21 Bi, No experience with girls or guys. Need advice

trevbren

I'm gonna ask my question, then u can read the explanation! HOW DO I SNOG SOMEONE?

Hey guys. I've posted a few things over the last few weeks. How do i chat up and pull guys and girls, and how would I go about meeting up with lads privately.

But I forgot to ask a crucial question.

Now just before I get into this, please dont think I'm sad. I'm just not into clubs, which is where all the lads want to go. Its my own fault that I never did anything about this sooner. Right here goes.

I'm 21, a virgin on both sides and my sexual experiences are snogging two girls (badly) when I was in secondary school (1 in 2nd year and 1 in 3rd year). I'm not sad or a loner or anything. I'm actually very popular (and not bad looking... it think), just not really into going out. I've copped on to figure out that I have to get into it if I'm going to meet someone. So long story short, got some great advice on how to chat up people, so I'm going to put it into practice. BUT HOW DO I SNOG SOMEONE?

Is there any easy techniques ye could tell me about lads? Also I'm a virgin. My knob isnt huge, just over 5.5. Honestly now, can the job be done right when he's only that size? Beginners techniques on that score would be appreciated aswel lads.

Also girls, is physical appearance a big issue, or do ye really go for personality? I'm not chubby, I just have a big build. I'm broad and stocky. Not toned or muscled. I'm kinda conscious about the way I look and have a habit of having a "whats the point" attitude, when it comes to going out.

So thats it. I'd appreciate feedback guys.

cafecolour

trevbren wrote: »

how would I go about meeting up with lads privately.

http://gaydar.co.uk

It's the most popular site in Ireland.. Be warned it can be frustrating at times - people can be flaky, and of course, people also exaggerate themselves on the internet. But with some perseverance, you can find someone you like and some people to chat with.

Note:

- Don't let yourself be pressured into doing anything you don't want to. Just because you meet doesn't obligate you to do anything physical (or anything 'further' than you want to).

- Always meet with someone in a public place first (say a coffee house).

- And, of course, always have safe sex with a condom. If he says it's okay because he doesn't have any diseases, he's probably lying - anyone who's having unprotected sex off the internet probably has diseases.

trevbren

Thanks a mil cafe. Joined gaydar, but they want a subscription fee, which I'm not prepared to pay. And dont worry man, I wont be pressured into anything. I just wanna get close to a guy and see what its like. Thanks for takin the time to reply man, I appreciate it!

shellyboo

5.5 is totally normal and average. A woman's vagina is only about 4" long anyhow, so massive ginormo penises tend to just be uncomfortable. As far as experimenting with guys goes, hopefully you won't be delving into anal sex right away (takes time & trust for something so delicate), so size isn't an issue at all.
Don't fret!

SarahG91

Yes OP, according to wikipedia: "a mean erect human penis is approximately 12.9–15.0 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_penis_size

So that means you are just about average length. There's nothing wrong with that.

Bear in mind that most of the penises you might see in porn are much larger than average and give a distorted sense of what is "normal." These men end up in porn precisely because they are very well endowed.

I can't speak for men, but many girls do like the sensation of their vaginas being pleasantly stretched and filled. The thickness of the shaft is important here, though! Most men tend to focus on length but ignore girth.

cafecolour

trevbren wrote: »

Thanks a mil cafe. Joined gaydar, but they want a subscription fee, which I'm not prepared to pay. And dont worry man, I wont be pressured into anything. I just wanna get close to a guy and see what its like. Thanks for takin the time to reply man, I appreciate it!

You can use it fine w/o the subscription - it just limits the number of msgs you can send and profiles you can view per day. Most people just exchange msn handles if they want to chat for a bit.

trevbren

Just to keep the post fresh, any other opinions wiuld be greatly appreciated folks. Also Happy St. Patricks Day!

trevbren

Just keeping the post fresh guys! Cheers.

HugoDrax

I find that if you have been sitting and talking to a girl for ages and you don't know where the time has gone you are onto a winner. Girls will keep brushing their hair with their hands, rubbing their neck and giving you a dreamy look if they want you to kiss them. If you go for a kiss she is either going to say yes or no or maybe so you have a two out of three chance. If you are getting nowhere you can just leave and go talking to some other girl. No big deal.