Recently I've been remembering all the embarrassing times in my life

LegacyUser

I've been remembering all the times I've made a ass out of myself and how I embarrased myself infront of people. I remember all the stupid stuff i did when I was a kid and when i was in my teens. I don't know why. I'm in my 20's

Back in primary school there was this one time that three guys from a year above my class came to my school during a lunch break and beat me up in an unprovoked attack for absolutly no reason in front of everyone. I was having a few drinks in my local and seen one of these guys there. I felt like confronting him and possibly start a fight with him. I realy don't know why i felt like doing this since it happend ages ago when we were kids, and I'm not a violent man. I didn't start anything though

LegacyUser

We all have embarrasing moments, or times when we were not proud of our actions, that when we think about them, we cringe.

Occasionally I will have something trigger a memory of one of these moments, i shudder but then forget about it. We learn from these situations and become better people.


Now, if you are in a bad mood, drink will generally make it worse, even if its only a pint or two. Ive always believed the saying that you should only drink when your happy.

Perhaps you were in a bad mood for some reason, bad day at work, arguement at home or whatever. A few pints didnt help your mood, and sight of thsi guy triggered a bad memory of an unhappy situation.

Fact is you didnt go over to the guy and so you got by it. You are normal. Just remember to always keep check of yourself if your drinking and have a "bright idea" to confront someone.

If it initially seems like a bad idea, it prob is! well done on realizing this! dont worry , your a normal person!

NittyGritty

Why are you putting yourself through this? We've all done things we are embarrassed or even ashamed of in our lives. But to dwell on them is just not healthy. If I spent time thinking about things I regret or upset me, I'd be so busy cringing and whinging that I'd never get out there and live my life. And let's facing it, by living my life I'll probably continue to make a show of myself in the years to come over and over Such is life. Am I beating myself up about it? No. "To err is human".

You are dwelling on things that happened years ago. However bad or embarrassed you may feel, you can be assured that no-one else is thinking about these situations except you.

Move on, let it go and stop obsessing about things that cannot be changed.

Firetrap

It's not healthy to be looking back at these things. You are not the only person who did stupid things in their younger days or had things done to them which may not have been fair. It's a part of growing up. You have two choices really. You can beat yourself up over these (why?) or you can use them constructively and try to be a better, wiser person. The past is the past. Why dig it up?

Kidchameleon

OP,

Used to do that myself, I'd be working away and then, BAM! I'd think about something. After years of this, I finally realized that I was probably the only person in the world thinking about these situations and I decided to put a stop to these thoughts. What I did was, whenever I thought about something bad, I immediately switched my thinking to something good. After a few weeks of this I was in control. Now, I rarely have these thoughts! Actually I found out that its not uncommon for people to have thoughts about embarrsing situations so dont feel alone! Also remember, EVERYONE has done many many things that embarrass them, that's life!

Vicxas

Dont worry OP i get this too, sometimes i cringe at stuff ive said or done. but it passes with time. just dont dwell on it.

Cionn

Happened to me constantly until my 30's then I met wife and had kids, so I don't have time to think about it now. I expect it will return when I'm in my 60's and have time on my hands again.
Remember we have all made asses out of ourselves at some stage, the thing to note is that nobody thinks of these things other than us, acknowledge the thoughts as they come into you head, and move on swiftly. There is nothing we can do about the past, look forward to the future.

C