Can't stop thinking about it...

LegacyUser

So, last night I was talking to an ex of mine by email. The relationship was short lived as we realised we were two different people after two months, but it was fun and sweet. This was about November/December time. He's moved back to the UK since but we kept in contact through emails and on good terms.

I checked my mail last night again and an email had just arrived. It had the same content as usual... ''how's life?'', ''how's work?'' etc. I replied and five minutes later, got another one. This meant we were both on our emails at the same time so a conversation started.

About half an hour into the conversation, it changed. One email I got asked me what I would do if we were in a room together again alone.

You can imagine how the conversation went after that and it ended up getting quite detailed. So, what's the problem?
Well, I haven't been able to stop thinking about what he said and described since. It's been driving me mad all day and I don't know what to do! Nothing like that has ever played on my mind, incessantly, for so long and I haven't anyone else to turn to for advice.

Meeting up again isn't possible as neither of us would be able to take time off work nor could we afford the flight over. All my money goes towards rent and shopping every week. He hasn't a high income either I know.

What should I do!?

LegacyUser

If you want to get the thoughts of the emails out of your head the first thing you need to do is delete them...trust me I've been in the same situation just slightly different. I knew nothing was ever going to happen between me and him again, but we were emailing and they often turned quite adult. It drove me mad and I couldn't get the thoughts of those emails out of my head, and I often found myself re-reading them which obviously just made it worse!
Even if you don't really want to, delete them or you will do the same no doubt. It pained me a bit to delete them because being honest they were a good read if you get me! But it helped massivley once I did and with time you begin to simply forget. And try not to entertain it when you start thinking about them again, that can be easier said than done I know, but once your imagination gets going it can be incredibly hard to stop. I found when I kept allowing myself to think about it and let things play out in my head, it only got worse and I kept thinking about it more and more often till it was pretty much constantly through the day.

I know too well what you're talking about, and believe me deleting all of them will be the best thing you can do

IrishEyes19

the thing is, OP, not to rush into it. Did he even suggest to ever meet up again, if you two have a history and still talk, this could just be casual flirty talk, not getting back together, and that he's interested talk. you need to be sure about that before you get emotionally invested again.

muboop1

You said yourself that there is no chance of meeting up so...

Either keep doing what you are doing, sexting or whatever cool word there is for the email version of it, or forget about it and get on with your life!

If you can't meet up, unfortunately thats life! Plus, odds are ur fantasy... well real life rarely is as gud as our imagination!