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How to meet gay guys in Dublin?

  • 20-03-2011 12:56pm
    #1
    sitstill
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,380 ✭✭✭


    I'm 28 and from Dublin. I've had boyfriends in the past but have been single now for almost 4 years! I know how to get random sex - that's easy. But how do you meet guys interested in a bit more than that in Dublin??

    It's definitely not on the scene and I tried Gaydar and Grindr - all I seem to find is guys that just want fun.

    How do other guys do it?

    Thanks :-(


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  • #2
    rochey84
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 318 ✭✭rochey84


    I know what you mean, I haven't been single for all that long but would prefer to go on a few dates and see what happens, I'm not setting down hard and fast rules like "no sex or kissin on a first date" my motto is if it feels right at the time do it!!! but I would still like to go on a date and see if it leads anywhere, you'd imagine Dublin being such a big place that it would be easy to meet guys who are interested in more than just fun but its either just fun or serious relationships, personally I feel that you don't know if you want a relationship until the right person comes along and they can come along at any time even when someone is saying they don't want a relationship! I've done the whole random meet thing where you go to a guys house or car or wooded area lol and the extent of the conversation is "hi how big are you" and I'm over that. I know that there are gonna be loads of replies to this saying join social clubs and college society's but that isn't neccessarily an option for me!!!! so in answer to your question, I don't know!!! sorry about the rant


  • #3
    deasyd
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78 ✭✭deasyd


    I don't think they exist. I have lost all faith in our community. I think lesbians fair a lot better when it comes to this.


  • #4
    Barna77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,272 ✭✭✭Barna77


    Sounds like we need another Queer Beers :)


  • #5
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,156 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Barna77 wrote: »
    Sounds like we need another Queer Beers :)
    yeah we do - feel free to organise it

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #6
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,156 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    rochey84 wrote: »
    I know that there are gonna be loads of replies to this saying join social clubs and college society's but that isn't neccessarily an option for me!!!!
    why is it not an option?

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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  • #7
    Barna77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,272 ✭✭✭Barna77


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    yeah we do - feel free to organise it
    After a week of epic fails making plans (including being stood up on a date...:mad:), if I organise it the venue of choice would probably close down gone busted... Bad luck magnet... :(


  • #8
    rochey84
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 318 ✭✭rochey84


    Johnnymcg wrote: »
    why is it not an option?

    Because I work shift work and my hours can change at the drop of a hat and therefore it I can't commit to anything on a weekly or monthly basis. My job sucks!!!!


  • #9
    stephen_n
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,920 ✭✭✭✭stephen_n


    rochey84 wrote: »
    Because I work shift work and my hours can change at the drop of a hat and therefore it I can't commit to anything on a weekly or monthly basis. My job sucks!!!!

    We have guys who play with the warriors who work shifts and can't train for weeks at a time but that's fine and I'm sure most clubs would be the same. Life first SOCIAL second! Might make it harder for you to settle in but I certainly wouldn't rule it out if I was you.


  • #10
    rochey84
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 318 ✭✭rochey84


    ok so I accept what you're sayin Stephen but at the same time I don't think I have any serious interests that I wanna be an a la carte member of, sorry if that offends anyone who does this but if I'm into something I wanna make sure that I can give it my all, suppose that's my own little form of OCD for ya lol


  • #11
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,512 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    Is there not some kind of boy/ all gender version of running amach on meetup.com? Isn't there one called DIGS or something? That might be good,it's casual meetups but for conversation, at least so i imagine...


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  • #12
    stephen_n
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,920 ✭✭✭✭stephen_n


    rochey84 wrote: »
    ok so I accept what you're sayin Stephen but at the same time I don't think I have any serious interests that I wanna be an a la carte member of, sorry if that offends anyone who does this but if I'm into something I wanna make sure that I can give it my all, suppose that's my own little form of OCD for ya lol

    Life is all about choices and taking responsibility for those choices, why would I be offended :-)


  • #13
    rochey84
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 318 ✭✭rochey84


    stephen_n wrote: »
    Life is all about choices and taking responsibility for those choices, why would I be offended :-)

    The comment that could have been deemed offensive was "a la carte" that is what wasn't intended as offensive. You know sometimes I wish I had a normal job lol!!!!!


  • #14
    Aishae
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,800 ✭✭✭Aishae


    believe me its not necessarily easier for the ladies.
    but - it seems that even for straight people, when they end up with someone its often someone they meet in the course of things: like at college / work / through a friend / at some event or other etc. its the lucky few that manage it when they go out looking for it in the bars or the dating sites.

    and as were gay / lesbian / bi / Transgender - we meet far far far fewer people like us in the general course of things - so that makes it harder to meet someone special. so we have no real choice but to look for it. in this case its the lucky few that meet em in the course of general things. the opposite of straight when you think of it.

    not that i agree with whoever thought that style of thing up! mother nature or her evil twin.


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