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Did I ruin my chances?

  • 29-03-2011 9:33am
    #1
    budweiser90
    Closed Accounts Posts: 44 ✭


    Was out with a guy the other night and we hit it off. Went for a few beers. After that he asked me back to his place and well we fooled around and I stayed over in his. I feel stupid for doing this now because I made myself look easy. I did not intend on doing this first date its I'm just really attracted to this guy and get on great with him. He texted me to see if I got home safe the next day. Did I **** things up by making myself look easy. I really like him.


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  • #2
    flowerchild
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 534 ✭✭✭flowerchild


    I think you are looking at this from an unhelpful frame.

    Did/do you like him? Did you enjoy yourself? Do you care for him? Do you think less of him for 'fooling around' with you?

    You are worried that he will think less of you, but presumably you don't think less of him. There's a double standard here that's worth reflecting about.

    Here's my point of view. If he's worth having he will appreciate your honesty.

    He texted to check you got home OK. That sounds hopeful to me.

    Trust yourself. Trust him. Good, kind caring guys are all around us.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm a guy.

    I've never once thought that a girl was easy if she came back on the first night.

    Has never put me off anyone.

    And if I like them, all the better.


  • #4
    ando
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,440 ✭✭✭ando


    Its all down to him and what he's like really. I wouldnt worry too much about it if he's txting you afterwards. Personally I'd respect myself and the girl more if nothing happened after the first date but thats just me. If you know the guy ages and are good friends already then its a different story


  • #5
    LittleBook
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,716 ✭✭✭LittleBook


    budweiser90 wrote: »
    He texted me to see if I got home safe the next day.

    ... and then what happened???

    Relax! It's natural to wonder this but don't dwell on it. Take it one step at a time and leave the negativity out of it. :)


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