Sick of life

LegacyUser

im a 21 year old male who is sick off life. IM about to finish a ****ty fectac level course which i have found difficult and the friends ive made in that have there relationships and are going to move home and i will lose touch with them. All i want is too get to a third level college and experience the social life there not all drink related (societys,clubs etc) and be a somebody.

Also i hate being single (i think im a good looking guy (with Effort), well built, not too poor not too rich) but im just so shy and talk way to low which drives me mad because i think people dont listen to me. I hav never had a proper relationship (ive tried a number of dating sites but none of them worked out) and with a family wedding coming up in september im really starting to panic and think to myself will i ever find someone and what is wrong with me. IM from a south east city and it is very hard to go out to nightclubs and find girls here.

I go to concerts and shows on my own to Dublin and i just feel like some loner doing it.

I have had a bad past (fights with friends, familys disliking me, tempter issues) but i i have improved. I do a lot of work for the community and just wish all the people who hate me will see past all my negatives and we can get back to talking terms someday.

the only thing that is keeping me alive is my volunteerism and my part time job

I just wish in say 12 years time i will have a family, wife, good job etc but i feel a bit old now.

Any advice to give me ??? please

FoxyVixen

You're 21, you've got more than enough time. Everyone has to swim through the sledge before finding that perfect fish in the sea and even then they can piss ya off unreal

I'm 25, back living at home, unemployed but do have a relationship. Came home from Oz two years ago after having survived fracturing my skull in three places. I'm just bloody well delighted to be alive.

There's always someone worse off than you out there. By going with that little statement I get through my days pretty handy, and no I'm not an all smiley type of person that sees rainbows everywhere.

Everyone gets a ****ty day, week, month even few years in a row. You reckon you're at the bottom?!?! Dude, then the only way is up

Ickle Magoo

Hi there

I am afraid we are not qualified to offer you appropriate advice if you are feeling suicidal, you must tell a qualified professional.

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If you are getting satisfaction from your volunteering and job, then throw yourself into that. If you want to meet new people, join some local clubs and get meeting people.

All the very best
Ickle

LegacyUser

That post could have been me a few yrs ago, and probably about half the population in the country. You seem to be have everything going on at once and the plan is to tackle one thing at a time. As for the family wedding coming up, It wont be the last wedding you'll be going to and there possibly be a single girl there dreading the same taughts as you. As for your Fetac level course its a stepping stone to what you want to do and in time it may open doors to the career that you wish to pursue.
The concert and shows, put a post up saying your going to a gig and is there anyone intrested in meeting up so that they dont go to these gigs alone and just hookup with someone for the day.
I was a very shy person about 15 yrs ago, I got a job where I had to deal with meeting people on a daily basis and it was tough at the start but it will work its self out.

You seem to want to sort everything out at one, Take your time. Just by meeting one person it could turn everything around and then lead from one new adventure to the next.
I hope things work out for you.