Closing the deal

Witchie

I need some help. When I meet someone I like I could chat to them for hours and hours and even flirt a little but I find it really difficult to move from the friendly place to the romantic place.

I seem to have two modes: Friend or Slut.

I am trying to hone my inbetween coz now have decided its time to grow up and get a proper realtionship going on and all I seem to get is mate or "mate".

Any suggestions?

Napper Hawkins

Are you male or female?

Witchie

Female

deathrider

Witchie wrote: »

I seem to have two modes: Friend or Slut.

Randomly switching from one to the other should be more than enough to keep any lad on his toes.

hondasam

Witchie wrote: »

I need some help. When I meet someone I like I could chat to them for hours and hours and even flirt a little but I find it really difficult to move from the friendly place to the romantic place.

I seem to have two modes: Friend or Slut.

I am trying to hone my inbetween coz now have decided its time to grow up and get a proper realtionship going on and all I seem to get is mate or "mate".

Any suggestions?

drop the friend mode and go with the other one.

bonerm

cash

TheZohanS

Witchie wrote: »

Female

Single long?

Any kids?

Age?

We need all the details...

starbelgrade

There's nothing wrong with sluts.

God bless them, I say.

hondasam

TheZohan wrote: »

Single long?

Any kids?

Age?

We need all the details...

why didn't you just ask for a pic

Stained Class

Well, from a male perspective, there's really only 2 types of women in the world.

1. Doable
2. Undoable

The latter are potential 'friend' material, the former aren't.

Simple really.:)

Chris P. Bacon

POGTFO

RachaelVO

If you do actually meet someone you do like, tell him, and see what his reaction is. Don't fecking well throw yourself at him (well do if you're just looking for a rough half hour). Go on a few dates, and go home to your bed all by yourself, and that way you can see if you really do like him, and if he really does like you, then.... wait for it.... wait for it....

you might just end up in a grown up relationship,

Good luck :cool:

TheZohanS

hondasam wrote: »

why didn't you just ask for a pic

Was being subtle! ish

Witchie

I do switch between flirt and friend.

I have been friends with a guy for years and a few months back we got together. It happens occasionally but there is no movement from that.

Now I have met someone online that I like and have good fun chatting to but am worried that if I get all flirty he will think it is just for sex and I could end up back to square one. Yet if we just continue to talk that wont be enough either. :-(

I suppose a big problem is confidence in a way. When am sitting chatting to a guy I know I am a nice person and up for a laugh so we get on great but I never think that they could fancy me so I dont try to move things along for fear of rejection. Yet if I wanted a shag I would have no problem sayin "boy, you, bed, now"

starbelgrade

RachaelVO wrote: »

If you do actually meet someone you do like, tell him, and see what his reaction is. Don't fecking well throw yourself at him (well do if you're just looking for a rough half hour). Go on a few dates, and go home to your bed all by yourself, and that way you can see if you really do like him, and if he really does like you, then.... wait for it.... wait for it....

you might just end up in a grown up relationship,

Good luck :cool:

Or just suck his cock.

That works too.

seafood dunleavy

Sounds like an Adam Sandler film.

hondasam

TheZohan wrote: »

Was being subtle! ish

or afraid it might happen :pac:

old hippy

Follow your heart, man. If it feels right, do it.

hondasam

starbelgrade wrote: »

Or just suck his cock.

That works too.

steak and bj day is over until next year

starbelgrade

seafood dunleavy wrote: »

Sounds like an Adam Sandler film.

Adam Sandler is a dipstick.

TheZohanS

starbelgrade wrote: »

Adam Sandler is a dipstick.

:mad:

Witchie

37, 2 teenage sons, divorced 8 years, have had a few relationships in between. I was going out with a guy not long after I left my hubby and introduced my then 2 & 5 yr old sons to him. They adored him and when the relationship ended the 2 yr old was devestated. Since then, my kids have never known about any bf I have had as I didnt want them getting hurt again.

Now they are 13 and 16 and I know they could handle it, I am really ready for a proper one. Most of my other ones were long distance for a good reason, it suited me to meet them only when my kids were away or if I could get away for a few days.

As for dates, that is rare. Usually its a drunken snog in a niteclub and if I really like him I dont take him home but if am horny I do!

Thats why its now time for something different coz I need to move some of the flirting into something more.

Dangerous Man

Get yer growler out.

Witchie

starbelgrade wrote: »

Or just suck his cock.

That works too.

It doesnt.....;)

TheZohanS

Witchie wrote: »

It doesnt.....;)

So your problem is if you meet a guy sometimes you get stuck in platonic and want it to move on?

Well if that's the case just ask dude "so are you gonna kiss me or not". It's cheeky without being slutty.

bonerm

starbelgrade wrote: »

Adam Sandler is a dipstick.

... or a legend.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w4TVedtyDnw

Witchie

TheZohan wrote: »

So your problem is if you meet a guy sometimes you get stuck in platonic and want it to move on?

Well if that's the case just ask dude "so are you gonna kiss me or not". It's cheeky without being slutty.

I like it Z....only problem is then if he says "ugh no way" I will have even less confidence. Thing is people think am uber confident coz I could sit and talk to anyone about anything but I suppose the battering (almost literally) I took in my young marriage has left me feeling a little insecure about whether I am able to choose someone who wont be a total dick.

TheZohanS

Witchie wrote: »

I like it Z....only problem is then if he says "ugh no way" I will have even less confidence. Thing is people think am uber confident coz I could sit and talk to anyone about anything but I suppose the battering (almost literally) I took in my young marriage has left me feeling a little insecure about whether I am able to choose someone who wont be a total dick.

If dude says "ugh no way" then he's not looking for the same things as you so cut him loose and put him firmly in the friendzone. Now this is going to sound a little bit sexist but they do call it the dating "game" for a reason, sometimes guys can feel a bit intimidated by uber confident girls or girls that come across that way, act a little vulnerable so he'll have a chance to bust a move.

strokemyclover

Witchie wrote: »

I like it Z....only problem is then if he says "ugh no way" I will have even less confidence. Thing is people think am uber confident coz I could sit and talk to anyone about anything but I suppose the battering (almost literally) I took in my young marriage has left me feeling a little insecure about whether I am able to choose someone who wont be a total dick.

Life is too short for missed opportunity. Look at me, I'm stuck out here in my run down shack with only the trees, my memories and 300 cats for friends. Don't end up like me! What have you got to lose?

A good friend will remain a friend even after such a full on approach!

-Crazy Cat Lady

Offy

Is this after hours of personal issues?
yore ma

deathrider

hondasam wrote: »

steak and bj day is over until next year

A good woman could make any day into steak and bj day.

Witchie

TheZohan wrote: »

If dude says "ugh no way" then he's not looking for the same things as you so cut him loose and put him firmly in the friendzone. Now this is going to sound a little bit sexist but they do call it the dating "game" for a reason, sometimes guys can feel a bit intimidated by uber confident girls or girls that come across that way, act a little vulnerable so he'll have a chance to bust a move.

You are so right. My biggest problem has always been my super independance. I have had to been mammy and daddy to my boys, in fact my siblings and parents call me the glue coz when any of them have an issue or a problem they call me to fix it and they are all so frickin dependant on me that I never feel I can show a weak or vulnerable side coz everyone is relying on me.

When I do break into Slutty witchie, I am a demon in bed coz I dont do soft and mushy, just **** and get out....and many guys come back for more but they dont realise that maybe I need something more from them.

Agh, wish I hadnt started drinking so bloody early, but its a rare occasion that my sons go off to their dad so its me time until Saturday.

hondasam

deathrider wrote: »

A good woman could make any day into steak and bj day.

good job I'm a good woman then

Offy

Witchie wrote: »

You are so right. My biggest problem has always been my super independance. I have had to been mammy and daddy to my boys, in fact my siblings and parents call me the glue coz when any of them have an issue or a problem they call me to fix it and they are all so frickin dependant on me that I never feel I can show a weak or vulnerable side coz everyone is relying on me.

When I do break into Slutty witchie, I am a demon in bed coz I dont do soft and mushy, just **** and get out....and many guys come back for more but they dont realise that maybe I need something more from them.

Agh, wish I hadnt started drinking so bloody early, but its a rare occasion that my sons go off to their dad so its me time until Saturday.

LOL are you advertising?

Chris P. Bacon

Witchie wrote: »

You are so right. My biggest problem has always been my super independance. I have had to been mammy and daddy to my boys, in fact my siblings and parents call me the glue coz when any of them have an issue or a problem they call me to fix it and they are all so frickin dependant on me that I never feel I can show a weak or vulnerable side coz everyone is relying on me.

When I do break into Slutty witchie, I am a demon in bed coz I dont do soft and mushy, just **** and get out....and many guys come back for more but they dont realise that maybe I need something more from them.

Agh, wish I hadnt started drinking so bloody early, but its a rare occasion that my sons go off to their dad so its me time until Saturday.

Maybe the guys want soft and mushy?

themadchef

Seriously! No one sent for Wibbs?

starbelgrade

themadchef wrote: »

Seriously! No one sent for Wibbs?

Wibbs must've forgotten Steak & Blow Job Day and is now off playing "catch-up".