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Dont know what to think

  • 10-03-2011 5:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So basically i split up with my ex girlfriend about a year ago which i found so so hard and i'm still not fully over it, my last contact with her was in novemeber just before she was moving home to england for good, i tried hard to get her to give us one more chance but she wouldnt, for a while i found it hard to maintain the no contact thingy and would text her most weekends but she would never replay which was a real killer.

    Then cue the weekend just gone i was checking my emails on my phone on sunday and there was 2 emails from her at 4am, one was saying she tried ringing me but could get through to me (my phone was switched off), it also had questions like How are you? and What have you been up to? and then the second mail she asked me to ring her and she gave me her number(which i didnt have) i rang her later and we had a nice civilised conversation without going into anything major, i then text her later saying it was great to talk to her and i still miss her, to which she replied it was nice to talking to you to and maybe you could come over for a weekend sometime.

    my head is in overdrive now, i really still do love this girl and move over if she gave us another shot(even though i have a good full time job here)

    I was with the girl for close to 4 years, do you think maybe she was just drunk and lonely that night and said "i'll ring John" or do you think maybe she would like to see me again?


Comments

  • #2
    DeadlyTwig
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 112 ✭✭DeadlyTwig


    Well first of all, please don't get too ahead of yourself. I know its easier said than done but don't be thinking of moving over just yet!! You sound exactly how I would act in this situation but its important not to overthink the situation.

    There is a very good chance that she does want to see you ago. The phrase 'you don't know what you have until it's gone' is around for a reason.

    But don't jump in with two feet. Take things slowly if you do decide to go see her. Its easy to think that you can slip back into a relationship. I know, I've been there! But it would be like starting all over again.

    So by all means talk to her in a day or two. But don't start quizzing her on if she wants to get back together and why did she change her mind. Get to know her again first!!

    Hope all works out well :)


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the great advise, I'm going over to her next weekend for the weekend, the thing is she was the one who instigated me going over for the weekend and i'm looking forward to seeing her, its been 5 months since i last saw her.

    i'm just going to have a good time with her and not even bring up getting back together


  • #4
    curlzy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,708 ✭✭✭curlzy


    Have a good think. Why did you break up? What has changed since then? Could you really give it another go? Could she? Do you want to? Are you maybe just lonely? Those are good questions to ask yourself. TBH if you don't think you could/should get back together then you probably shouldn't visit her, it could set you back months! You could be right back at heartbreak central and have to go through everything again, is it worth it?


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