2nd date?

LegacyUser

Hi so I'm going unreg for this...

Met a girl a couple of weeks ago and hit it off, asked her out on a date and she accepted fine. Met up Sunday night and all was great - had a lot of fun and I would like to see her again.

However here's the hitch - as she was leaving to go home (I walked her to her bus stop), I felt it was a bit awkward, there was no hug or kiss or anything. It was more of a "bye" thing and we left it at that. It doesn't bother me that I didn't kiss her but it was a bit weird the way it happened.

I'm not sure now whether that's a sign she's not as into me as I thought - initially I thought she was more into me than I was into her.

I'm between 2 minds whether to text her again or not. I don't want to be chasing a lost cause like an idiot because I couldn't read her signals but at the same time I'd hate to assume incorrectly and miss out on something.

We're both 19/20 and I have very little experience in dating so any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks

borabora

Text her! What have you got to lose? Just say -

"Hey X, had a a great time with you the other night, just wondering if you want to go ice skating (or some other fun activity where you can bond over your lack of skills) during the week? Let me know what day you're free x"

If you're both awkward with little experience no wonder there was no smooch. If she's shy all the more reason why she didn't go for it. You take the reins next time! Good luck.

beks101

Was there flirting, physical contact, lots of eye contact during the date? A kiss isn't a necessary requirement for a first date, if it doesn't happen organically don't beat yourself up - I'd imagine a bus stop isn't the most comfortable place to go in for the kill.

Just text her. What's the worst that can happen - she doesn't reply? Chances are she will, but if she doesn't, at least you can say you tried and move on. Better to give it a shot than regret not doing so! The girl is probably sitting at home staring at her phone wondering if she's ever going to hear from you again...just go for it!

lace

Beks101 is right, think about the rest of the date rather than just focussing on the end.

First dates don't always run smoothly and if you're both a little inexperienced it may just be that you were both nervous. Perhaps she was too shy to go in for a hug or a kiss in public. Maybe she really likes you but didn't want to come on too strong or seem too eager. She could be waiting around, wondering why you haven't texted her yet.

Send her a text and see how it goes. She's probably just waiting to hear from you and if that's not the case then at least you'll know where you stand.

Good luck!

dublingal80

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Hi so I'm going unreg for this...

Met a girl a couple of weeks ago and hit it off, asked her out on a date and she accepted fine. Met up Sunday night and all was great - had a lot of fun and I would like to see her again.

However here's the hitch - as she was leaving to go home (I walked her to her bus stop), I felt it was a bit awkward, there was no hug or kiss or anything. It was more of a "bye" thing and we left it at that. It doesn't bother me that I didn't kiss her but it was a bit weird the way it happened.

I'm not sure now whether that's a sign she's not as into me as I thought - initially I thought she was more into me than I was into her.

I'm between 2 minds whether to text her again or not. I don't want to be chasing a lost cause like an idiot because I couldn't read her signals but at the same time I'd hate to assume incorrectly and miss out on something.

We're both 19/20 and I have very little experience in dating so any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks

Sending 1 text to say thanks for meeting up on sunday, it was lovely to see you... blah blah blah is not chasing a lost cause! to be honest she is probably waiting to hear from you!

Pick up your phone now and write a text thanking her for the fun you had sunday etc and see what she says back and you can take it from there re a second date

GOOD LUCK

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice so far. I think I will text her. Should I ask her out again this weekend or is that "too soon"? Should I bring up that I felt it was a bit awkward?

I think overall it was fun - we both laughed, plenty of eye contact/flirting etc.... so that's where I was confused since the rest of it was grand.

Oh and she's had a lot more experience than me in dating, so that's why I was wondering if it was a conscious act on her behalf to just say "bye" and leave.

Thanks again

Boskowski

Don't bring that up. Don't make it even more awkward. Be cool but nice. Do what the others said. 3 liner. 'Thanks for the other nite. Had a great time. Must do that again soon. Have you been to XYZ yet?' something like that. I'm sure you can do better than this handy but along those lines.
With texting and today's dating code and your inexperience there's too much room for second guessing this and overcomplicating that. So keep it light and nice and to the point and don't be pondering about timing and what to bring up or not.

If she doesn't want to be texted she will let you know.