First date...head wrecked!

LegacyUser

Hi guys,

Would really appreciate some insights...not a big dater so possibly over-thinking this whole scenario!

Went on a first date on Sunday night, he's a guy I met on a dating site but we quickly moved to facebook and texting. Got on amazingly well, lots to talk about, stayed in the bar from 9 until close and then he came back to my place, where we ended up kissing and cuddling all night.

All very PG and he didn't pull any big moves (!!) but it was very passionate, he was very affectionate and we basically ended up sleeping wrapped around each other until he left at 9am Monday morning (we both work late shifts)

I'm a smitten kitten. But I haven't heard from him since. I know it's only really been two days but I'm thinking about him constantly ever since, so decided to text him tonight (Tuesday) shortly after 11pm. Generic really, just saying hello and hope his week is going well. Nothing back.

Is this a definite 'not interested'? I'm just really confused because I really like the guy and after the amazing time we had I thought it was a mutual thing. Do I just need to move on?

God dating is bloody exhausting! Any and all advice is appreciated! Thanks

Staplor

He was probably trying to play it cool, he could have been asleep after 11 so give him a chance to reply. No need to worry yet

mood

Staplor wrote: »

He was probably trying to play it cool, he could have been asleep after 11 so give him a chance to reply. No need to worry yet

If it were me I wouldn't have any interest in anyone who wouldn't reply to a text because they are trying to play it cool. If he doesn't reply today he isn't interested or he is playing games.

LegacyUser

Surprised you didn't text him before that (I'm male but would expect text that soon if someone was interested). He might have thought you weren't interested. If you haven't heard from him by end of the day today, I would text again telling him that you did like him and ask him straight if he is interested or not.

I'm sure if he lost is phone or something he would contact you online.

Permabear

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mood

assddfff wrote: »

Surprised you didn't text him before that (I'm male but would expect text that soon if someone was interested). He might have thought you weren't interested. If you haven't heard from him by end of the day today, I would text again telling him that you did like him and ask him straight if he is interested or not.

I'm sure if he lost is phone or something he would contact you online.

The fact that she sent a text already lets him know that she likes him.
If someone doesn't reply to a text it means they are not interested plain and simple. There is always a possibility he lost his phone or whatever but that clutching at straws in my opinion.

Hopefully he will reply soon. Great if he does but if not move on asap.

LegacyUser

Hi guys

Thanks for the advice.

I should note, I'm in Canada so 5am was really 1am...
And he's Canadian, not that it makes a difference (I think?)

Anyway it's 11.30am and nothing yet. Generally I'm the first to point out the obvious when it comes to this, I mean he's been pretty routine with texts and if that stops it obviously means he's not interested. It's just disappointing, that's all! Especially as I thought Sunday night was one of the better first dates I've been on.

Anyway. I'm at work today and conveniently left my phone at home. Means at least I might get a bit of work done! Thanks for all the advice and insights, it's a huge help.