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No libido due to meds, what to tell bf? :(

  • 20-03-2011 8:12pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi there,

    I’m going unreg for this one.

    I love my bf to bits and I find him incredibly and utterly attractive. However, a couple of months ago my libido died completely (we’ve been together for 2 years).

    3 things happened at the time, 1) I started taking the pill 2) I started taking other meds, 3) I gained weight.

    I already changed the pill for another type but it really didn’t help. I can’t stop or replace
    the other med. I could work on the weight part, but I don’t think that’s the main thing, as I also don’t feel anything anymore when masturbating.

    My bf is quite shy and it’s really difficult to talk about it with him. I don’t want him to think it has anything to do with him, cos it doesn’t, but it’s also hard to make him believe it’s all down to a medication that can’t be changed. (I know it is, but will he believe me?)

    I’m going through a really exhausting moment at work, so to be honest I don’t even miss sex/masturbation… but I can’t leave him hanging there!

    Should I just do it even if I don’t feel like it? It's still enjoyable, but it's not something I crave all the time.

    I would really appreciate some opinions.

    Thanks a lot.


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP it could be simply that the pill doesn't suit you at all, maybe go back to your doctor and ask about alternative types of contraception? With regards the weight, personally you'd be amazed what wonders even an hours exercise be that as simple as a brisk walk or hitting the gym a day can do, i don't even mean doing this to lose weight just purely to get some exercise, it really wakes you up. And i know personally after the gym i'm ready to pounce on someone i'm so revved up lol, pity i'm single :(

    I do think you need to talk with your bf though, if he's shy maybe you could just explain it to him when you're cuddled up in bed or something? You don't even necessarily have to get into a discussion about it, just explain and let him listen. At least then he'll know it's not him. I'm sure he'll understand OP, hormones in particular can really screw up your sex drive.


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