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kennedy2212

Hi,
Im recently out of a relationship which turned out pretty horrendous so im not looking to get into another relationship any time soon. My problem is im a 32 year old woman and all my friends are either married or settled down with kids which leaves me feeling a tad lost and alone!Ive tried looking up the internet to find a website for single people to meet and find new friends but they all turn out to be dating websites!
Any suggestions? I would like to meet similar people (men or women) my own age to hang out with. Im an outgoing person and not shy or anything but this is harder than you would think!

HugoDrax

kennedy2212 wrote: »

Hi,
Im recently out of a relationship which turned out pretty horrendous so im not looking to get into another relationship any time soon. My problem is im a 32 year old woman and all my friends are either married or settled down with kids which leaves me feeling a tad lost and alone!Ive tried looking up the internet to find a website for single people to meet and find new friends but they all turn out to be dating websites!
Any suggestions? I would like to meet similar people (men or women) my own age to hang out with. Im an outgoing person and not shy or anything but this is harder than you would think!

My experience with women in their early thirties is that they were more interested in meeting a man and settling down and having kids than hanging out with other single women.

Most men in the early thirties who are still single are probably Casanovas who are enjoying being single and being unattached and have no real interest in having a relationship with a women or else are desperately shy men with no social skills who would make a clumsy attempt to get you into bed if you showed them any kindness at all.

So sadly if you are what you sound like - a happy secure woman of 32 who just wants to meet people your age who want to hang out the way younger people do without all this desperation and emotional baggage you will have a very difficult search.

Justask

Try any of the meetup groups, these groups are not dating sites
Most of them are great.

There is a wind range of groups all with different things going on

Hope this is of some help..:)
http://www.meetup.com/

Kevin Duffy

Ignore the discouragment and pointless generalisations above for a start.

There are lots of people in the same situation as you, so it's not like there's nobody to meet, it's just a question of getting started, which in turn should lead to other connections.

Never tried meetup groups myself, but friends have and rate them highly http://www.meetup.com/cities/ie/dublin/

Similarly, friends have tried using the dating websites that allow you the option of choosing to say you're trying to meet friends, rather than dates. okcupid.com from hazy memory and it might be worth having a look at others to see the options.

Perhaps you've tried the sports and activities route, but hillwalking or climbing clubs, running clubs or meet and train groups for the women's mini-marathon, triathalon clubs and similar all generally have a good social side. That goes for lots of activities, I just happen to know sports. Now that the summer is coming, tag rugby is a very popular way of getting exercise and social activity, plus the fact that it's mixed-gender means it should do what you're looking for.

HTH and best of luck.

Justask

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Ignore the discouragment and pointless generalisations above for a start.

:eek::eek:

Ickle Magoo

HugoDrax, warned for off-topic and unhelpful crass generalities.

If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the [URL=" http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056181484"]forum rules[/URL] in the charter.

Many thanks.

Justask, as per the forum charter, if you have an issue with a post or poster then report it, don't drag the thread off-topic.

Kevin Duffy

Justask wrote: »

:eek::eek:

Not yours, that was midair collision, sorry, I was aiming at the one above yours.

Justask

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

HugoDrax, warned for off-topic and unhelpful crass generalities.

If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the forum rules in the charter.

Many thanks.

Justask, as per the forum charter, if you have an issue with a post or poster then report it, don't drag the thread off-topic.

But its ok to claim my post is unhelpul!!!

Ok thanks

Justask

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Not yours, that was midair collision, sorry, I was aiming at the one above yours.

No problem lol we must have been typing at the same time

Ickle Magoo

Justask warned for off-topic and unhelpful posting.

Please read the [URL=" http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056181484"]forum rules[/URL] and post to offer the OP advice.

Back on-topic...

solerina

THere are loads of people like you outh there, I found a new group of friends through a friend. All of my friends were married/ settled down and although they were constantly sying they would go out, the reality was they never did. Anyway, we finally got out one nite to a gig and while there I met a friend of theirs, we got chatting and discovered that we were both in the same boat....Like you femal, 30s and friends who stayed in.....We have found 3 more similar females liek us and now have a great social life ( I met my OH one nite I was out with them last November...but I refuse to stop socialising with them bacause I am now in a couple....if I did I would be as bad as the friends I couldnt get to come out !!!!)

pog it

Hey OP why not take up a new language? Great way to meet new people and extend your social life. There are conversation groups all over the city, just pick a language you like and off you go Another language is always really life-enhancing.

HugoDrax

You can meet new people everywhere - hillwalking, book clubs, table quizes, film clubs, snooker halls, salsa dancing lessons. Basically any place or society in which people of like minds get together friendships develop. Find something you are good at and interested in and find a group of people who do the same thing and you are sure to meet new people with the same interest who will be your friends.

kennedy2212

Thanks everyone for your encouragement. I have been looking at hill walking groups but its hard to know which one to go for! I have a dog too so I could possibly bring him along.

I'll try the meetup.com too.

Oh and hugodrax - you would be surprised how your generalizations regarding women in their 30s is way of the mark!

santana75

kennedy2212 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your encouragement. I have been looking at hill walking groups but its hard to know which one to go for! I have a dog too so I could possibly bring him along.

I'll try the meetup.com too.

Oh and hugodrax - you would be surprised how your generalizations regarding women in their 30s is way of the mark!

Do you like sports? Im not talking about Tag rugby(sporting equivalent of copper face Jacks) or any nonsense like that. Something like an athletics club or maybe even a triathlon club.
I think the important thing is to get into something you actually would like to do, not getting into something just to make friends. They're are more people in the situation you described than you would think. No ready made solution Im afraid, one of these things you just gotta feel your way through and come up with a solution that suits you.

kevin99

Not all men past 30 are wannabee casanovas with no interest in having a relationship with a woman.
Some people are very lucky and meet their lifelong partner and marry. Other people, like myself, have been unlucky in the love stakes.
But that doesn't mean I don't want to meet a lady, even though I am now in my 40s.
People shouldn't generalise from the partiuclar.

I have many acquaintences who are married and settled. They don't make time for me, so I don't facilitate them either.

I've joined internet dating sites, a walking club and I am a keen sports fan.
However, I have yet to meet Ms. Right for me.

I learned a harsh lesson that you cannot depend on friends in relationships or who are married to give you a dig out when trying to meet women.

You are alone. And I suppose it is harsh to accept it, but you are just as likely to meet a male out walking your dog, in the supermarket or standing at the bus stop as you are by joining clubs etc.