UUUggh God i cant dance

grungepants

I cant dance.I can try but like i dont have enough confidence to do it in front of other people.I usually start off enthusiastic and end up....kind of just standing there drinking beer.Whats the point in going out if i cant dance?Thats one of the main reasons girls go out...to dance...and they have a song about how much fun they have.Apart from the obvious dreaded DANCE LESSON.Does anyone know how to gradualy improve confidence with dancing?...

flowerchild

Stay home. In the dark, in case your friends notice you are not going out.

Or go out and dance badly. The truth is no-one is looking at you anyway.

You could swap clubs for bars and pubs, not much dancing there.

Stop for a minute and watch how your friends dance. Are they talented? I doubt it. As long as you keep moving about and don't make any erratic movements, no one will notice how you dance. If you really feel that self conscious about it, throw in a few comedy moves, take the mick out of yourself and people will just see it as entertaining. Unless you go to ballrooms on a night out, the dancing that's going on isn't really dancing, it's just writhing about the place like a lizard on coke. Enjoy it.

Miss Fluff

I haven't noticed the dance police parolling any dancefloors I've ever been on truth be told.

There's nobody saying that you should dance. I can count heaps of men I know who thankfully wouldn't be seen dead on a dancefloor. So they don't. Then you have others who also can't dance but get so sh1tfaced that they'll give it a go anyway.

Unless you are going on the dancefloor and clearing the entire venue within ten seconds of you descending on it through moves as demonstrated here (see 41 seconds in) then I wouldn't worry too much OP. Just go and have stationary fun or else go and give it socks.

Aishae

feel the music and go with it

i used to feel really self consious about dancing. but i love to sway around with the beat so now i just let go (probably in a 'what the feck is she doing?' kinda way sometimes but its about enjoying yourself. and no one really pays attention to others dancing when theyre dancing themselves and no one watches the dancefloor when they're sat drinking or chatting.
try to forget that everyone is there or try to remember everyone is there for similar reasons - to let loose and have fun.

cafecolour

Start by moving a little bit to the rhythm, and next time move a little bit more

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Dancing well is a major plus for getting women, that's true, but not dancing well isn't actually a negative - it's the majority of guys here.

grungepants

cafecolour wrote: »

Start by moving a little bit to the rhythm, and next time move a little bit more

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Dancing well is a major plus for getting women, that's true, but not dancing well isn't actually a negative - it's the majority of guys here.

Thanks for that advice and with regards to the "most blokes dont dance" responce i think im nothing like any of the guys on here.But anyway think it might depend on where i go to dance.I need to get better enviornments to dance in.

pencilsharp

I don't think I dance particularly wel or have much confidence on the dancefloor but I just go out and enjoy myself and have a dance. Honestly I used to feel paranoid that people are looking at me but believe me they're not. Think about it, are you looking at other people dancing? Cos I know I'm not, I'm just having a good time with my friends! Just go and enjoy yourself!

cantdecide

I'm a little phobic about dancing too and there's a lot of pressure to do it. Im always reminded of the YouTube thing "the evolution of dance". Someone made a video reply called "the evolution of dance for the rest of us". You should check it out. It will strike a chord with you, too!!

When I am forced to dance, I'll stick to the tried and tested moves. No one will notice you using the same moves repeatedly. Just try to groove along with the music. As mentioned, no one is looking at you.