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Difficulties living abroad

Brad Goodman · 2011-03-21 17:22:00

I live abroad with my girlfriend, who's from here, and whom I love very much. The trouble is, while I currently have a job here it's not something I can see myself doing for the next 30 years. I can't just change it though coz its one of the very few jobs here where native english is needed and you don't need to be fluent…

21-03-2011 5:22pm

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Brad Goodman

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I live abroad with my girlfriend, who's from here, and whom I love very much. The trouble is, while I currently have a job here it's not something I can see myself doing for the next 30 years. I can't just change it though coz its one of the very few jobs here where native english is needed and you don't need to be fluent in the native language. So I've been here 2 years now and we're talking about making a life here, marriage, kids etc which I really want but I'm scared because of my lack of options. It would take at least 2 years (absolute minimum) of solid studying of the language to get to a respectable level in terms of speaking and writing, so financially that's just not a runner. Returning to Ireland, especially in its current state, would be a nightmare. I have the option of returning to an old job there but my girlfriend has a good job here and would never get anything like that in Ireland. Plus I know she'd miss her friends and family terribly which would put a huge strain on the relationship. Our relationship is currently very strong but she can see I've been down lately. It's hard to motivate myself for a job I don't have any real interest in. Plus I tend to just shut down and keep it all inside, which I know doesn't help anyone but I find it hard to open up. So basically I've found the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with but where do we spend it?

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