Lost the love of my life

LegacyUser

I know it's a cliche to say that Love of your life and the only one for me, but i've never felt this way in my entire life,
Roll back a few weeks and I had heard alot of rumours about my ex or gf at the time that she was meeting up with guys and going on little dates etc now however true these where I don't know, about two weeks ago I went out on a night out with mutual friends of hers and mine, I heard another thing which turned out to be true which she never told me about which really sent me over the edge I called her at the heat of the moment and was like I can't deal with this I feel betrayed and you seem to be lying to me and ended it, all at the heat of the moment.
We finally sorted it out the next day and we said we would just chill out and not listen to other people, and then the next day she sends me a text out of the blue saying i need space I'll talk to you when I'm ready. It went a week and I couldn't get in contact with her, her phone was off and I didn't know what was going on. I then tried to get in contact with her, I sent her sister a text and then her an e-mail, her sister replied saying it was none of her business and to give the gf the respect and leave it out. Problem being was I had some family events coming up that I needed to see if she could go.
After that It was a week still nothing and I was getting seriously annoyed so I sent her one more e-mail and sent her sister a text saying tell my gf to please read it in which she responded don't contact me ever again leave me alone and never contact my family again. This was all out of the blue and I still don't understand, I've gotten no closure as to why or what and none of our mutual friends have heard from her at all.
I've lost the love of my life I really really miss her, we used to do everything together and I just feel empty and sick when i go out I don't want to spend any other time with other girls just don't feel like I want to even though the opportunity has been there i just don't want to.

What do I do? I just need some honest advice and help on this one!

Azureus

Honestly, I think you need to take the advice that was given to you and steer clear. I understand it is hard to come to terms with this seeing as it was so out of the blue, but if she wants space you need to give it to her. Respect her wishes if you do love her as much as you say you do.

She may get in contact, she may not. You have tried multiple times and it has gotten you nowhere. Ball is in her court.

Keep yourself busy and try not to dwell.

IrishEyes19

First of all, OP, Im sorry to hear how upset you are. Its horrendous to be left wondering with nothing to go on.

Secondly I agree with the above poster but for different reasons, I think the way your ex handled this was selfish and rude. Fair enough if she wishes to have space and talk later, but later should have a time and a date, as you shouldnt be left hanging and wondering where and what is going on. It's incredibly rude regarldess of whether it was a gf or a friend who did this.

the only thing you can do now is move on and I would do that swiftly. As far as your concerned now, you are single again, I know thats a horrible thing to feel, but she has left you in no doubt that she isnt going to talk now and you shouldnt have to wait around. It doesnt mean you have to go out and meet new people, thats going to be very hard for a while. Right now you need to surround yourself with friends and family and try and feel better. It will take time, but it works.

Delete her number and off facebook if you have to. I dont normally agree with being childish or making rash decisions like this, but she has been incredibly selfish ignoring you when she agreed to talk soon and also by doing this by text, which is so cowardly. So return the favour here and show her, you are ok. Which I know you are not. But right now she seems to have the controls and its your buttons that are being pressed. Do it for yourself. I know right now, you are thinking, how to get her back. Dont!!! Just think how you can get yourself back on track again. Best of luck:)

kjl

The old bait and switch, a lot of girls do similar things. When you broke up with her she didn't want to be the one who was dumped, so she takes you back for a day or two and then tells you it's not working and dumps you back. Sounds crazy, but this has happened to me twice when I was younger.

Forget about this girl, anyone who would treat you like this is not worth it. I think she got caught with her hand in the cookie jar and now wont own up to what she did.

Admittedly maybe you did go a bit nuts ringing her sister the whole time, but in fairness I see where this madness came from.

I am going to assume you are in the 16-20 age bracket, I know it stings now, but I assure you she is not the love of your life and you will get over this and find someone new, you just need a month or two to forget about it.