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LegacyUser

Dated a guy a few years ago. We weren't together for long but i really liked him and i guess i was a bit hurt when we broke up. Anyway we lost touch,each had other more serious relationships with other people. But somehow we keep ending up back together - we hooked up for a while when we both broke up with people last year (We've done this a few times since we stopped seeing each other). After a fair while of not contacting each other we got in touch again in February. We met up the other night after weeks of chatting and texting each other. We get on really well when we're together, sex is amazing, i just wonder how can we have that and not be able to get a relationship out of it. We''ve both changed a lot since we dated and have spoken about stuff that happened. I feel like I should not like him the way I do but something seems to pull me to him every time. He's not long out of a relationship (I'm only just over a particularly bad longterm relationship which took me a while to get over) so I know he wouldn't be jumping back into a relationship straight away I just wonder why we keep coming back to each other .. is there something there?!

I'm Not really sure if I'm asking a question here or just venting my thoughts/confusion ...

I am a friend

There can be - it's happened to me with someone I broke up with 12 years ago. There have been a fiancé, wife and kids under the bridge since but we were always (innocently) in each others lives and there for all the big events. It's going great and I would be shocked if we didn't make it work fOr good. In fairness, my own mother who had not seen him in 10 years said to me last year he is the only one she thought I ever should have ended up with. However, we were not at any stage 'friends with benefits' and I think this is where you are falling down - ye are acting like that. Go out as friends, see how it goes but don't end up in bed with him. Then you will know more.

daisy1984

Funny I went through that, Every year we meet at christmas, I went school with this guy it was ****ed up. He refused to date me but he dated everybody else. And he's always come back to me it was weird, Ive only figured it out recently, he likes horrible woman that treat him like crap, they leave him so he meets up with me because he knows Im good to him but doesnt want to date me! Because hes attracted to horrible nasty woman! So I decided not to go there again! I was way to good for him!! The only advice I can give there was a reason behind the fact ye didnt stay together figure it out! I did! lol

flowerchild

People don't always want what they need. Sometimes they want something that pattern matches something earlier in their life.

But everyone needs love, whether they know it or not. So give him lots of love, however rarely you see/interact with him.

LegacyUser

Thanks for replies ... I think I'm just really confused about the situation at the moment. I wasn't sure how i would feel meeting up with him and think I'm surprised that I enjoyed catching up with him so much. I just wish it could be more simple. I know if he asked me to give it another shot I would be willing to draw a line under our pasts and go with it, I just don't know what his feelings are. I just know that as much as I love spending time with him a "friends with benefits" things is just not going to be enough for me...

daisy1984

whatarewedoing wrote: »

Thanks for replies ... I think I'm just really confused about the situation at the moment. I wasn't sure how i would feel meeting up with him and think I'm surprised that I enjoyed catching up with him so much. I just wish it could be more simple. I know if he asked me to give it another shot I would be willing to draw a line under our pasts and go with it, I just don't know what his feelings are. I just know that as much as I love spending time with him a "friends with benefits" things is just not going to be enough for me...

Honestly your better off leaving the past the past.