Age questions

LegacyUser

I'm a guy in my mid 40s, but I look much, much younger. Not a boast, I've been told it many times.

Problem is, I'm single and often get mistaken for being early 30s by women. That's great some might say, and yes it is if I were to jump in bed with them or maybe lie to them for a few weeks.

But if I really like a girl, I want to know that either she's somewhere around my age, or that she's comfortable with a large age difference. I recently just asked a girl what age she was (after meeting her a few times) and she got all shy and said you're not supposed to ask a girl her age. I thought we were a bit more relaxed about that these days, but seemingly not.

So my question is: if I get to know a girl and it feels like we're 'clicking', how can I get beyond this age question? I feel that the longer I let it go on, the more of an embarrassment it could be when she finally finds out my age!

Emme

I don't think you have a problem, OP. If you get along with somebody and they genuinely like you there shouldn't be a problem when they find out your age.

If you were female, mid 40s and passed for early 30s it would be worse. I have a friend mid-40s who looks no more than 35 and once men find out her real age they often lose interest.

As another poster said, most women don't mind if a guy they like is a bit older, but most guys don't seem to like it if a woman is older.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies. Yes I agree it's not really a problem as such. And I agree that me being "a bit" older is perfectly normal. It's just that if it turns out she's 32, and I'm 15 odd years older, then she might just think twice!

Anyway, it's a trivial issue compared to some other threads here. Nice to hear other people's views.