mad awkward.

LegacyUser

ill lay the ground work. Im single, out of a relationship about 5 months now. Im not flirtatious at all towards girls, i just like talking and having a bit of craic. Im in no rush to get in a relationship or even to attract girls, im just having fun meeting new people and hanging out.

Myself and a friend were out last week and we bumped into an old friend of his. She was sound, real good looking too, but the main point is she was sound. Now, im positive she was making strong eye contact with me.. im sure she was with my friend too(most girls do), but it just felt like a little more than the usual conversation with a new girl. It was fun. I got a really nice impression of her. She came across very well. She mentioned a strange hobby of hers which coincides with a hobby of mine and we talked about that a little... moving on.

That night the three of us talked for about an hour, it was great fun. Considering myself and my friend were on our way out the door because the place felt like a drag that night.

Anyway, i get up the next day and see she posted on my friends wall on facebook. I added her as a friend, she accepted - great! So i sent her a pm on facebook saying it was nice meeting her, it was good fun hangin out and made a joke about our mutual hobby. a few days later - nothing! Ill be honest, i was expecting a reply. Only because in my books its the polite thing to do!

On the random i have a look at her page and see shes changed her status from single to in a relationship. Now its awkward. While i did find her attractive and i enjoyed her company, I didnt ask for her number on the night. And i most certainly wasnt going to ask her out over feckin facebook!

I feel rejected, even tho i wasnt going to do anything. Its 2 fold, ignored and the relationship status thing.

I dont know, is it wrong to enjoy a conversation with someone?

LegacyUser

I wouldn't worry about the ignored message, could be any number of reasons.

If she's in a relationship then she's in a relationship- thats just the way it goes, move on.

fghijkl

On the random i have a look at her page and see shes changed her status from single to in a relationship. Now its awkward. While i did find her attractive and i enjoyed her company, I didnt ask for her number on the night. And i most certainly wasnt going to ask her out over feckin facebook!

I feel rejected, even tho i wasnt going to do anything. Its 2 fold, ignored and the relationship status thing.

I dont know, is it wrong to enjoy a conversation with someone?

I don't really understand your problem OP? So you met a nice friendly girl and now you feel rejected because she happened to have a boyfriend??!

Are you saying you think she deliberately changed her status to give you a hint or something? I seriously doubt that, just a simple coincidence. There could be a million reasons why she didn't reply, she may have thought it was one of those friendly messages that didn't need a reply, she may have not been in the mood to get drawn into a conversation with you, she may not have wanted to lead you on, her bf could be the jealous type, she may have forgotten etc etc... i think you're seriously over analysing the situation tbh, it's only facebook.

I'm really not being harsh op but, i don't understand why you're making this such a big deal? Its really not! You met a nice girl, you added her on facebook, she has a boyfriend so what? You can talk to women who have boyfriends, it's not a crime! Maybe i'm wrong but it sounds like a case of, i didn't want her but when i thought i could have her it was an ego boost, but now that i know i can't you've a dented ego or something??

seriously it's not a big deal!

LegacyUser

sunflower27 wrote: »

Sounds as if she knew you liked her from that night and then your message reinforced it and made her feel uncomfortable. She possibly pre-empted you asking her out and didn't want to do that.

Try and not take it personally - there are plenty of sound girls out there that will share your hobbies.

Happens to everyone

heh, thats the thing! I wasnt going to ask her out at all even tho i liked her! I was simply being nice and saying hello Now it feels like utter rejection because it!!

fghijkl wrote: »

Are you saying you think she deliberately changed her status to give you a hint or something? I seriously doubt that, just a simple coincidence. There could be a million reasons why she didn't reply, she may have thought it was one of those friendly messages that didn't need a reply, she may have not been in the mood to get drawn into a conversation with you, she may not have wanted to lead you on, her bf could be the jealous type, she may have forgotten etc etc... i think you're seriously over analysing the situation tbh, it's only facebook.

yea i think she changed it just to create a barrier that didnt really need to be created. Of course there could be a bunch of reasons, i guess im just over sensitive about this because now i feel like i've creeped her out of it or something and made her unconfortable when all i wanted to do was say hello etc.

fghijkl wrote: »

I'm really not being harsh op but, i don't understand why you're making this such a big deal? Its really not! You met a nice girl, you added her on facebook, she has a boyfriend so what? You can talk to women who have boyfriends, it's not a crime! Maybe i'm wrong but it sounds like a case of, i didn't want her but when i thought i could have her it was an ego boost, but now that i know i can't you've a dented ego or something??

seriously it's not a big deal!

Cheers. I just dont like people to get the wrong impression of me thats all. If i meet a girl i know shes interested by the second or third time we are around each other, thats when i start to make the effort. I wouldnt have done it on the introduction night. For all i know they could be a weirdo too

Em maybe she met someone and she's so caught up in having a new relationship she didnt get a chance to reply
Seems a bit much to assume it was just a status change cos of you

StupidLikeAFox

OP you have to actually ask someone out to get rejected. You had a friendly chat in a pub one night, this is as far as it went so you cant get hung up on things. You dont even know the girl at the back of it all (Sorry f this is a bit harsh)

dublingal80

Hi op

You seem like a sensitive soul Dont read into things so much

You added her on facebook, you sent her a message - she didnt reply back. Thats all it is...

Do you honestly think she would change her relationship status for your benefit so you wouldnt contact her again? Even tho it would mean most of her friends and family on facebook would question who the new bf is? Naaa!!!! Id read that that she has been seeing someone and it just got serious.

No biggie. There is nothing to get awkward about. Honestly nothing!