Am I Wrong?

LegacyUser

I have stared seeing a guy lately( a Few months now. really really like him) just recently separated from his wife, they have two children whom he is the main guardian, all ok I was aware of this when going into the relationship, but there is always a but. We have some mutual acquaintances girls that he spends almost as much time in contact with as myself and I am a little suspicious of one of these friends.

Supposedly she is in a difficult relationship which is ultra difficult due to her OH's state of mind, depression, mild agoraphobia and other stuff, so she says????

but I am beginning to become suspicious as I have never heard her mention the name of her OH, we meet regularly as a consequence. Being nosy as most people are and since I have been added on Facebook I have looked through her profile and I haven't seen one comment or reference to said boyfriend once. btw they live together and have done for at least two years and the relationship supposedeley outdates this? Paranioa or time to let my inner voice tell me to get the %&* out of dodge?

ApeXaviour

Not sure what this has to do with your bf.

If you meet her often (and presumably him too) what's stopping you asking a few casual questions? What's with all the cloaks and daggers?

LegacyUser

Ah really I am just looking for an opinion, they spend nearly if not more time conversing than me and the OH, jealousy has a lot to do with it probably, but worries about being made an idiot of. It's not that I think that he is up to anything currently, the issue is that when we chat she always comes up and he is a big softy which i love and don't want to change but I worry is she trying to make moves in some underhand way. I'm not used to all this and I just feel a little uncomfortable about it all. Just looking for opinions, given I can't find a reference to this persons OH, do you think it is all made up?

allym

So because she doesn't mention her boyfriend's name, you think he doesn't exist? To be honest if they're together for two years and she's such good friends with your boyfriend, I'm sure he would have noticed by now if it was all made up?

Neyite

I dont refer to my partner on facebook, and I can assure you he is very much real.

I am FB friends with most of his family, but he has no interest in setting up a page, never had, and that grand. Because I see that he has no interest in putting up stuff about himself on a website, I dont put up stuff about him either. Its my page not his, and his privacy should be respected, irrespective of how long we are together.

But, having said that, someone I once worked with was a pure fantasist- she invented past careers, boyfriends, engagements, skills, social life - you could ask her what she had for lunch the day before and she would lie. She simply could not tell the truth.

Next time you are having a drink with her, just ask his name and how they met maybe, she might open up a bit once she gets to know you a bit better.