Left a note on her car but she didnt call back

LegacyUser

So, there is this lovely girl who works in a local store, Im a regular shopper there, you can say on daily basis I go there to buy my daily fresh bread.

I meet this girl almost always at that time, it seems her shift begins there, and we usually have couple of words and then i disappear.

Lately she began to remember my items and we became almost talking like we know each other, so I decided since shes geinunly nice person and gives me "I like you" signs sometimes to ask her out, but being considering her job environment and the awakwardness of the whole situation, I thought it might be good idea to leave a note on her car (total coincednce! I parked while she was parking in front of me, hence, i knew its her car).. but before doing so, i checked with my coworkers and friends whether its good idea or will freak her out, and all male friends said NO, while all girl friends recommended the note thingie and said they would love to happen to them someday!

So, i made the plan to write 4 lines note, apologising for not asking face to face, and inviting her on a coffee sometime to get to know here more. and apologising again if the note on her car is inappropriate. the note contained my name (and sign of who i am) and my phone number.

i went to the store, parked next to her car, stick the note nbetween the wiper and the windshiled of her car, then went to the shop, shopped the usuals, approched her, told her i left her a note on her windshiled. she looked amazed/shocked for 10 seconds, then smiled when i told her its inconsiderate to ask her face to face while customers are around all times. i asked her to reply to if possible, and she smiled back and said ok... i left while feeling like flying, happy to be going out (notice how i presumed!) with the first girl I geniunely wanted to go out with! and that night kept looking at the time to become 10pm (the shop closes at this time) so she can go to her car and read the note and then text me back (notice the presumption!!).. unfortaunitly its day 2 now, and no hear from her side at all..

Today, full of disappointment, I decided to shop in the next shop (around 10km drive!) to avoid embaressing her or encountering any awkward moment with her. I still feel sorry for myself, and cant believe how genuine ppl can be disappointed easly..


I have no clue what to do, I just realised that i have to move on now, and Im able to do, but what Im not able to do, is to ask a girl anymore out the real way.. i just feel like i can only score with random girls in a drunken night out.. its not a confidence matter, rather its just a believe of the dating sense in ireland...


girls.. any clues here? Im still feel confused..

LegacyUser

maybe the note was gone by the time she got to it? or maybe she is not that into you...

i have no idea.

The Lovely Muffin

Maybe someone else came along and took the note off her car before she got to get it/see it?

Are you sure she likes you the same way you like her OP? Does she have a boyfriend?

LegacyUser

You did what you could to try and get her attantion, but you also presumed a little bit too much as you are aware of yourself. Go and shop in that place next time and just try to act as normal as possible, just say to her that you where told by your friends it would be a romantic thing to do, but you understand that you might have been pushing boundaries. She is probably there to work, not to be chatted up, and if she wanted to be chatted up she would go to a club- that's just the way it is and why it is easier to find someone in clubs. She was possibly a bit freaked out, not because she does not like you but because it was just an unexpected thing to do. Also, the fact that you knew which car was hers may seem like you have been stalking her, she does not know it was by coincidence, possibly. Maybe just apologise for the note, say that it was a mistake as you understand it may seem weird.

LegacyUser

Yeah OP, there's a million reasons why she may not have gotten the note, it could of blown away, someone else may have taken it off, it could've rained and the gotten destroyed/unreadable.

She could also have a boyfriend or she may not be into you and was just being friendly.

I think you should really go back into the shop again and let her serve you, yeah it might be a bit awkward, but at least you'll know for sure the reason she didn't text you. If she serves you and doesn't make any reference to the note, well then you'll know she's not interested. It could on the the other hand be that she may not have gotten the note, she could be waiting for you to come back into the shop to tell you that she didn't get it, i mean if she didn't get the note or if something happened to it, she has no other way of contacting you! Either way at least if you go back to the shop and see her again you'll know for sure!

Fair play for having the guts to do what you did OP, most women, myself included would be flattered if it happened to them, the irish dating scene is pretty depressing alright, but please don't let that stop you from approaching women in "the real world", seriously it really makes a change from the drunken nightclub hookups, i think if more men (and women) had the guts to approach people like you have, we'd all be happier for it,

All the best OP

LegacyUser

Thank you all for your kind reploes. the note is in an envelop and her car is parked in front of the main shop entrance, hence, its very unlikely for the ote to fly or being taken by any person..

she does not have a boyfriend and also the signs she gave me from day one were positive.


I know i expected too much, but maybe because all conditions were at my side.


If she has a reason not to go out with me, wouldnt it be good idea and polite of her if she text or call me apologising for not being able to go otu wit me? at least in return to my genuine attempt to ask her out?

thanks guys, you all are lovely

LegacyUser

lc nm wrote: »

You did what you could to try and get her attantion, but you also presumed a little bit too much as you are aware of yourself. Go and shop in that place next time and just try to act as normal as possible, just say to her that you where told by your friends it would be a romantic thing to do, but you understand that you might have been pushing boundaries. She is probably there to work, not to be chatted up, and if she wanted to be chatted up she would go to a club- that's just the way it is and why it is easier to find someone in clubs. She was possibly a bit freaked out, not because she does not like you but because it was just an unexpected thing to do. Also, the fact that you knew which car was hers may seem like you have been stalking her, she does not know it was by coincidence, possibly. Maybe just apologise for the note, say that it was a mistake as you understand it may seem weird.

yeah lc nm, in fact i avoided clubs because they are all drunk, and under alchocol influence you are different person. Im not looking for b**bs and a**es. Im looking for real personality.. thats why i just found the appropriate girl and decided to ask her out before its too late..

as for the creepy/stalky note, I got encourged by a lot of frineds (all are locals) to do that, and one of them recommended that while she was sitting in hair saloon while her hair dresser (lady) was very excited when she heard that.. so even canadians liked the idea... i think the girl i asked out, is going against the world


I think Im going to the shop, but not now, maybe in couple of weeks, and if she remembers what happen by then, it will appear on her face. I will apologise at that time. things will already be cooled off.


ps: I still have a tiny hope that she will call.. i still keep looking at my mobile phone every while! i just cant believe she's one of those who just ignore you in such way

LegacyUser

dontgiveup wrote: »

Yeah OP, there's a million reasons why she may not have gotten the note, it could of blown away, someone else may have taken it off, it could've rained and the gotten destroyed/unreadable.

She could also have a boyfriend or she may not be into you and was just being friendly.

I think you should really go back into the shop again and let her serve you, yeah it might be a bit awkward, but at least you'll know for sure the reason she didn't text you. If she serves you and doesn't make any reference to the note, well then you'll know she's not interested. It could on the the other hand be that she may not have gotten the note, she could be waiting for you to come back into the shop to tell you that she didn't get it, i mean if she didn't get the note or if something happened to it, she has no other way of contacting you! Either way at least if you go back to the shop and see her again you'll know for sure!

Fair play for having the guts to do what you did OP, most women, myself included would be flattered if it happened to them, the irish dating scene is pretty depressing alright, but please don't let that stop you from approaching women in "the real world", seriously it really makes a change from the drunken nightclub hookups, i think if more men (and women) had the guts to approach people like you have, we'd all be happier for it,

All the best OP

last passage is exactly what all my friends (girls) told me! but it seems its just easy to say such nice words than accepting them when you get the note :-)

thank you for the encouragement, and i hope someday all girls wont go out with any guy unless asked in a respectful and proper way she deserves.

LegacyUser

UnlimitedDisappointment wrote: »

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I think Im going to the shop, but not now, maybe in couple of weeks, and if she remembers what happen by then, it will appear on her face. I will apologise at that time. things will already be cooled off.

OP, I know you think there is no way the note blew away or that there was some other reason she didn't see it, but the fact is, until you see her, you won't know why she didn't call.

If you wait a couple of weeks before returning to the shop, it will be doubly awkward when you do return as this is how it would look: You made a friendly gesture, showing interest, and then disappear when she didn't call.

beks101

UnlimitedDisappointment wrote: »

last passage is exactly what all my friends (girls) told me! but it seems its just easy to say such nice words than accepting them when you get the note :-)

Mistake number one OP - asking all your female friends for dating advice. We mean well but more often than not our advice is misplaced and is what we think we'd like a guy - who we're attracted to - to do to show he's interested. The reality is much different if it's a guy we're not interested in that way (not saying this girl isn't, but it's a distinct possibility) and that, coupled with social norms, could have swayed this out of your favour.

Honestly I can tell you right now your note idea seems cute, romantic, sweet and thoughtful, but I can't tell you how I'd react if it happened in my work place in the cold light of day.

I don't mean to discourage you though, the Irish dating scene is a minefield and needs more men like you if you ask me...but I'm just trying to give you the other side of the coin, as you seem to think there was no potential for this to go wrong.

As other posters have said, maybe she didn't get the note, maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she's not interested, maybe it freaked her out slightly, maybe she's nervous to call...there's a million reasons why you may not have heard from her yet. Go back in next time you need bread. Don't mention the note but say hi, have your little chat and give her the opportunity to bring it up herself. If she doesn't, clock it down to experience and move on. At least you did the honourable thing and gave it a shot.

LegacyUser

beks101 wrote: »

Mistake number one OP - asking all your female friends for dating advice. We mean well but more often than not our advice is misplaced and is what we think we'd like a guy - who we're attracted to - to do to show he's interested. The reality is much different if it's a guy we're not interested in that way (not saying this girl isn't, but it's a distinct possibility) and that, coupled with social norms, could have swayed this out of your favour.

Honestly I can tell you right now your note idea seems cute, romantic, sweet and thoughtful, but I can't tell you how I'd react if it happened in my work place in the cold light of day.

I don't mean to discourage you though, the Irish dating scene is a minefield and needs more men like you if you ask me...but I'm just trying to give you the other side of the coin, as you seem to think there was no potential for this to go wrong.

As other posters have said, maybe she didn't get the note, maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she's not interested, maybe it freaked her out slightly, maybe she's nervous to call...there's a million reasons why you may not have heard from her yet. Go back in next time you need bread. Don't mention the note but say hi, have your little chat and give her the opportunity to bring it up herself. If she doesn't, clock it down to experience and move on. At least you did the honourable thing and gave it a shot.

hey beks,
The girl who 10000% recommened that do have a boyfriend, and i consider her a member of my family and we are very lovely to eachothers.

as for the reasons, if you were in her shoe, wouldnt you text back and say sorry im not interested, at least in return to my genuine request and an ego boost (or good feeling) for her?

im planning to go shop, but not any sooner, i want to let it cool down before i talk to her (if possible).

kjl

I dont think you are out of the running just yet OP, go back into the shop and ask her if she got the note, be cute about it, it is very possible that someone took the note. If she doesnt get of work till 10pm and you put the note on in the morning, that is a long time to be there.

Go back into her and say hi, ask if she got the note. If she says "yes, but bla bla bla", then say "don't worry, I though i would give it a go" then give her a smile.

Distorted

If you went into the shop and told her you'd left her a note on her car with your tel no, why didn't you just give her a note of your tel no there and then? Theres just something a bit odd about leaving a note on someone's car. I know it should be nice and everything, but I think the risk is if you catch someone in the wrong mood or on a bad day, it can come across as odd.

Or maybe she hasn't had enough time to reply, or just doesn't want to go out with you. Thats the trouble with not getting it from the horse's mouth - you never quite know for sure.

teaspach

It doesn't matter that it didn't work out... what really matters is that you did it! As Woody Allen says, "If you're not failing, you're not trying".

I do feel your pain on the non-response. And yes, it's excruciating to meet someone again after being turned down. But don't give it a second thought, and why should you drive 10k to another shop... Just go in again, pretend like nothing has happened, and just be your normal friendly self. Don't mention the note. You have done all you can, it's up to her now to reciprocate. It should be very flattering for her even if she's not interested.

Well done & good luck!

teaspach

kjl wrote: »

I dont think you are out of the running just yet OP, go back into the shop and ask her if she got the note, be cute about it, it is very possible that someone took the note. If she doesnt get of work till 10pm and you put the note on in the morning, that is a long time to be there.

Go back into her and say hi, ask if she got the note. If she says "yes, but bla bla bla", then say "don't worry, I though i would give it a go" then give her a smile.

Actually, I like that approach also... I do think it's up to her to say something though, either to the fact that she did, or didn't get the note. Don't leave it too long to go back... fortune favours the brave!

Faith

Don't go in there and ask her about it. Go in there, sure. If she wants to bring it up, she will. Otherwise, leave well enough alone.

TBH my first reaction was that I'd be freaked out if someone left a note on my car, and then utterly bemused when they went to the effort to tell me about it. Why not just hand her the note? I admire your efforts, but it all seems a bit odd to me.

LegacyUser

kjl wrote: »

I dont think you are out of the running just yet OP, go back into the shop and ask her if she got the note, be cute about it, it is very possible that someone took the note. If she doesnt get of work till 10pm and you put the note on in the morning, that is a long time to be there.

Go back into her and say hi, ask if she got the note. If she says "yes, but bla bla bla", then say "don't worry, I though i would give it a go" then give her a smile.

I put the note in an envelope and secure it very tightly less than three hours before her leave - at that time nobody is in that area, its dead usually and her car is in front of the shop gate, so nobody can mess around

im trying to hold the shattered pieces and gather them and go shop again! lets hope someday it will happen hehhe

LegacyUser

Distorted wrote: »

If you went into the shop and told her you'd left her a note on her car with your tel no, why didn't you just give her a note of your tel no there and then? Theres just something a bit odd about leaving a note on someone's car. I know it should be nice and everything, but I think the risk is if you catch someone in the wrong mood or on a bad day, it can come across as odd.

Or maybe she hasn't had enough time to reply, or just doesn't want to go out with you. Thats the trouble with not getting it from the horse's mouth - you never quite know for sure.

because giving her a paper in front of all ppl and her coworker who works face to face infront of her would be very embaressing TO HER. i was considerate not embaressing her

LegacyUser

kjl wrote: »

I dont think you are out of the running just yet OP, go back into the shop and ask her if she got the note, be cute about it, it is very possible that someone took the note. If she doesnt get of work till 10pm and you put the note on in the morning, that is a long time to be there.

Go back into her and say hi, ask if she got the note. If she says "yes, but bla bla bla", then say "don't worry, I though i would give it a go" then give her a smile.

sometimes i wish i have the very non polite tongue.. oh man.. i really wish i can just swallow it this easy..

Cheap Thrills!

I'm afraid I think you've been badly advised by your friends and colleagues OP. Notes and letters are not really usual methods of communication in modern life, added to the fact that you attached it to her car at her workplace.

Well, I'm sorry I wouldn't like that at all and would feel cornered and freaked out.

Lots of people can be personable and nice and remember your items in shops but it can be nothing more than their nice manner and a way to fill a boring day.

How do you know she doesn't have a BF by the way and are you sure it was just a co-incidence that you saw which car was hers? Be honest.

I would leave well enough alone OP and go to another shop for the time being until the embarassment subsides on both sides. She didn't call. So just accept that.

Gestures like that are only 'romantic' in theory. And of course don't forget, people love a soap opera and often advise others to do things they wouldn't dream of doing themselves. In reality it's probable the girl is a bit freaked out.

Let the dust settle and don't do any more now.

LegacyUser

Faith wrote: »

Don't go in there and ask her about it. Go in there, sure. If she wants to bring it up, she will. Otherwise, leave well enough alone.

TBH my first reaction was that I'd be freaked out if someone left a note on my car, and then utterly bemused when they went to the effort to tell me about it. Why not just hand her the note? I admire your efforts, but it all seems a bit odd to me.

Faith,
If you return to my previous posts you will notice that i wanted to be considerate to her work and avoid embaress her at all costs.. The last thing i wanted to let her hate her day or think about ppl staring at her while taking the paper or any thing by hand from me.

It a matter of respect and privacy preservation.


on the other side, Im very confident person, very sucessful in my life (personal and professiona) and i do have bright life.. so Im not even near to be scum at all and never been.. sad that all that didnt help! even though she must know that, at least when she saw my car (no brag!)

Distorted

Yes, thats a good question OP. How did you know which car was hers?

LegacyUser

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

I'm afraid I think you've been badly advised by your friends and colleagues OP. Notes and letters are not really usual methods of communication in modern life, added to the fact that you attached it to her car at her workplace.

Well, I'm sorry I wouldn't like that at all and would feel cornered and freaked out.

Lots of people can be personable and nice and remember your items in shops but it can be nothing more than their nice manner and a way to fill a boring day.

How do you know she doesn't have a BF by the way and are you sure it was just a co-incidence that you saw which car was hers? Be honest.

I would leave well enough alone OP and go to another shop for the time being until the embarassment subsides on both sides. She didn't call. So just accept that.

Gestures like that are only 'romantic' in theory. And of course don't forget, people love a soap opera and often advise others to do things they wouldn't dream of doing themselves. In reality it's probable the girl is a bit freaked out.

Let the dust settle and don't do any more now.

yeah.. i thought so, but all female friends were flattered and recommended that!!! it amazed me so i did my mistake!

she once followed me between the sections and kept looking, but it was the second visit for me so i didnt give any attention, though Im pretty sure.. plus her coworker, and real life friend keeps staring at me and star back at the lady i asked out.. toooo many signs .. thats why!


Im just getting more confused in thsi forum.. all like the note thing (apart from 1 poster) and all say the same thing.. but nothing change the fact that this one girl did total opposite to all

LegacyUser

Distorted wrote: »

Yes, thats a good question OP. How did you know which car was hers?

will you please re-read the posts throughly to know how? i simply parked and she came parked next to me! then we shared the same "Hi, hows your day going" then off to the shop!!

when i told her about the note on her car, i made sure to confirm the car with her, and she happily said, yes the green car! so there is no way to freak out!

guys, im not talking police story.. use common sense to know things!

Kevin Duffy

Distorted wrote: »

Yes, thats a good question OP. How did you know which car was hers?

It's explained in his first post.

LegacyUser

moderator: can you make replying to this thread pre-approved? i do answer at the moment i receive the reply, but it seems i ruined your weekend reading my replies and approving them.

thanks

LegacyUser

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

It's explained in his first post.

thanks kevin, any opinion here? Im not the most romantic guy (as most of guys!) and but thought it might be reasonable and less drama, but turned into melodramatic story!

any man suggestion on the post-story?

gimme5minutes

How long was the note left on the car? Are we talking several hours here? If so, it definitely could have been removed by somone imo. Hundreds/thousands of people passing by, all it takes is one person to decide to see what is in the envelope on the windshield. I think that that is more likely than her not replying to you at all considering you have been seeing her every day and have been getting on well with her.

Cheap Thrills!

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

It's explained in his first post.

Total 'coincidence' apparently.

OP, you mention you know she hasn't got a boyfriend. How do you know this?

LegacyUser

gimme5minutes wrote: »

How long was the note left on the car? Are we talking several hours here? If so, it definitely could have been removed by somone imo. Hundreds/thousands of people passing by, all it takes is one person to decide to see what is in the envelope on the windshield. I think that that is more likely than her not replying to you at all considering you have been seeing her every day and have been getting on well with her.

please refer to my posts above - i secured the envelop + car is parked in front of main gate of shop + note left less than 3 hours night time when nobody in that area is usually around (residential area) + i put it in a way it looks like a flyer so nobody would be interested to take it out!

if the moderator pre approve the posts, i think there will be no misleading or missing information

LegacyUser

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

Total 'coincidence' apparently.

OP, you mention you know she hasn't got a boyfriend. How do you know this?

yes, I can assure you its total conincedence, because she noticed me not me noticed her! and refer to the above replies to know how i knew she doesnt have a bf.

i asked the CS lady (married) if that lady has a boyfriend and she was 100% sure she is not. unless shes hiding her bf in a cave!


again, lets assume she has a bf, would that prevent her from politly answer/reply to my note and apologise? I have asked many girls out during the last 15 years and at least i heard i have a boy friend song if they refuse! unless you are used to the very non respectful way of being asked out, if at all, so u assume that its a right and tradition not to say a proper answer

Silverfish

UnlimitedDisappointment wrote: »

please refer to my posts above - i secured the envelop + car is parked in front of main gate of shop + note left less than 3 hours night time when nobody in that area is usually around (residential area) + i put it in a way it looks like a flyer so nobody would be interested to take it out!

if the moderator pre approve the posts, i think there will be no misleading or missing information

Sorry OP, it's not possible for us to do that. All unregistered posts have to be approved by a moderator.
The only way to avoid that is to register an account, I'm afraid.

LegacyUser

Silverfish wrote: »

Sorry OP, it's not possible for us to do that. All unregistered posts have to be approved by a moderator.
The only way to avoid that is to register an account, I'm afraid.

thanks, will register, but after this thread, because some of the readers may get confused about the me in the old replies and post and my new account!


so you dont have any cent to contribute here? :-)

LegacyUser

First of all ,you are a customer in a shop, the people that serve you get paid to be nice to you. You say it is a small shop, in a residential area and that maybe no-one would be around for hours on end (so they couldn't take your note) so of course if you get the same items a lot of the staff will remember.
You then went up to a girl, in her job, and said you left a note on her car!! Im sorry, but if someone I served and was nice to( maybe because of my job) came in and told me they left a note on my car I would be totally freaked out!! I would be nervous leaving in case they were waiting for me.
IMO I think you freaked her out and you have two choices one, you should just forget about her. Or two, go into the shop and pretend nothing happened. If she doesn't mention it, you shouldn't.

LegacyUser

Wheeelll wrote: »

First of all ,you are a customer in a shop, the people that serve you get paid to be nice to you. You say it is a small shop, in a residential area and that maybe no-one would be around for hours on end (so they couldn't take your note) so of course if you get the same items a lot of the staff will remember.
You then went up to a girl, in her job, and said you left a note on her car!! Im sorry, but if someone I served and was nice to( maybe because of my job) came in and told me they left a note on my car I would be totally freaked out!! I would be nervous leaving in case they were waiting for me.
IMO I think you freaked her out and you have two choices one, you should just forget about her. Or two, go into the shop and pretend nothing happened. If she doesn't mention it, you shouldn't.

wow! i have a big feeling that you are the lady i asked out! what a mexican movie! you think and act like americans.. we are in ireland, not america.. ppl are different and have brains and hearts, not passports and burger! - still i appreciate your comment, though u should have read throughly to know that it wasnt a case of "shes paid to smile" to me!

Cheap Thrills!

So you asked a colleague if she had a boyfriend, yet left a creepy note on her car ostensibly to avoid attracting her colleagues attention?

It doesn't make sense.

And now you seem fixated on whether she will respond to you, even if the answer is no?

It's unlikely she will respond. She doesn't have to explain herself and frankly OP you are coming accross as well creepy with all this supposed 'respectful' stuff. As for her having to 'apologise' -you need to wise up OP. She has nothing to apologise for.

You would have been far better to ask her out descretely in a normal face to face way.

LegacyUser

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

So you asked a colleague if she had a boyfriend, yet left a creepy note on her car ostensibly to avoid attracting her colleagues attention?

It doesn't make sense.

And now you seem fixated on whether she will respond to you, even if the answer is no?

It's unlikely she will respond. She doesn't have to explain herself and frankly OP you are coming accross as well creepy with all this supposed 'respectful' stuff.

You would have been far better to ask her out descretely in a normal face to face way.

on no wait, i asked the cs lady couple of days before i do anything. yeah I might be creepy especially with her no response... but still, i apologised if my note to her is creepy.. and this is called respect.. as far as my useless phd says!

believe me, if i could ask her face to face without her coworker hears or the shoppers notice, I would do that long time ago.. i tried couple of times but no time she would ever be on her own, but at the first stages (when it would be seriously creepy if i ever did!)


thanks by the way for staying on the line and supporting her (ehhem and me sometimes hehe)


i think this topic is endless, and it increased the mess rather than reducing the pressure of me thinking!

LegacyUser

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

So you asked a colleague if she had a boyfriend, yet left a creepy note on her car ostensibly to avoid attracting her colleagues attention?

It doesn't make sense.

And now you seem fixated on whether she will respond to you, even if the answer is no?

It's unlikely she will respond. She doesn't have to explain herself and frankly OP you are coming accross as well creepy with all this supposed 'respectful' stuff. As for her having to 'apologise' -you need to wise up OP. She has nothing to apologise for.

You would have been far better to ask her out descretely in a normal face to face way.

also if you do not feel you can be helpful and in a positive and constructive manner, you can simple avoid this thread and give some space for ppl who have postivie outlook on life, and do not presume that a kind note is creep as if they advocate for electricity bills victims in small claims courts. period.

LegacyUser

************** UPDATE *************

I just received a text message from her! she's so flattered with my note! and she didnt respond earlier because her father wasnt in good health and they were busy with family matters.


I would like to thank you all for the encouragment and brilliant support, even the ones who were negative and thought my note is creepy.. I think its a lesson for all of us to always wait before judging the other person.

Im ultimately happy now!

Ickle Magoo

OP, leave the modding to the mods....and petty insults to other posters may lead to posts not being approved or even the thread being locked.

Many thanks.

Cheap Thrills!

UnlimitedDisappointment wrote: »

************** UPDATE *************

I just received a text message from her! she's so flattered with my note! and she didnt respond earlier because her father wasnt in good health and they were busy with family matters.


I would like to thank you all for the encouragment and brilliant support, even the ones who were negative and thought my note is creepy.. I think its a lesson for all of us to always wait before judging the other person.

Im ultimately happy now!

Wow OP, what fortuitous timing! Amazing!

*eats hat*

Boskowski

Glad to hear.
I was going to say let some of the replies not deter you. There was nothing creepy or stalky in what you did.
It's all gone so pc and tiptoeing and silly little rules of what to do and what not to do and what maybe to do but not until the first week after a full moon and whatnot. Very immature and childish that stuff imo. Or maybe I don't get the Irish way? Like it's ok to jump on someone in a club ****faced but a nice note is creepy? Get out of it.
I mean for gods sake when you listen to some people you'd wonder how anyone ever finds a boyfriend/girlfriend these days.
In reality you will find that usually these things are called creepy and stalky when there is no chemistry, but will be called ever so cute when the girl in question finds the guy in question hot/nice/cute.
Good luck!

LegacyUser

Good on you OP, Im delighted for you. Hope this works out as you sound like a lovely fella.

Distorted

UnlimitedDisappointment wrote: »

************** UPDATE *************

I just received a text message from her! she's so flattered with my note! and she didnt respond earlier because her father wasnt in good health and they were busy with family matters.


I would like to thank you all for the encouragment and brilliant support, even the ones who were negative and thought my note is creepy.. I think its a lesson for all of us to always wait before judging the other person.

Im ultimately happy now!

I don't believe you.

Ickle Magoo

As the OP has stated everything has resolved to their satisfaction and the thread has descended into unnecessary pettiness, I'm locking the thread.