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Should love just hit you..

  • 24-03-2011 10:59am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ive been with my bf just over 6 months and wondering should i be in love with him after so long?? The thing is, i might love him i dont know, like i miss him already 5 mins after he leaves, hes my best friend, hes so funny, so nice, i would put his feelings before my own. But shouldnt you KNOW when youre in love??


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  • #2
    Fluorescence
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 8,490 Mod ✭✭✭✭Fluorescence


    It's only 6 months. Depending on whether or not you already knew him, that's a fairly short amount of time to get to know someone. Rule of thumb though is if you're not sure you're probably not in love. Yet ;) Just relax and give it time. What's the rush?


  • #3
    G86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,660 ✭✭✭G86


    fluorescence wrote: »
    Rule of thumb though is if you're not sure you're probably not in love.

    +1 on this. But to be honest, if you're still not sure after 6 months then I'd have a think about whether you ever will.


  • #4
    Squiggler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 945 ✭✭✭Squiggler


    What people call "being in love" is such a complex thing, it's made up of a mix of attraction, affection, caring, desire, lust, need and other feelings, and many of those feelings are prone to alteration. That habit that is cute, or mildly irritating at first can rapidly become extremely irritating.

    When making decisions about a relationship I always found it better to think about whether I could see myself spending the rest of my life with the person, as I now knew them. If the answer became "no" then it was time to end the relationship so both of us could look for a "yes".

    But if you are happy, if this guy adds to your life then I don't think you should be worrying.


  • #5
    Angeles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 232 ✭✭Angeles


    blahhh91 wrote: »
    i miss him already 5 mins after he leaves, hes my best friend, hes so funny, so nice, i would put his feelings before my own

    Honestly op it sounds like your already in love with him, problem is most of us out there don't actually know it until we've lost it :rolleyes: as the saying goes - love is blind.

    You appear to have a good relationship going so, personally I'd suggest you ignore that question altogether and just enjoy yourself with your BF
    Have fun, explore and learn the feelings you have for eachother, you're mind and heart will let you know how happy you are with him, or unhappy.
    Listen to those feelings :)


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Snap!! I was thinking the exact same way after six months...a year even and two years later i'm still with him! happy out :)
    you should just enjoy what ye have! Dont stress about it-if your happy in the relationship then stick with it!


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  • #7
    LooseMoose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11 ✭LooseMoose


    Angeles wrote: »
    Honestly op it sounds like your already in love with him, problem is most of us out there don't actually know it until we've lost it :rolleyes: as the saying goes - love is blind.

    You appear to have a good relationship going so, personally I'd suggest you ignore that question altogether and just enjoy yourself with your BF
    Have fun, explore and learn the feelings you have for eachother, you're mind and heart will let you know how happy you are with him, or unhappy.
    Listen to those feelings :)

    Got to agree I was in love when 19 although it only actually lasted 6 months I didn't realise till it was over!!

    Fast forward 8 years and numerous relationships later, I'm now seeing a girl who only after 6 months I find myself nearly saying it by mistake and stopping myself (it's not something I've ever said to anyone!).

    What I think the best thing for you to do is just relax and go with it. What's the rush?? Once your enjoying yourself and getting on and you feel it could lead to something good stick at it! If you feel it is going no where that's when you should end it for both your sakes.


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