Girlfriend says she likes someone elee

LegacyUser

Im going out with my gf for 3 weeks but known each other 4 years The last week she was acting all weird and sad and wouldnt say why . I got her to open up last night and she admitted she likes someone else too . I told her i wanted to stay with her and maybe we could work things out . Were still together so ... I really have strong feelings for her and the last 3 weeks have been the best of my life ... What should i do?

Azureus

I'd distance myself from her a little bit until she makes up her mind. If she feels obliged to stay with you, it will make this other guy seem a lot more appealing and if it is making her sad then its obviously bothering her a lot. Its not her fault, its early days and its a horrible feeling being caught up with two people. She was honest with you and told you about it, so now just give her some space and let her make up her mind before getting too attached to this girl.

Giblet

It's been three weeks and she's already messing you around.

Run, and very fast.

curlzy

I'm with Giblet on this one. If I were with a guy 3 weeks and I liked another I would make a decision one way or the other before opening my mouth. I would do this because I know that saying you like someone else 3 weeks into a relationship would completely pull the rug from under my boyfriend and leave him feeling vulnerable, upset, confused and so on and I really couldn't do that to someone. What would she like you to do with this information? Should you be jumping through hoops to please her? I really would just call it off OP, she doesn't sound like she knows what she wants, she also sounds selfish, immature and I'm guessing manipulative and I'd say you deserve better than that. If she's going on like this after 3 weeks what will she be like 6 months down the line? Wrecking your head would be my bet.

murphthesmurf

I'm with the 2 above, no doubt about it. She aint no good. Its only been 3 weeks, even though you've known her for 4 yrs. Sounds immature to me. Get out now while its still only 3 weeks, as its inevitable. You don't want to wait months and then for her to do it because you'll be gutted.
Do it today, and chin up. put it down to experience.
Bit excessive you may think, but necessary.

IrishEyes19

Sorry to hear that, OP, but everyones advice here is spot on. Sure you could hang around and wait to see if things improve. But three weeks in, OP, you deserve all of her attention. We dont know the full details, so Im sure your gf doesnt want to hurt you, most people dont, but this will hurt you, because it causes doubt. And doubt is a killer of relationships. No one can tell you what to do, but like another poster said here, maybe give her space and leave her be for a while, tell her you like her, but you cant be messed around either and that you are moving on and wont wait around either, however if she feels she can decide now, now would be the time to do it.

no point giving her time to decide, better of you end it and move on rather than waiting for an answer from her, I dont like that power control there. she shouldnt have to decide, you are bf, not a candy bar that she picks of the shelf. She either wants you or doesnt.

chillywilly

While I generally agree with Giblets post, I disagree that she is "messing you around". She clearly has feelings for someone else which she has been honest with you about.

I don't think that "staying with her and working things out" is the solution. It's not really something that the two of you can work out. This is her issue and she clearly has to decide who she prefers. In my opinion the two of you need time apart as she needs time to chose who she wants to be with.

LegacyUser

OP, you sound very young and inexperienced. From experience, what I will say is that these scenarios generally lead to you being hurt. As Giblet said, get yourself away from her and her situation as soon as possible, before you become more attached and find yourself hurt or upset when things go pear shaped, which they will.