To tell or not ?

LegacyUser

Hi,

Quick enough question, know this couple a short while. Recently found out that the guy is cheating on his wife. So what ! But then he also tried it on with my wife! So, I am very annoyed. I want to tell his other half about what he gets up to, but then the little voice in my head says "no, leave them alone".

Just wanted to get other peeps thoughts on it. Am I just being a jerk if I do, or am I doing the poor girl a favor. I cant decide.

I am a friend

Tell her that he is cheating (how do you know he is?: ) or tell her he hit on your wife?

Oryx

Have you spoken to the guy himself about hitting on your wife?

LegacyUser

no I haven't spoke with him about it, why ? Would that make me feel better about it or something ?

Azureus

I'd speak to the guy and ask him what he was playing at hitting on your wife. Judge by his response how to go from there.

Are you 100% sure he cheats on his wife with other women? Be very sure of your facts before you say anything to anybody, things can get very messy very quickly.

LighterGuy

telltale wrote: »

Just wanted to get other peeps thoughts on it. Am I just being a jerk if I do, or am I doing the poor girl a favor. I cant decide.

Its fair game now.
If he is cheating on his wife, thats his business. But now he tried it on with your wife? You now tell his wife.

He tried it on with your wife, disrespecting you and lets be honest he would laugh and stick his middle finger up at you if he did get with your wife. You dont piss in another mans back garden ... or at least try to in this case.

hang him. you aint being "bad" or anything like that. He crossed a line. Your line.

IrishEyes19

Have you enough evidence though, I mean what one person takes as flirting or hitting on could be taken differently by another.

Im not at all saying you are being untruthful by the way, quite the opposite, but just in case the man could come back and say he wasnt hitting on your wife, it was just banter. Just in case.

cafecolour

Well, if you tell his wife, it could well go like this: You tell his wife her husband hit on your wife. He tells his wife that's BS - YOUR wife hit on HIM because she's mad for him. His wife believes him, is convinced that your wife is bad news, and starts telling everyone around to keep away from you two because your wife will try and steal their husbands.

So I'd tread carefully. There's no guarantee's she'll believe you, and it could end up sucking you into drama you don't want to be involved in.

Miss Fluff

cafecolour wrote: »

So I'd tread carefully. There's no guarantee's she'll believe you, and it could end up sucking you into drama you don't want to be involved in.

I'd stay well out of it to be honest, could lead to a whole world of trouble. You say you don't know this couple a long time so just stay out of their way.

Emme

I'd confront him about hitting on your wife but there's no point in doing much else. And give them a wide berth in future.

Sibylla

LighterGuy wrote: »

Its fair game now.
If he is cheating on his wife, thats his business. But now he tried it on with your wife? You now tell his wife.

He tried it on with your wife, disrespecting you and lets be honest he would laugh and stick his middle finger up at you if he did get with your wife. You dont piss in another mans back garden ... or at least try to in this case.

hang him. you aint being "bad" or anything like that. He crossed a line. Your line.

Exactly.

You should tell his wife immediately, She has every right to know.