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Illness, college, social life

  • 21-03-2011 7:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I've got kind of a complex problem but hopefully someone can help. Basically I'm in my final year of college but I sort of feel isolated from my peers. I've been battling cancer since I was 14 and am 22 now, the disease is fairly stable now and doing well academically at college, Thank God. But due to my illness I haven't been able to participate in any of the social stuff, I don't have the energy after spending the day studying.

    Not too many people know about my situation, only about 3 friends in college know about my illness. I wanted people to know me and judge my work without feeling sorry for me. I sort of feel not having gone to the social stuff at college I've missed out on a lot at college. I would only have a small number of friends but I'd be very friendly and small-talk with the people in my classes.

    There is a big class ball on tonight and I'm one of the few not going. A girl in my class asked me why I wasn't going and I kind of lied and said I didn't get a ticket. I feel very guilty about that, not only did I lie to her but I feel like I denied who I am. A good friend of mine, one of the few at college who know about my situation, said that some people were asking about why I spend most of the day in the library and don't go on any of the nights out. He says that he just tells them there's a very good reason and to ask me myself- no one has.

    I guess I'm just venting here and hoping someone has any advice or similar experience on avoiding this feeling of isolation from the rest of the group. It can just get to me sometimes when all my peers are out having a social life and I can't. Thanks for taking the time to read this.


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  • #2
    CathyMoran
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,458 ✭✭✭CathyMoran


    Hi, I am in a different situation to you in that I am in my 30's and a 4 year cancer survivor but I do have chronic fatigue that only my husband fully understands (he also suffers from fatigue due to a long term illness). I tend to do things during the day on days off and have lunches out - yes, it is not ideal but I still get to enjoy life.


  • #3
    bert61
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10 ✭bert61


    CathyMoran wrote: »
    Hi, I am in a different situation to you in that I am in my 30's and a 4 year cancer survivor but I do have chronic fatigue that only my husband fully understands (he also suffers from fatigue due to a long term illness). I tend to do things during the day on days off and have lunches out - yes, it is not ideal but I still get to enjoy life.

    Great! hehe


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