BelongTo Events

LegacyUser

Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone here is involved with BelongTo? I've recently decided to bite the bullet and....not exactly come out :P....but to at least try and get involved with a group like this, because I'm getting frustrated that I can never meet any bi/lesbian girls!! But I know it's my own fault really because I'm not out. I just wish I could meet girls in everyday life and everyday pubs/clubs as I'm not really into the whole 'gay scene'. There seems to be a serious shortage of bi/les girls in Dublin!! :P

So anyway, I had a look at the BelongTo website and was wondering if anyone had gone to it on Sundays? Or I see there's an Over 18s Group too?

What exactly does the group do - just meet up and hang out or do they organise things to do in the city centre or nights out, pub crawls etc.? Would all their members be out to their friends/families? I'd feel it would offend them if I went along to the group but then always had to be real shifty if any friends happened to bump into us

Thank you for reading this

Chuchoter

Me personally I didn't think a massive amount of it (too sunshiney, slightly misleading about some issues) but its great for meeting people. Not everyone is out at all and everyone will understand if you have to keep straight friends and gay friends separate
If you can I'd try the thing on Thursdays specifically for girls, purely because to my memory there I was one of the only girls at the Sunday one

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice! Aw...'sunshiney' doesn't sound like me at all lol. I might try the Thursday one then or the over 18s group.

The more I read about it though, the more I'm thinking it's not for me I just want to meet girls and hang out, go for a drink, table quizes, cinema etc. I'm not really the type to be involved with the gay scene so sitting around talking about being gay and promoting gay issues isn't really my cup of tea, although I understand that it is a youth group for bi/gays so I guess that's what people want.

Any other tips on meeting girls in Dublin?

rainbow kirby

If you're over 18, maybe try Running Amach?

Aoifums

I'm not sure about the over 18's group or Ladybirds (the Thursday group) but I know that the Sunday group doesn't do pubcrawls or nights to the cinema. A lot of members are under 18 so they can't do those things. And not everyone has an excuse to go out late, especially if they're still in school. I know there are trips to the cinema but they'd be at 3pm or so.
You don't sit around and talk about "being gay". You sit around with a cup of tea for a while, then you go downstairs and go over the rules and then there is an activity. That can be arts and crafts, a speaker or just some other activity.

If you head along, don't worry about not being out. I wasn't out to anyone when I first went along and it gave me that little boost to come out to my friends. They don't mind if you're nervous. I was actually shaking like a leaf for the first half hour there

WhosUpDocs

rainbow kirby wrote: »

If you're over 18, maybe try Running Amach?

Is there anything like this for guys? Also, what are the belongto 18+ nights like? Anyone been to one?

Aishae

i have the very same problem - i know a lesbian couple from when i worked in animal rescue sevral years ago and i know a girl i went to primary school with - learned a year ago she's a lesbian too. but i don't want to go on the scene either. i do suspect there are more lesbians in the wide and varied circle of people i know as most people dont advertise their sexuality.
i joined okcupid.com - just to maybe meet new les/bi girls. not necesaarily to meet up, just chat via email and if i end up having a drink with people - wehey. its not the aim though. ive found theres more lesbians in dublin than you might think though

LegacyUser

I joined the Running Amach thing so hopefully I'll have the courage to go on one of the meet ups soon :P

Maybe I'm just being too negative but, while the group seems like a very friendly and active bunch of women, they all seem to be 30+. I don't mean to be ageist as I have many friends of all ages, but it would just be nice to meet some lesbians/bi girls my age in Dublin

rainbow kirby

Are you in college? If you are, then college LGBT societies would be another option for you. I know that when I was in UCD the society was very active and would have several coffee mornings and a night out nearly every week.

LegacyUser

rainbow kirby wrote: »

Are you in college? If you are, then college LGBT societies would be another option for you. I know that when I was in UCD the society was very active and would have several coffee mornings and a night out nearly every week.

Thanks rainbow kirby. All good advice yis are giving and I guess it's my own fault that I don't take it!!

I am in college, but joining the LGBT soc would involve coming out. You could argue I could get involved while not coming out, but college is a small world!!

I might build up the courage and join next year! Thanks for all the advice guys Maybe you do lgbt meetups/nights out here on boards.ie?

rainbow kirby

We do have a forum beers every now and then. Last one was a few months ago...

/strokes chin

Annasopra

rainbow kirby wrote: »

We do have a forum beers every now and then. Last one was a few months ago...

/strokes chin

feel free to organise ;-)

Annasopra

shyandbi wrote: »

I am in college, but joining the LGBT soc would involve coming out. You could argue I could get involved while not coming out, but college is a small world!!

You don't need to come out to join a college LGBT soc. They are usually quite respectful and they know that people may not be out

LegacyUser

Thanks johnny!

A boards.ie meetup would be awesome

Another quick question - are there any Irish lesbian/bi dating websites out there. Or any dating websites in general that have bi/lesbian girls on it? Never did the whole online dating before but I'm getting sick of never meeting any girls!

Celticbard

shyandbi I am on the exact same page as you and have no idea how to meet girls in Dublin. I decided to bite the bullet myself and explore a few gay bars recently but found it was mostly gay guys and what seemed to be straight girls. As for dating websites im not sure if there is any specifically for women, if you find any let me know ;-)

Aishae

theres a fair few on ok cupid - okcupid.com. but i havent heard of what other sites are out there - with irish l/b women on it.

LegacyUser

I might go on okcupid so!

@Celticbard, maybe I'll see you there