ex's best friend..killing us

LegacyUser

Hey boardsies,

Basically I really really like this guy and he likes me but because he is friends with my ex he is afraid to make a move but given circumstances, I kind of think this should not be as much as an issue as it is being made out to be?

Firstly my ex and I went out a good few years ago and it was a mutual and amicable break up and he know apparently has a girlfriend and they have been going out for a good while/yr or so. When I was going out with him I met this guy and we became friends etc but it was always just that. After the break up, my ex's friend and I ended up travelling as part of a group and we became very close and I suppose somewhere along the way we became attracted to one another's personalities etc! Now when we meet it is through mutual friends and doesn't revolve around seeing my ex or anything.

The thing is we are crazy about one another, like we click so well and flirt outrageously with one another, the chemistry is electric and I think he is lovely. All our friends comment on it and how perfect we would be together and he himself openly admits to liking me....even in front of others.

The only thing stopping him from taking it any further with me is because he remains close mates with my ex and he doesn't think he could do that to him. He has said this to me and it kills him but given the time passed etc and the fact that we are not kids, i mean we are early twenties surely he could put that behind him?

The frustration and chemistry is killing us both and it doesn't happen often that I meet someone who makes me feel like he does. It takes some restraint on both our parts at parties to not kiss when we come so close to doing so, the only thing stopping me from just going for it when we are that close is his hesitance, because I dont want to put pressure on him and i respect the fact that he is conscious of betraying his friend(even though I don't see it as that).

Thing is, where can we go from here?nowhere?I mean it is a bit melodramatic for me this idea of star crossed lovers etc....life is too short no?And my ex is happy and we are on good terms!But how can this guy who really is amazing be convinced otherwise?

Ickle Magoo

I'm not convinced that if he was as into you as much as you are into him that anyone would stand in his way, especially an apathetic ex. Are you sure he isn't using your ex as an excuse not to get into something that you and your friends are really excited about but although he likes you, he isn't really wanting to get involved in?

PK2008

If he's that bothered about it he should just say it to his mate (your ex). His mate will probably tell him its no big deal and just go for it