Can you be friends with an ex?

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The tribunal asks-can you be friends with an ex

Royal Irish

Every Ex is different. Some can be friends, some cant. Alot of it all depends on how the relationship ends really.

Big Nasty

In my experience yes, but needs a cooling off period of about a year.

RasTa

Nah no point. You can be fine when you see them, waffling away but still hanging out or arranging to go for drinks/cinema doesn't work.

LighterGuy

MCMLXXV wrote: »

In my experience yes, but needs a cooling off period of about a year.

Generally a cooling off period has to happen. Could be a year? could be 6 months? Could be 3 years? no one can say how long.

But ultimately its how the relationship ended. If you get cheated on, used, lied to etc etc you are a fool to ever be friends with such a person again. be it 6 years away. You can say "water under the bridge" all you want. But if someone is willing to hurt you in a relationship... which is means more than a friendship.. how on earth could you ever trust them being friends?

but more importantly, why would you wanna be friends with someone who hurt you? ... it madness.

Asphyxia

It depends on how the relationship ended. I'm still friends with one of mine but the others have hurted me too much to have any kind of friendship with them.

Sometimes you can and sometimes you can't

super_furry

Only if you honestly don't fancy them anymore. Even in that situation, if they're still attracted to you, then it's just going to cause problems.

Kimono-Girl

yes, i am friends currently with two ex's,
with the first ex i am friends with he suggested a 3 month cooling period, it worked so i tried it with the second ex i currently talk to and again we are now good friends.

it also helps they are both seeing other people as am i, as one ex stopped talking to me when i met my current partner, even though we were friends before that.


obviously it would also depend on the maturity of you both now, and why you broke up in the first place.

Micky Dolenz

I really really hope so.

wurzlitzer

No,

The ex Question is like a bad recurring dream

1. when people break up, one person may be still in love
2. sex without strings may happen, thus if its seen as getting back together by any of the participants, it gets messy
3. history ...if either embark on new relationship, the new partner will be always jealous of the ex, causing friction in the new relationship.

theres bags (baggage) more reasons

the answer for infinity will be NO

kingtut

No never!

They have all hurt me too much to even consider sticking around as their friend!

Am I bitter? Hell Yes! :mad:

AckwelFoley

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kingtut

snyper wrote: »

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NO!

So what you really mean is yes

Pauleta

I was out with my ex girlfriend the other night. Im still friends with her and her boyfriend is my friend before i met her. Although it was so long ago, it doesnt even feel like she is an ex-girlfriend, just a mate.

Kiera

Pissy ex's that last only 3-6 months then yeah i'm friends with most them but i would never be friends with any of my long term exes. Waaaay too much hassle!

wurzlitzer

To Pauleta

"I was out with my ex girlfriend the other night. Im still friends with her and her boyfriend is my friend before i met her. Although it was so long ago, it doesnt even feel like she is an ex-girlfriend, just a mate."

really...
so how did her boyfriend meet her

if he was a friend before you met her?

was it a result of a threesome?

AckwelFoley

Kiera wrote: »

Pissy ex's that last only 3-6 months then yeah i'm friends with most them but i would never be friends with any of my long term exes. Waaaay too much hassle!

yes - because they're ex's for a reason

Not to mention the complications with ones current squeese

Ickle Magoo

I'm sure people can - I have never wanted to...

JCDUB

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

I really really hope so.

Sounds like you need to not see your ex. For your own good. Not preaching, just saying.

I guess so yeah.

Copper23

Of course you can, unless they were unreasonable in any way.

Sanjuro

Yes. But it depends on feelings when the break happened, how close you were, was it good while it lasted, why the relationship broke apart, etc, etc. It's rare that it happens, but it can. I've an ex I'm still friends with. But in my own experience, she's the exception to the generalisation.

St.Spodo

I can't, no. I can be courteous and friendly when I need to be, but not ''friends''. Don't really know why, embitterment probably

rebel10

Totally depends on the circumstances surrounding the break-up.

Two or three of my past boyfriends are friends of mine, but I don't see them that often. Perhaps everytime a big gang of us meet up. We are friends on facebook, but I wouldn't be texting them or anything.
One ex, who I was seeing for 3 years, tried his best to remain friends, but he found it too difficult, he became quite bitter, we decided to let that friendship go after about a year. Every time I see him and his new wife :rolleyes: I always make sure to have a quick chat.
The last relationship i was in, 6 years, ended because he didn't love me anymore. I still loved him and demanded that we needed to stay friends because I felt I needed him in my life after such a long time. Unfortunately, he kinda took advantage of my vulnerability and slept with me whenever he felt like it just cause he knew I still loved him. After 2 months of deciding to have no contact with him over the last summer, I came to realise that he couldn't really be a true friend, as much as I wanted him to be, not after using me so much and hurting me. We ring each other every 2 weeks just for a quick catch-up, but that's really where it ends.

Sorry, very long answer!:o

TeddyTedson

Well men and women don't actually like each other really so what's the point? Men want sex and women want babies and what not.
I'm off out to chop some firewood:pac::P:D

darragh16

My ex is one of my best mates. I still would though

Novella

I'm friends with most of mine, except my most serious one. I dunno. This sounds so clichéd, but we went through a lot together and it just became too hard for us to chat and joke about trivial things. It was always like there was an elephant in the room.

rebel10

Novella wrote: »

I'm friends with most of mine, except my most serious one. I dunno. This sounds so clichéd, but we went through a lot together and it just became too hard for us to chat and joke about trivial things. It was always like there was an elephant in the room.

Sorry had to be done!

Up-n-atom!

Of course, but it really does depend. I'm not on great terms with one or two of mine but some of my friend's best friends are ex's of theirs, and there's no weirdness at all (and they're all in other relationships)

stovelid

Of course.

Easier if you're both with other people though.