Shyness what to do

LegacyUser

Ok here goes :O

I signed up to a dating site, and got chatting to a really nice guy, we have been mailing, texting and chatting on the phone for over a month now.

But the problem is that im seriously shy and the thoughts of meeting him in person fills me with dread.
before anyone starts judging me i know that signing up to these sites meeting up with people is part of it but I suppose I didnt think that far ahead.

Anyone been here? or anyone with great advice lol

JajaD

shyness wrote: »

Ok here goes :O

I signed up to a dating site, and got chatting to a really nice guy, we have been mailing, texting and chatting on the phone for over a month now.

But the problem is that im seriously shy and the thoughts of meeting him in person fills me with dread.
before anyone starts judging me i know that signing up to these sites meeting up with people is part of it but I suppose I didnt think that far ahead.

Anyone been here? or anyone with great advice lol

Awh dont be worrying. EVERYONE dreads that first meeting, and i am sure if you hint at him that you will be a nervous wreck (make a joke about it to him) he will find it endearing. Its better than being cocky anyway. Just think to yourself, "i can always leave during the date if i get too nervous" or "this person doesnt know me so if i am nervous so what" etc etc

You'll be fine, trust me.

LegacyUser

JajaD wrote: »

Awh dont be worrying. EVERYONE dreads that first meeting, and i am sure if you hint at him that you will be a nervous wreck (make a joke about it to him) he will find it endearing. Its better than being cocky anyway. Just think to yourself, "i can always leave during the date if i get too nervous" or "this person doesnt know me so if i am nervous so what" etc etc

You'll be fine, trust me.

Aw thanks for the reply
He knows that im super nervous and is so understanding! Keeps saying "its fine when ever your ready, no pressure"

LegacyUser

You could tell him before you meet. It doesn't have to be a major issue, just mention it and say you're looking forward to meeting, but you know you'll be a bit nervous and shy. Betcha he's feeling about the same and will be glad you said it.

You could also try making the first meeting an activity based one. You want to talk obviously, but with something like bowling, you're not under conversational "pressure" all the time. If you're in somewhere like the zoo, subjects to talk about present themselves. The movies aren't perfect 'cos you can't talk, but maybe with how you're feeling the first couple of hours being fairly quiet by design might help and you have at least the movie to get you talking afterwards.
Maybe those ideas don't suit you, or him, but just have a think about what you're going to do that might help make the first meeting feel less pressured for you.

HTH, have a great time.

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Staplor

You've spoken to this guy for a while now, so you've obviously got something in common. Head to a comedy gig, you can have a drink for dutch courage, the comedian will give you plenty to talk about, and there'll be little breaks for chatting. By the time it's over you'll be really enjoying eachothers company.