Tired, Fed up!

RobitTV

Basically im just fed up and stressed lately.

I Won free tickets for a weekend in London, And i couldnt go because The flight takes off in galway, Miles and miles away from me. And my parents say no were not going, And my mother even asked one of her friends if she could go even before i got the details about the Flight. Just angry now. I Was so looking foward to the trip, as my parents just make up lame excuses, The whole time, Oh we cant there Etc etc...

I Go to school everyday Work hard IMO, I Try my best, And i get nothing in return, And i hate school, So im just fed up of that to, I have no social life im just to nervous and i do have friends but i couldnt be botherd to go out because theres nothing to do, They never bother asking me anyway.

on school days this is what i do: Get up, Go to school, Come home, Homework/Dinner then bed. I mean Thats just not a life.

And im stuck in my bedroom all day, On my laptop, Im not lazy at all, i would love to go out, but i just cant think of anything to do.

I hate my life sometimes, i sometimes wonder why did i have to be picked to have a crappy life like this.

So there we go... My life boring, stressful, etc etc..

There is nothing i really enjoy doing either. I Live in a small town aswell, so basically theres nothing to do.

Sometimes i feel like i want to go into a rage, and start crying, and stamp my feet, thats how fed up i am.

When i was much younger, i went out alot and enjoyed life more, Used to go out on my bike with some friends,

Ive been waisting my life, i just watch tv, and then the internet and maybe some xbox, they still make me mad sometimes.

im just fed up and stressed out all the time, i feel like crying when im even typing this.

ravima

There MUST be something to do. Could you join a scout/guide group and meet others of your own age?

You might not be into sport, but perhaps you could help out at training younger children?

You need to relax and get out of the rut you are in. You MUST get of that downhill spiral.

Where are the friends of earlier times that you used to bike with? Could you dust down the bike and get out again.

Are you fit? Could you take up jogging?

RobitTV

ravima wrote: »

There MUST be something to do. Could you join a scout/guide group and meet others of your own age?

You might not be into sport, but perhaps you could help out at training younger children?

You need to relax and get out of the rut you are in. You MUST get of that downhill spiral.

Where are the friends of earlier times that you used to bike with? Could you dust down the bike and get out again.

Are you fit? Could you take up jogging?

tbh im not really into sport, but i do like going on my bike.

Its just frustrating being here all day long, and i was looking foward to that trip,

But hopefully i could do something else.

Zen65

RobitTV wrote: »

on school days this is what i do: Get up, Go to school, Come home, Homework/Dinner then bed. I mean Thats just not a life.

And im stuck in my bedroom all day, On my laptop, Im not lazy at all, i would love to go out, but i just cant think of anything to do.

I hate my life sometimes, i sometimes wonder why did i have to be picked to have a crappy life like this.

Op,

You must be quite young, and it seems you have lost perspective on your life. The things you are doing are all very normal for somebody of school-going age. People who live below the poverty line would trade places with you in an instant. Millions of kids in Japan, Libya, or [insert country here] would swap places with you in a heartbeat.

You're upset because you can't take up the prize of a trip away. Perhaps your parents felt the financial pressure of staying away would be too great (and they might be right, they might be wrong, but it is their call..... sorry but that's life). Don't let one event distort your take on life.

Life is not crappy. Life is as wonderful as you're willing to make it. People with all sorts of serious illnesses, injuries, responsibilities & problems can make their life wonderful, so for you to consider it crappy because you are bored is just ....... well, it's the flaw of being young.

There is nothing i really enjoy doing either. I Live in a small town aswell, so basically theres nothing to do.

Life is full of things to do, and unless you've tried them you should not decide you don't /wouldn't enjoy them. Can you ride a bike? Can you hike? Can you get involved in sport? Can you read a book, see a movie, play an instrument, write a story, create a YouTube video? Your life is full of possibilities that don't require you to live in a city. Are you the only young person in the town? Can you meet up with friends and form a band?

It is better to light candles than to curse the dark. You will get to see London, Paris, Berlin, New York all in good time. Right now, focus your energies on your schoolwork, your school friends, and your plans for later life. In the blink of any eye you will be an independent adult with countless opportunities before you, unless you waste your years cribbing over this temporary "boredom".


Be at peace,

Z

GoldRush4821

Really good post Zen65 and although I agree with everything you say, it seems that your teenage years are behind you (or perhaps I'm wrong, but that is what it comes across as). Being of the same age myself, I completely understand your position and how life can actually seem pointless at times. Sometimes its tough to see where things are going to improve or how, but you need to realise that everybody of your age has a similar routine to you right now. The only differences between your life and the next secondary school goer's is that they will have 1 or 2 activities which they pursue to make the weeks a little less dull. You need to find something you enjoy.

I too am overly fond of T.V and have wasted way too much time in front of it during my formative years, but this year it has taken a back seat (somewhat) to studies, playing guitar, reading, socialising etc.. I don't know what your plans are but trust me, once you get into college things are going to open up - but you need to to have interests prior to it so you can get involved straight away and not put it off. Personally, I'm not happy with my day to day life either but I've resolved to improve after my LC. I've simply convinced myself that I cannot waste another 10 years like I've wasted the last 5... If you get yourself into this mindset, I can see you getting involved in things which will be beneficial to no end..

Finally, I would advise you to, ASAP, try and either get a part time job or do some kind of voluntary work because with a routine like yours (and mine haha), it can be difficult to fill out a CV when it comes time and you will regret not having more experience (employers really appreciate voluntary work)... So that's my take, if you want to chat, hit me up. Make sure you realise that most of us are living the same life as you... Peace

Firetrap

Posts like yours bring back memories of how much rage I used to feel at times as a teenager. It's a tough time because you're in that half-way house between being a kid and an adult, you're having to go to school and there's also the inevitability that you're going to have to make some massive decisions about what to do next.

You're feeling powerless I think and that's not helping you at all. It wasn't ideal how your parents handled the trip to London but there could be a good reason behind it. Perhaps as Zen suggested, money is tight but they don't want to tell you this. One thing I've learned as an adult is that holidays can be expensive things. London is not a cheap place to go. Getting there is often the cheapest part of it - it's not easy to find a reasonably priced hotel, you'll be eating out a lot (you'd be surprised how much this can cost!), spending money visiting the various tourist attractions etc. London is not going anywhere - promise yourself that you will visit it some day when you get a bit older.

I think you're spending too much time by yourself doing solitary activities. That's giving you too much time to think and it's driving you nuts. The internet is a great thing but it can also suck you in and lead to you spending far too many hours on the computer and leave you feeling curiously hollow. Do you have any friends you can hang around with or do things with? Any hobbies you think you might like to try? Even if it's something as simple as drawing with a pen and paper or going for nature walks.

Don't forget either that school isn't forever and it's not the be-all and end-all. It's a means for you to get a piece of paper and hopefully good grades so you can go on to do different things. Other than that, meh

I hope you'll take on board all the advice you've received in reply to your original post. If you start doing things to help yourself, you will feel much happier