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Anger towards myself and my ex!

  • 22-03-2011 10:41pm
    #1
    gayguy2009
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 70 ✭✭


    Well its been nearly a year since I've seen my ex, for some reason I haven't forgotten the pain I felt when he broke up with me. I let him manipulate me and push me around, when I was so nice to him. I feel angry at him for doing this, but angry at myself as well for being too nice, and not saying something to him when I should have. Why am I holding such anger still nearly a year on. I'm happy were not together now, kind of see the big picture. But why do I still hold so much anger towards him and myself. Does it mean I'm not fully over him? Or is it just something wrong with me? I have a lot of rage and I just wish I could go back in time and give out to him when I should of. Just feel I need some sort of revenge. Does that make me a bad person?


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  • #2
    IrishEyes19
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,861 ✭✭✭IrishEyes19


    If you have no wish to get back with him, then you are almost over him, that doesnt mean the anger and hurt goes away immediately especially if the break up was horrible and your ex acted unkind during it.

    It doesnt make you a bad person either to want revenge, but its not a good idea, only because it re-instates in the ex's head why you broke up in the first place. Honestly the best revenge towards an unkind ex is to look happy and good if you ever run into them again. You leave them with the thought that you are perfectly happy without them and life has moved on in good directions for you, ever since the split.

    Gushing your heart out and getting angry with them will either result in a fight, possible blocking of phone number, complaints and general gossiping about you behind your back which is the last thing you would want. If you really want to vent, vent on a letter and then burn the thing forever. But leave with your dignity intact, dont let that ex take any more of you emotionally than they have already.


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