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Can't forget...

  • 27-03-2011 1:39am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok, going unreg for this; basically fell in love with someone a few years ago; very physical relationship, my first.....and while I know he felt for me, I always knew the feelings were stronger on my behalf; he lives in France, and I was heartbroken when I realised there would be no future relationship between us. I mean HEARTBROKEN - dropped a load of weight, stopped going out...just have never experienced the level of depression before..the only thing going through my head during this period was what a load of bulls**t that saying "It's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all".... 'cos if I could have gone back in time, I would have avoided said person, and remained alone so as not to ever experience the grief I did.....Anyway, 2 years later I've moved on somewhat, 'tho I still fear getting too involved with someone. I was probably doing pretty good and then HE contacts me via facebook; we chatted a fair bit, and he even asked if it would be ok to come over and see me (which I declined, I guess afraid old feelings may reappear). So a sorta friendship developed, altho' I still held him at 'arms length' so to speak; I just found out he has started seeing someone, and while I was gutted when I initially heard this, I guess I knew nothing would ever happen with us. ....dont know what I'm asking, maybe just some advice from more experienced people? HE has been my only boyfriend, I guess (although I have been with other men since)...I just keep thinking I should have given him a second chance? Anyone out there believe in destiny/faith...and all that cr*p???I certainly never used to...and yet...... :(


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  • #2
    booboo88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,107 ✭✭✭booboo88


    2 years is a long time to be almost pining for someone. best way to get over one guy is get under another ;)
    but on a serious note, get back out there, negative thoughts attract negative actions. so think positive :)


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    The thing is, you're much better off than if you had broken up over something you could realistically control. Would you mourn more if your milk spilled during an earthquake or because you did something careless to knock it off the table?

    In your position it seems easier to me to just go get another glass of milk than the latter person who might question themselves for months or years, wondering if they could ever trust themselves with a glass of milk again.

    But there you are, wishing you could go back in time and never pour that glass of milk before that earthquake happened. Thinking you can never love another glass of milk again. Is that rational?


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