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Brother getting married...

  • 20-03-2011 5:20pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My younger brther is getting married in two months. Another brother is going to be the best man. The brother who is getting married has lived in Dubin for the last couple of years and we only see each other every couple of months but we were very close when we were younger.
    The two of us went for a few pints last night and as the night went on the conversation turned to his upcoming wedding. He broke down and told me that he'd had two affairs over the last two years, one of which was still going on. I was gobsmacked when he told me this as I thought himself and his fiancee were hed over heels for each other. He tells me they do love each other - but he can't help screwing around.
    To be honest I didn't know what to say to him so I ended up just listening really.My instinct was to tell him to break off the engagement unless he could stop playing cheating but I don't know if that is wise? I'm in a total muddle.


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  • #2
    Crea
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    My advice would be to talk to the brother and tell him to put off the wedding. A person doesn't cheat in a relationship they are totally happy in. He needs to look into the real reason for his infidelity and fix this before getting married.
    Best of luck


  • #3
    Aishae
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    he defo might need a step back - perhaps he thinks that by marrying his gf he ont screw around anymore. but thats not true, marrying wont change his actions. only he can. so maybe he even has to ask himself why he's marrying her if hes screwing around - is he happy? perhaps he just cant seem to say no or chase after a bit of tail, a habit he needs to break. but either way id suggest to him that he nees to examine his reasons all round


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Op here again. Thanks for the replies. I was thinking along the same lines but didn't say it - telling your brother to call off his wedding is a big deal. I don't know how his fiancee would react to is postponing it - they've been engaged for over a year, everything is arranged etc.

    I guess in the back of my mind I'm irrationally thinking that once he gets married he'll stop cheating.


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