite and chat to them for a few minutes.

Menengroth™

Grudges are for kids, vendettas are for men.

orourkeda

Depends on the incident.

Considering that 99.99999% of people are not what you'd consider friends it's an utterly futile exercise

orourkeda

Menengroth™ wrote: »

Grudges are for kids, vendettas are for men.

So are Vaginas

My name is URL

No.. too much hassle for my liking. If someone pisses me off I don't necessarily forget about it but I wouldn't let it get to me too much.

kfallon

Forgiven but never, ever forgotten!

OutlawPete

kfallon wrote: »

Forgiven but never, ever forgotten!

Stop singing Corr's songs and answer the question.

Seloth

OutlawPete wrote: »

Start all the new threads you like, but I for one will NEVER forget nor forgive you for starting this thread!

It was a different time man...I was young,Naive and the world was so much more different :pac:

Tons of 'em.

PS Thanks for the Coke.

-Tim.

**** YOU TIM!

pickarooney

More than lonely high court judges, OP.

Rented Mule

orourkeda wrote: »

So are Vaginas

That brought a tear to my eye.

MyNameIsMethos

I'll only hold a grudge if someone has properly screwed me or a loved one over repeatedly without apologies or being initially provoked.

LighterGuy

- should you hold a grudge?
depending on what was done on you, if serious or hurtful? ... yes.

- should you let it get to you?
no

- If in a position to ever get some payback on said person?
then take some payback. they'd do the same to you.

fakearms123

I'm not a bitter man and I feel as though life is too short and it takes too much effort to hold a grudge

Ditch

I'm a fantastic grudge holder. I've held grudges for decades. I'm really good at it

Held some vaginas in my time too :cool:

Trigger13222

I hold a grudge against myself for signing up here.

RayM

I don't think I've ever held a grudge against anyone. It's not because I'm a really lovely and brilliant person (well, I actually am, but that's entirely coincidental and irrelevant to this thread), but because I'm very lazy and can't be bothered expending energy on something as boring as a grudge.

CoolGirl101

Yes, just can't not hold a grudge, I'm the worst for it...
Only person I really forgive fast is my boyfriend, everyone else, piss me off and it's done forever...

Pace2008

I don't know, I've never been ****ed over to the extent I felt it warranted a grudge. I'm certainly not one of these people who makes a concious effort to take massive offence to anything that could be even somewhat perceived as a slight.

Self-perception of these mentioned people: Respected, no-nonsense sorts who stand up for themselves in all situations.

Everyone else's perception of these people: Petty, neurotic bitches who need a crash course in engineering centred around the art of bridge building.

stovelid

Depends.

Holding a historical or political grudge to the extent that is rules your life is quite alien to me. Personally, I'm quite loyal and if a friend badly lets me down, I tend to cut them off although it has happened rarely. Generally though, I'm pretty amenable in my personal life and nothing is too far gone that I can't be approached to discuss it but I do hate when people won't fess up and admit they are in the wrong as I think I can do this.

I tend to view people that have messed me about in terms of getting away from them and improving my life as a result rather than stewing over it.

ricero

feelingstressed wrote: »

Not spoken to my brother in eight years

Told my mother if he was killed in a car accident tomorrow, don't expect to see me at the funeral which upset her but well, what I'd do.
No way would I go and realy, I don't see myself talking to him in the next twenty years either

If I were getting married he would be barred

Yeah, I have my reasons and feel justified so good enough for me

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liah

No, I don't really see the point. I always forgive and forget, people change, there's no point holding on to stuff.

Alter-Ego

I am/used to be someone who held grudges, but lately I've been reading a lot of material that has though me to let go of grudges. If you have an issue with a person and they just can't be talked to, or if someone has let you down badly, thinking about them and getting angry is just letting that same person drag you down even further.

Positive thinking and forgiving, forgetting and moving on holds far more advantages to you as a person than thinking about how much of a gee bag your ex-gf is, or whoever's picture you have taped to the dartboard this month.

Its better to phase people out of your life and not give them the satisfaction of rising to their bullsh1t.

I've had close friends who's behaviour has been out of line in the past and I've forgiven and forgotten many times, but it builds up and some people just keep letting you down, and there comes a time to draw a line in the sand a realise that this person needs to be out of my life, so I can have a better quality of life.

[/New Age Hippy]

AH Response: Argle bargle, I hate everyone! They're all cnuts!

Chuchoter

I don't hold grudges for one or two instances, but if theres a consistent pattern of assholery then I hold a grudge.

RichieC

I'm sh*te at holding grudges tbh..

Savage Tyrant

Yeah I hold grudges. I hold them silently though and let them fester which certainly isn't a good thing, especially for my sleep patterns.
I also happen to be a complete mug though, letting the same 3 people take the f'ckin piss over and over again. What makes it worse is that they are close family members that you'd be thinking should be a bit more decent.

candy-gal1

I hold grudges to the people who just really deserve it, people who have caused me hurt and upset to the most extremes of my life so far for absolutly no reason whatsoever :mad:
And right now theres only one person like that to me :mad:

Saila

Savage Tyrant wrote: »

Yeah I hold grudges. I hold them silently though and let them fester which certainly isn't a good thing, especially for my sleep patterns.
I also happen to be a complete mug though, letting the same 3 people take the f'ckin piss over and over again. What makes it worse is that they are close family members that you'd be thinking should be a bit more decent.

with a name like yours Id expect nothing less

Abi

stovelid wrote: »

Personally, I'm quite loyal and if a friend badly lets me down, I tend to cut them off although it has happened rarely. Generally though, I'm pretty amenable in my personal life and nothing is too far gone that I can't be approached to discuss it but I do hate when people won't fess up and admit they are in the wrong as I think I can do this.

I tend to view people that have messed me about in terms of getting away from them and improving my life as a result rather than stewing over it.

All of this. And as you said, I'd be quite loyal to my friends and would do anything for them. Yes, anyone can fuck up. If it's something small, say you were in the wrong then we put it behind us. But a repeat offender is expendible to me. I just don't need that kind of shit.


Theres something nice about being able to rise above someone who wronged you.

Lavattack

I used hold grudges. Then I learned how to let go of resentments. So much better for it. Think about it, if you are holding a grudge you are thinking about that person...... do you think they are wondering about you as much? If you just let go it's a big difference. I let go of a big resentment last year and am the better for it.

CrazyRabbit

It's not in my nature to hold grudges. I'm quick to forgive, and rarely get to the point where someone pisses me off enough that I despise them.

P.S. I'm going to kill you OP.

Fluorescence

I was gonna say no until I realised I've been keeping one for over a year now. Oops

pragmatic1

stovelid wrote: »

Depends.

Holding a historical or political grudge to the extent that is rules your life is quite alien to me. Personally, I'm quite loyal and if a friend badly lets me down, I tend to cut them off although it has happened rarely. Generally though, I'm pretty amenable in my personal life and nothing is too far gone that I can't be approached to discuss it but I do hate when people won't fess up and admit they are in the wrong as I think I can do this.

I tend to view people that have messed me about in terms of getting away from them and improving my life as a result rather than stewing over it.

Pretty much the exact same if its a friend thats screwed me over. We just cant be friends anymore.

smellslikelemon

I hate to admit it but I hold a bit of a grudge against people flashing money around in college, particularly if they're getting the money from a grant or their parents. Annoys the hell out of me that I have to work (5 til 12 last night, with a ten minute break, then 9 a.m. class this morning xD) while people are downright proud of their sponging.

Of course, I don't mean the people who get the grant because they're piss poor and couldn't go to college without it, but a friend of mine is changing her course and because of that she's not getting the grant next year. Her parents while seperated, are both working but she was moaning on about it like it was the worst thing in the world. Heaven forbid she get a job (I know it's hard in the economic climate etc etc but there are some jobs out there even if they're not well paid *coughcough*).

Gaaaaaah! I don't want to get twisted and bitter over this ><