is love supposed to hurt

jenniephat

hi i'm posting on my friends account as i havent created my own one yet.
anyway to cut a long story short- im a 25yr old guy and ive been seeing a girl (24) for 3 months now. we are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend but i am madly in love with her but i dont want to be. ive told her i love her and she said she loves me too.

the main question i ask is why does love hurt soo much? i seem to be so miserable all the time. i cant stop thinking about her- she consumes my every thought and i've lost interest in normal daily life. i just feel like the old fun me is gone! is it normal to feel this way? shes so beautiful and such a good girl. i miss her so much when i dont see her for a few days. im finding it very hard.

my heart pains me.

Zen65

jenniephat wrote: »

we are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend but i am madly in love with her but i dont want to be. ive told her i love her and she said she loves me too.

Op,

What does this mean? Why don't you want to be in love with this girl? What do you mean that you are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend?

I don't think it's love that's hurting you ... it's your indecision!

Be at peace,

Z

jenniephat

Zen65 wrote: »

Op,

What does this mean? Why don't you want to be in love with this girl? What do you mean that you are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend?

I don't think it's love that's hurting you ... it's your indecision!

Be at peace,

Z

i dont wanna be in love with her cos its so hard for me. shes ok not seeing me for a full week but i find it very hard not seeing her for this length of time. im not the one whos indecisive- she is! i always ask her are we boyfriend and girlfriend but although she loves me so much she never says she is my girlfriend. she keeps talking about not being sure what she wants and im afraid she will leave me.
im scared of her hurting me but i cant resist her.
whenever she is with me, i just dont want her to leave.. ive never felt this way before in all my life. am i in love?

BraziliaNZ

You're insecure. Speaking from very harsh experience, you need to stop asking her if you are bf/gf, STOP telling her you love her all the time, and get a life, basically.
Keep yourself busy, don't be so available all the time, and worry more about making yourself happy rather than making her happy or being happy with her. You can't be so dependent on someone, it's a recipe for disaster.
There's a lot of truth in the old cliché that women want what they can't have. I have to say though that the way you're talking here, this can only end in disaster, you've got it bad kid!

Blumentopf

I would say you're head over heels in love - and it seems for the first time and it scares the living daylight out of you because you've never felt like this (out of control!) and unfortunately the situation is somewhat volatile with the other person being non-commital about it. Just go with the flow. Enjoy it and try not to suffocate her, because that might scare her away.

Ickle Magoo

OP, can you either post unregistered or set up an account of your own please to save confusion from having multiple PI threads with the same user name but stating they are from different people sharing the one ID.

Many thanks