question about breasts

LegacyUser

I am 30 years old and a few months ago had breast reduction surgery (it wasn't vanity by the way, needed to be done and please take my word for that).

I feel slightly more comfortable now not having to wear baggy clothes all the time, it's not perfect but it's a big improvement to be honest.

What I've discovered through this experience is that it hasn't changed me overnight as in I haven't gone shopping as I should have since the before the operation in November, haven't done any shopping at all, still wearing the surgical bra, it's like I've been avoiding it on some level I'm not aware of.
Anyway that's just something I noticed and it's just some sort of laziness I suppose.

The main problem I have now is the scarring. It's hypertrophic type scarring as in the scar in healing has become thicker and redder than it should have. So I have these scars all round my breasts now. So I feel better about the overall shape with clothes on as it's more in proportion but I am still at square 1 in that I can't present myself as attractive to someone knowing I've got scars underneath that will take several months or even a year or more to heal. Might as well never had the operation for all the difference it's made to my personal life

Very (very!) gradually I'm noticing they feel softer but I look in the mirror and just these purpish scars, it's horrible and one of them is quite square and I can't see it ever having a natural shape. They feel okay if someone is just fondling but if someone was to examine closely they'd feel the lumps and bumps.

If you were a guy would this turn you off someone completely?

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dory

You're still in the recovery stage, so relax and give yourself time to heal.

I could say the same about my teeth. I've had braces for 6 months, they've made a big difference, but not to my personal life yet. I'll have to wait to get them off for that.

Similarly with you. You knew before you began that it would not be an overnight thing. Give yourself the year to heal. If you're not ready to take your clothes off in front of someone then don't.

But as for someone being bothered. It depends on the person. Would you be turned off if a guy had an appendix scar? If it's a necessary surgery they should understand. If they don't there are plenty of curbs you can kick them to.

Doogieboogie

OP, a friend of mine had breast reduction surgery and had the same problems as you - as in, raised, red scars, deformed shape and in her case, nipples that were placed way too high on her breasts.

Now, a couple of years later, the scars have faded and the lumpiness has gone out of them, and the square shape has settled into a more natural profile. Her nipples still seem a bit high but again, they are settling down.

Trust me when I say this, you are just hyper-sensitive about them right now. In a couple of years you won't give them a second thought. My friend even sunbathed topless last summer on hols.

Give it time. Cosmetic surgery doesn't cure all negative perceptions of ourselves (and I say this as someone about to embark on surgery herself) it just corrects the physical to an extent, and I think a lot of people are initially disappointed that the surgery results don't magically make their life perfect. Your breasts will settle down in time, in the meantime, you should learn to not focus on them as much.

(Also, if it helps - you could glue banana leaves to each of them, and most men wouldn't care - breasts are breasts!!)

mood

Have you looked into creams etc that might speed up the healing?
Maybe ask you surgeon, GP, in a chemist or health food store.
Vit E or Bio Oil could be options or maybe something on percription would be needed.

sundodger5

saw a thing in the paper recently about products that help scars heal better. The winner was a product called Kelocote, your pharmacy should be able to get it.

cantdecide

It's obviously a huge upheaval. It's not like the issue cropped up in October and was done and dusted by November. You need lots and lots of time to make these adjustments and especially where there were consequences/ side effects to contend with. I would suggest you make yourself go shopping and start to embrace the new you even if you aren't sure what that means. Any guy lucky enough to see your breasts won't be put off by a few scars from a common standard medical procedure.

LegacyUser

As a man, i wouldn't have any issues with your scars. Its normal after the surgery you've had and will heal in time. Any mature man is looking at the women attached to the breasts and if he likes you if wouldn't bother him in the slightest. Sure, he might ask you why you have scars just out of curiosity but that would be the end of it and he wouldn't give it another thought. Don't stress about it, the guy will just be happy that hes in a position to see your breasts in the first place.